Anybody else desperately trying not to contact a guy?

[FuckSakeGetAGrip]

I am, and it's honest to god wrecking me.

Please tell me someone else is struggling too.

I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine...

Yes @drad - you will be ok!

I, on the other hand, am a complete idiot and contacted him at the weekend. We messaged a bit - then I told him I would be around where he works tomorrow if he wants to meet and radio silence since -that was yesterday evening.
I am a dope -I am not going to contact him and then tomorrow evening I have two options as I see it:
1 - block him and say nothing
2 - send him a note - saying "Clearly you never had any intention of meeting me, and I think I know why.Goodbye" and then block him.

I think he is still with his wife -why else would he be avoiding meeting me constantly.

Mine comes back from holiday in a few days but I’ve no intention of messaging him

Sort of like that at the end but for years before it wasn't that. That's the bit I miss.

This so applies to my situation. He only arranged things when it suited him. Sending ne messages to keep me on the hook.

Trying to avoid him at work is difficult. Have gone to a different floor for my lunch to hige from.him

Hide from.him I meant to type 😀

I want to rage at him that he led me on and used me. Kept me hanging on for breadcrumbs. Let me slowly realise he wasn't interested which has bern painful and made me question my own behaviour etc 😡

Struggling today a bit. He just carries on like nothing happened

I honestly want to smash his head in today. Started off all friendly and bought me a coffee in and now he isn't coming for drinks after because he's made plans to phone someone abroad! Everyone always goes for drinks! He's also been a bit intense and abrupt today.
Think I'm just angry because he's not made any effort and has now made plans despite the usual thing of drinks afterwards (which we normally get very cosy at). Think I'm just feeling upset and rejected .

It's normal to feel that way but maybe this is the low point that I referred to in earlier posts. It's when HE feels like it. This is a clear signal to you that you are going in the right direction away from him! He is trying to punish you - is this someone who is your friend?

Honestly @drad why are you giving this man headspace. He clearly doesn’t give a fuck.

And now I’m thinking I want to text mine! Why can’t I take my own advice 🙈

Think I'm feeling a bit 'ick' today! Would be amazing if I could suddenly just not like him anymore.

Sorry Drad that sucks. He doesn't sound very interested.

What shall I do?

Don't text!

I had something nice happen today which relates to him and our shared past, and I so want to tell him, but I won't, can't.

It's this stuff that really sits with me.

@wiggywoowoo i know that’s the obvious but it’s a lovely distraction and the more I ignore the more he wants ne.

What do you need distracted from? Can we help? Could with a distraction myself.

Go to bed- seriously some nights the best thing to do to stop texting! Or write the message in the notes app on your phone…

I've managed by texting someone else instead about my news; I told my husband but he wasn't arsed which hasn't helped.

I can't guarantee I won't text him about it. But I didn't today.

You know that is just an excuse . Any contact even negative seems better to you than none? Don't do it.

Brains in overdrive can't sleep. I just want to message him to tell.him to stop texting me.

He'll message a couple of times a week either on my phone or at work to tell me stuff going on in his life.

I know he's been using me. Just feel angry and used. Pointless telling him cos he knows I do know that. Hate seeing him every day. Want to cry but can't. Have this heavy feeling in my chest all the time I can't shift it

I want to say 'I recognise you are pulling away. It would have been better for you to be honest with me and give me a clean break'

Just come across this thread. A situation shop
I've been in for almost 6 months ended yesterday and I'm in a bit of a state

There's no point @chasegirl he already knows what he did.

@Clytemnestra21 do you wanna talk about it?

You poor thing- I understand how you feel. One day at a time- you can do it. Journal, use your notes app to write any messages you want to send down.. anything but send the message. So hard but you can do it

@winc thank you! Yea it's hard. I check my phone every few minutes. Wish he'd contact me.

I managed to sleep a bit after I first posted. Supposed to be in the office today but can't face it. Also supposed to be seeing old friends tonight who I haven't seen for a while and I can't face them either. I don't want to be alone but not many people in my life knew I was having this relationship so opportunities for support are quite limited.

I really want to know how he's feeling but if I contact him I think I'll feel worse right?