Daughter sleeping around

[SarahBeez]

Help please. My 16 year old daughter I think is well brought up, we love her lots and she gets lots of attention as we do dance with her every weekend. We openly talk about sex and contraception but she never admits to much.

she’s in a group of friends and she’s having casual relationships (which always ends with her cheating on them!) and has had sex with 5 boys already that I know of. Most just one night.

shes getting a reputation and every time she does it there’s repercussions (ie her friends all fall out with her as it’s someone’s boyfriend, or they hate her for what she did to a boyfriend or people say she’s a slag etc she and I find this v stressful) it’s never a quiet thing. Sometimes she’s drunk sometimes she’s not. She’s 17 in June.

im starting to dislike her and I’ve said some really nasty stuff myself as I can’t stop her! we know all the parents and know they all talk. She’s bringing shame on the family. How do I stop her??

One night stands aren’t usually the best way to have the most enjoyable sex.

Honestly I thought that some of the attitudes on here went out with the ark. It's so depressing.

I assure you they can be!😊

She’s probably lacking attention and quality mum / dad time, and has poor self esteem so is seeking affection and attention from boys instead. Being horrible to her is not the answer. Getting her to a counsellor might help to improve her self esteem and self worth so she doesn’t feel the need to self soothe in that way.

If you don’t know what more you can do in terms of quality time….. ask her.

Men have hormones too tbf. Testosterone is a huge factor governing their behaviour and their increased propensity for violence.

Unpleasant as the small town gossiping may be, I'd fear for her safety if she were to move to the city and become a swinger.

you’d fear for her safety because moving to the city = swingers?

i hate to break it to you but swingers come from all walks of life and the ones i’ve met have always lived in small villages and towns.

also swinging is not dangerous behaviour?

I have a just 17 year old boy (and we live in a small town) and I would also find this kind of behaviour - especially the sleeping with friends girlfriends - really unpleasant and tacky. I certainly wouldn't admire it and I don't know anyone who would. My friends son in his early 20s was up to similar recently in her small town, and bringing the girls back to her house unbeknownst to her and she read him the riot act.

That was in reply to me
^ScrollingLeaves · Yesterday 23:31*
One night stands aren’t usually the best way to have the most enjoyable sex.

I said usually for that reason.

Of course there are some very confident girls who can choose who they want, and enjoy the excitement, flirting and adrenaline.

There are lots of girls though who put themselves out as low hanging fruit for semi drunk boys. The sex more often than not is hardly going to be wonderful, nor is the way they are going to be treated.

Because that's a far, far less likely scenario.
Most girls who do this regret it when they're older. They weren't doing it out of a love of sex.

And I would associate no strings sex with a lack of drama, not 'no strings sex' while cheating on your boyfriend, or 'no strings sex' with your friends boyfriends.