Husband has told me he is going to Thailand.

[Ilivetosleep]

My husbands older brother turns 50 this year. He is married and hads a new born baby. This afternoon when I got home from work ,my husband has declared that him, his brother, his nephew and two of their cousins are going to Thailand for his 50th. He hasn't mentioned this to me before and we have 4 kids and custody of my niece. Would you find this odd and worrying??

i will never ever visit the country
the way to make governments address issues is to hit them where they hurt
financially
and if tourism was impacted, the government would crack down hard

A group of men going to Thailand isn't suspicious at all. They won't be going around in a tuk tuk listening to a custom made CD of "Jimmy Saville sings Gary Glitter's greatest love songs in duet with Boy George" or anything like that..

Oh look, OP's husband has joined the thread!

You are being very very very disingenious.

What's with Boy George ??

Id give anything to go to Thailand and I can assure you im not a sex tourist or creepy predator. I’d also love to take my kids there!

Everything you've said on this thresd OP is exactly the discussion you should be having with DH. I'd mention you are worried about his brothers reputation for cheating and the reason you suspect Thailand is the destination. I'd also say your worried about STDs if he gets involved, especially after drinking. It may or may not make a difference but at least it would give him a chance to have a good think about all the possibilities.

So funny with all those hollier-than-thou posters who are pretending they know nothing about Thailand's huge and thriving sex industry and that everyone who mentions it are racist. Right! Because turning the blind eye to human trafficking, sex abuse and the plight of the extremely poor is soooo woke.

Silence enables abusers, criminals, and those who like to take advantage of others. I will not be quiet! I will rock the boat!

If mine went I wouldn't have him back. A group of men going is about sex and exploitation. God knows what he will bring back.

I'd also be interested to know where the money is coming from and how I'd be expected to manage all the DC.

Have you read OP's update? Her husband now claims it was all a "joke" to wind her up that he was going on this jaunt with his skeevy brother.

Jesus what happened to going to the pub for your birthday. My dh has a group of golfing buddies who go to Thailand every year, every one of them married and single pay for sex there. Its disgusting. I don't think he was joking, I think he was testing the water. The main thing is he isn't going though op.

I can see I can't change your viewpoint, and you can't change mine. You are entitled to your opinion. I'm sorry I forgot that.

Oh, he's hilarious, isn't he? Is that what passes for 'rugby humour'? What a prat.

It's good this isn't actually happening OP but I think I'd be having a serious chat about what 'wind ups' are acceptable in the way of fun and what wind ups are down right cruel.

Why don’t you just come out with it and voice your suspicions about the sex tourism? I would say it straight away if my DH said he was going to Thailand on a boys holiday!

Oh just seen the update! NM 😅

@Ilivetosleep a good friend of mine goes
there most years and it definitely isn't for sex ( absolutely no reason not to be honest with me) he says it's a beautiful country with friendly people and loads to do ❤️

Maybe.

Would be interested in his reaction if you suggested going along with him next time.

@Ilivetosleep I’d be sending a link to this thread (or a similar one) to all the wives and mums of those going. At the very least some of them might put a stop to some of the guys (or at least the nephew) going!

Some of these comments are like nonce apologists bingo.

I honestly wasn't expecting such a response. I've read it all and I wanted to respond to this. My DH isn't a seedy sex tourist.Yes I was annoyed at home as he dropped this on me as we were passing after work. He was taking one of our older sons to Rugby and I was off out with my niece and 13 year old daughter to Gynmastics. My mum was there to baby sit for the other two. He thought it would be funny to drop this on me as we both know what his brother and cousins are like. He genuinely didn't think I would take it seriously as we do often prank each other. But I've been really tired this week and my niece father has been extra difficult around contact so I was feeling overly sensitive. I'm not going to end my 25 year relationship over a joke. He was the one who convinced me to seek custody of my niece. I think we probably need some time together to decompress.

Anyway thanks for everyone taking time to respond.

Certain areas give you the “girlfriend experience” for the duration of your holiday and subsequent holidays. He may not think he is taking part in sex tourism but he is.

Don’t be so ridiculous, it was meant as a joke, okay it was a bit much but red flag 🙄just get your own back one day OP and wind him up.

Too true!

The cousins are not married or in relationships. Only BIL.