Partner tried to ruin my trip - part 2

[Random100]

Just creating a new thread as the old one has filled up quickly!

I wanted to respond to this but forgot. Yes I agree he’ll no doubt be back on the dating apps already.

In fact a big red flag I should have taken notice of was when he told me he was on tinder a couple days after the split with the woman before me. They were together five years (apparently).

I do feel bad for the next woman he finds and I hope she sees the red flags immediately.

Thank you

I am also very happy I posted this thread in the first place. I finally got the reassurance I think I needed to end it and realise that I wasn’t going crazy, he was in fact just an absolute idiot and I needed rid asap.

Good on you @Random100 You are doing so well.

I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years before meeting DH. (In fact, DH was my rebound relationship and he put up with me crying on his shoulder for a year before I twigged he was probably the one..... 20 happy years now!!!).

I think that what others have said is the case- if you are a person who does not play mind games or emotional games it can be a bit unsettling to be faced with that. You don't recognise it because it is not how your mind works. So you twist yourself into knots thinking what you did to cause their behaviour. If only you could predict them better, or be better in some way then they would not treat you like that. That is what abusers thrive on. You think that perhspas they are possibly the normal person in the relationship and you are lacking in some way or too demanding or too- much.

Thankfully you saw it and got out. I wish I had been able to extricate myself sooner. It because very physically violent in the end and I still thought that if only I better anticipated what would set him off then I could 'fix' it all.

Five years? Golly gosh what a masochist she was!