Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

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Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

So beautifully said, it’s obvious you’ve been there! x

Oh honey you deserve so much better than this scumbag! Block him on all social, block his number, enjoy your holiday and see it as the start of your new life.

I wouldn’t do this Op.

The insurance doesn’t confer ownership and it’s getting close to a theft by conversion action.

Just bung what you don’t need in a bin bag and get safe locker at the airport . Go a little early to allow for this.

Ask him to reimburse you (siphon off and return if he claims he can’t afford) the fuel. Then Rejoice! You’re free!!

Glad you got to the Airport ok op. Try and have a lovely time on holiday.

He's saying he will drop your blongings off to you next week as thats his way of control. He will want to see you and minipulate the situation so you take him back.

Forget about the belongings and delete/block him on everything.

He has not matured emotionally past a young child.

I had one of these.

It did not stop.

As others have said, it's coercive control and abuse.

There will be many poor me excuses but ultimately this is about control and his fundamental belief that he has a right to it.

(And that his rights supercede his partners rights).

He always?

Don't let him keeping being a twat.

Finish it now and block him.

Make sure you block him.

My mum was like this. She spoiled every Christmas, birthday...anything that was meant to be good. As other have said, it's a tactic they use to make sure they are the center of attention, to keep you on your toes & focused on them, even though it's in a negative way.

Your anger at him is your boundary kicking in, it's there to protect you. Listen to it. This person will make your life so miserable.

Don't waste you're time speaking to him. There's no apology that can justify or make up for what he did you you. I wouldn't even pick up my stuff from him, just leave him & everything behind. This person will try to rob you of your peace & sanity.

What a pathetic individual.

Sounds like you don’t live with him aren’t married and don’t have kids. Well done!

I’d forget the clothes and shoes. Send him one text saying you’re over. Then block and ignore. Any nonsense such as turning up at your house etc, call the police.

Get fucking rid.

Please dump him and block him OP. He sounds like a major prick.

This sounds like the perfect time to leave him. Have your holiday and don’t return to him (ever, no matter how much he apologises). Enjoy the rest of your life, without him in it.

£90 is an absolute bargain to be rid of him.

Send a message now ending the relationship and block his number. Have a holiday fling if you like. Enlist a friend to get your stuff back when you get home.

Have an amazing holiday!

Well done OP. You’re away from him. I would suggest arranging for someone to collect your things from his house and then blocking him (unless you have any further shared responsibility). He sounds awful and you do not need to like like this ever again xx

Enjoy your holiday!

I would completely ignore him while you are away, block him in fact so he's not even entering your headspace.

Please please do exactly this, draw a line under this today. Have a great holiday!

As he always comes back apologising the apology is empty and worthless. It’s abuse.

Have a good holiday with your friend and don’t contact him or accept any calls/messages from him.

Well he's had a good attempt at ruining your holiday. Please dump him and block him. It's never going to change.

Sounds like my ex, every christmas, every birthday, any special occasion I'd end up in tears because he would throw his toys out the pram. 10 years since I left, best thing I ever did. Look after yourself x

He was hoping that if he made your life a misery every time you failed to put him at the centre of your world undiluted by others then you’d slowly give up your friends, family, your independent life and once that’s achieved then he would be able grind you down until you’re a shell because he’s too inadequate to have a respectful and equal relationship.

I’m so glad you’ve got a holiday away as a chance to breathe, mentally move on and be out of reach to consolidate your decision. I would also ask for reimbursement of the fuel money in an emotionally neutral way while he’s in the conciliatory phase of his abuse and say no more. Once it’s in your bank just block. If the money doesn’t appear quickly just block anyway.

Have a wonderful holiday and beyond, without this truly sinister piece of shit anywhere near you.

Do not go back to him! If he is bringing your belongings tell him to leave them outside, don’t speak to him in person. He will only continue with this behaviour if you stay with him, it will only get worse eg. If you have kids.

Never go back. Relationships shouldn't be like this

So glad you made it to the airport. I hope you can forget the awful start to your holiday and have a truly wonderful time.

Dealing with him is for when you get back so forget about him now otherwise he will ruin the holiday as well, which was probably his intent all along. Onwards and upwards you're free now

CONGRATULATIONS on your bargain price escape from this man! You don't live with him or, presumably, have any children together, nor are you married to him. It's only cost you £90 and some clothes and trainers to get free! The universe is obviously massively on your side.

If you were to marry, breed or purchase anything with this man your escape would be far more expensive and messy, so please don't entertain the thought. Thank your lucky stars you have the measure of him before you commit to a miserable life.

It may be worth a bit of self-reflection or therapy to explore why you were willing to put up with this as long as you did and put conscious boundaries in place for any future relationships (remembering that boundaries are for you - i.e. if he does X, I will walk away and not come back - not something you try to persuade other people to respect).

Enjoy your holiday!

Hope you are lying on a beach somewhere having a wonderful time. You have 9 pages of amazing women telling you the same thing. Please listen to them.
He will come crawling back, he will make empty promises. Be brave be strong and don't look back. This is the start of your new life without that piece of crap.

does he have a bipolar? this is beyond ridiculous.