Anybody else desperately trying not to contact a guy?

[FuckSakeGetAGrip]

I am, and it's honest to god wrecking me.

Please tell me someone else is struggling too.

I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine...

Urgh. I miss him. I miss him. I miss him. I miss him. I miss him.

Fuck. Why doesn't it ever end.

These men are not your friend!

You should never allow yourself to be someone's' scum option!

That should say never be someone's option! But yes scum could fit in there too.

Ok, he just messaged me- two messages. Number 1 - I will see you tomorrow. Number 2- shit, sorry xxx ( my name). One right after the other
now, they were WhatsApp- he could have deleted them?.. what do I do?? Tempted to go back with No problem ( and thumbs up emoji as he knows I hate that one!) Help!!

Or I could be smart and say- glad you are meeting someone ( as he wouldn’t meet me.) the indecision!!

Don't respond. If he's messaged that on purpose he's a manipulative, juvenile twat. But if it was a genuine mistake then he's moved on and isn't interested in you.

Urgh the game playing manipulative immature egotistical dickface 😡

Oh I would say he's definitely done that on purpose. Mine did it a few times until I called him out on it and said it was really obvious.
I would go with silence - it'll bother him more than a 'no problem' - if you think you can manage it! But if you really feel the need to respond don't do your second option as it sounds sarcastic and pissed off/hurt. Which I'm sure is how you're feeling but you don't want him to know it!

@wiggywoowoo how are you doing with yours, you've gone quiet?

@LizaMinnellisFurCoat it really resonated with me when you said that there's something about the way he treats people that has put you off.

Now 4 weeks since I got shitty with mine and told him not to bother messaging me again (and he hasn't)...and 12 days since I messaged him asking how he is (bloody gin) and no response...
I'm doing okay most of the time, just sometimes usually when I'm bored I will check my email (that's how we communicate, no phone numbers) and get sad that he actually hasn't responded. That's why silence is the best way to deal with these things - I wish I was the one dishing out the silence! It makes me wonder what he's thinking, how he can go from constant contact to nothing, does he even care, did he ever care, did he ever mean anything he said to me WHY HASN'T HE RESPONDED (oh yeah, because I told him not to!)
It's the most annoying thing and makes me feel so incredibly small and stupid.
So ladies, if you possibly can hold the silence card, do it. It'll piss them off no end.

Really shit. Feeling awful just trying to do lots of running and working to keep my mind off it.

Are you seeing him any time soon? In a family friend capacity.

Mine has behaved like one at times though

No I don't think so. So that's good. Need to get out of this hell hole.

I felt really good this morning and have just gone down hill since!!

Keep strong @namechangeforthis5 sounds like you've done well!!

Hiya. The countdown is on. I'll see him on Tuesday for a 12 hour project day. I won't always be in same room as him. I'm so nervous. I've had my hair done and I'll be looking my best in a cracking dress (we normally wear frumpy lab coats and I have to tie my hair back ). I just want to feel confident and look good.
Is that bad?

Ah thank you! Why do you feel like you’ve gone downhill @wiggywoowoo ?

I dunno just always down I think! I just feel head over heels in love with him. He's massively hot and cold with me and was quite mean at the weekend. I have no clue what he's thinking. It's driving me insane!!

In a way it doesn't matter what he's thinking @wiggywoowoo

You might be head over heels but he isn't, or he wouldn't be hot and cold.

I've changed some details but it's pretty complicated. Very close to home I dunno you are probably right. Bother ever could happen really in any situation!

Just a bit fucked up.

@wiggywoowoo how was he mean?

So I told him that I'd spoken to a friend and he had said really bad idea blah blah blah would be ultimate betrayal to DH. There was a bit more to it but was pretty brutal but true advice.

Anyway that was that then he just messaged me later the next day with a kinda nasty tone, saying 'I suspect I'm not the only guy you are messaging like is' and ' you have a nice life and family why are you jeopardising that'.. basically you're a fucking slut.. is the way I took it!

I don't know if the words hit home and he felt guilty or jealous because I was talking to another man, or what!

@drad hope next week goes well! One thing for sure how ever things work out I will be looking HOT next time I see my guy lol.

So I went back, a couple of hours after he sent them. Just said ‘no problem’ no emoji, no sarky comment. He read it and no response.. am actually ok with that. Glad I responded- seems the mature thing to do- better than what he does, ghosting!