Anybody else desperately trying not to contact a guy?

[FuckSakeGetAGrip]

I am, and it's honest to god wrecking me.

Please tell me someone else is struggling too.

I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine...

What did it say @wiggywoowoo ?

Just something quite generic that he could have said on group chat. But where would be the fun in that!?

Guys. I'm just gonna say.

Literally all the guys being discussed here are dicks. Basic dicks.

Reading all your posts has made it so totally clear to me. It's funny really. We've all been totally scammed by these fuckboys.

Let's collectively get a fucking grip!

I've caved and messaged mine about something funny at work. He's replied but just in a basic-not-interested-in-a-chat-way. At least he's asked me if I'm feeling better rather than the "still breathing?" Post I got yesterday

Completely agree!! I mean mine can be a nice guy but I don’t know why I’ve been putting up with his shit.
We need to stick together. Every time I’ve thought about messaging him this thread has stopped me.

Yes, from now on I'm going to post in here. What's wrong with me? Literally just had great sex with hubby too. Why am I such a twat?

@FuckSakeGetAGrip I’m grateful to you for starting this thread. How are you doing?

I'm the OP with a NC.

I've failed a bit this week. But I do still feel better. I'd like to try to get back to some sort of mates-type status, but if he's not into it, then I think I'll just block him soon.

If we're not going to communicate then why keep him in my phone, never mind my life or my mind.

It's the mind. He's in my thoughts every 5 minutes! Why? I'm ok, have a nice life. I wish he'd bugger off!

Oh sorry. Hope I’ve not messed up. Good for you for trying. Tbf this is about the 25th time I’ve tried

Let him be there. Don’t try to fight it. But then realise he’s the fantasy not the reality

No it's grand I NC a lot!

The last message isn't far off, I feel it. Through this whole thing I've been very aware that I can't control it, and that I just need to go right through it and feel all of it, every stage. Unfortunately.

I think I'm mostly past sad, and more at a 'WTF is his problem' stage so the end can't be far off.

It's just sad. I liked my life better with him in it as my friend.

I do get it. I want to be friends with mine too but I want my marriage more. I could meet him as a friend I know that but I’d still have to lie and I just don’t want to. I’m sorry you’re sad but it will get better x

I mean I'm a bit sad at how things all played out but not that much really. He's helped by revealing himself as a bit of an immature dick tbh.

I think I'm reaching my 'god, get over yourself mate' era...

Sounds like you’re in the same place as me @WeDreamInPhosphoresence

It's quite nice when they do/say something that makes you realise they are just dicks, isn't it? I think that's why I sent mine the message I did, I need something to make me angry so I could stop all this. I knew it never would stop otherwise.

My DH is away this weekend so I am going to need a lot of willpower not to text him Saturday night!!

Hope you are all ok x

Mine is definitely an immature dick.
For instance, he will often instigate a conversation and I am quite chatty over WhatsApp so chat away then he will just send me a random animal emoji. His current favourite is a badger 🦡. He won't even respond with words

So I managed not to get too sucked in tonight but I'm like a moth to the flame!

I can't see how this is going to end well at all.

😂😂
Why?!!

Wtaf 😁

I dunno. He has told me that when he sends emojis he just sends random ones and they're meaningless.
He responds a lot with emojis. We were going to meet up recently but he could only give me 2 dates in a 6 week period and I didn't want to be too available when he didn't t seem too keen. He said he was "struggling" to find an evening free and didn't say "but would like to make it etc" so I wasn't going to just roll over and be available on those two dates he was shoehorning me in so I said I wasn't free (even though I am) and his response wasn't "that's a shame" or "never mind, maybe next month". His response was just a badger emoji 🦡

Mine is also an immature dick. He likes the word frigid which I haven’t heard in years. And also I told him I needed to not speak to him for a bit due to my mental health. He texted me two days later. I didn’t say much at first just being polite then when he had a go at me I said I told you I needed space then he told me to leave him to it and that he wasn’t in a good place right now! He always makes it about him. If I say anything he says I’m looking into stuff too deeply

@Boredbutcantstopscrolling if you feel the temptation come here! We got you

EW. That word is so disrespectful. That's a red flag right there.