Anybody else desperately trying not to contact a guy?

[FuckSakeGetAGrip]

I am, and it's honest to god wrecking me.

Please tell me someone else is struggling too.

I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine...

Yes

This was asking me about where my chess partner is. Because he's a man so obviously he would be in my bed (??)

Good lord. Hard to know he's got you pegged as someone who routinely fucks around.

You know, a similar thing happened to me with a friend I had confided in about Bloke - also a guy. He ended up hitting on me and I thought...because of what I'd told him he now considers me as someone who's open to being generally unfaithful. He got blocked too.

Exactly. This (Mr Jealous) guy was good friends with my ex, and also with me.

Targeted me less than a week after my ex moved out.

2 months later, reveals his true character.

There were pages of these sorts of messages but too much information for me to redact.

I’m having a bit of a wobble today, wondering if he is ok…….silly silly me. Not going to check in though, those days are gone.

He is definitely ok @liveinthesticks he's a grown man and doesn't need you checking in on him; that's for you, not him.

Go and do something else, it's a beautiful day out there.

Yep you’re so right, garden here I come 🤣😊

It will pass @liveinthesticks. Not checking on you is he? I’m realising one of the reasons I kept it going is because I knew when I stopped I’d have to face up to what I’ve done. Now I am and I feel bad really bad

Thank you 🙏, I’ve been doing so well & no he isn’t checking to see how I am.
Wish I had this thread 18 months ago before I got embroiled in worrying about a grown up fuck wit, who’s life’s problems are all self inflicted.
Attention now diverted back to my family - needed some wise words.
Think it’s because I’m stressed with work & he ended up being my go to.

Good. I am also finding the pleasure in peace and life’s little things. Hopefully the regret and guilt I’m feeling will pass with time

You will get there.
Onwards & upwards 😊.
Ive just planted a load of flower seeds, the little things that make me happy xx

Sounds lovely ☺️ I can’t undo the past but I can be better now and I’m determined it’s finished. I just never ever thought I’d get into this

I don’t think any of us did.
its a life saver this thread to read & jump on with our thoughts, so none of us are alone in our quest to stop .

That really helps actually x

Yes I totally get that. The presence of it is better than reflecting on it.

(I'm the OP under yet another name change by the way.)

And... He's blocked me.

Which is probably the best thing he's ever done for me.

Bloody hell to it all.

Ah, love @Frith2013

❤️❤️❤️

It really is for the best.

One day it will all be in the past & done with x

I read somewhere that it takes 66 days to break a habit. And that's all it is. I'm a third of the way already and I'm going to break it. I've been thinking about some of the things he said and did and realised if we'd both been single I would never have dated him. I'm glad it happened though. I didn’t appreciate what I already had and this lesson with someone else could have cost much more than my pride.

66 days huh? I think I'm maybe on...4.

@JustWannaBeWorthIt 1 day at a time. I hope by 66 days I don’t think about him at all and when I make it that far, if I do have a wobble, I can remind myself that if I've managed 2 months without him then he's not that important to me. I'm just watching my husband play with our daughter and I don’t think I've ever found anyone so attractive. I've been such a dick.

I'm on day 3 lol.

I'm pretty much fine really.

Would like my mate back though.

Thank you. Do you think I’ll get over the guilt? I mean obviously it needs to be there to prevent anything physical happening but will I learn to forgive myself?