Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

[Random100]

Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

I'd tell him you don't want the stuff back or to see him again and to bin it and never contact you again and block him on everything so you can go enjoy your holiday. This is the start of your new peaceful, reduced stress life. Enjoy.

Imagine dealing with this crap if you had kids with him?
Please do not go back to this guy.
He needs to recognise he's got issues and get up off his hole and do something about it. Don't enable him any longer.

This

He actually sounds bonkers. Totally screwed up.

I'd ignore him for now. Block him for the week. Collect your stuff when you get back.

You're well shot of this lunatic.

Stand firm and don't listen to his pleading.

You poor thing. He sounds vile.
He will always make your life a misery.

Tell him you're done and to p*ss off permanently. Enjoy your holiday with your friend and enjoy being free of this immature, nasty man!

Why on Earth are you still with this abusive man if you aren’t tied by children together, or living together? Leave him, now.

Don't let his ruin your holiday
Block him and have a great time. Worst he cam do is ruin your sneakers and few shirts.

Now you're away from him Op, don't read his messages, he'll only try to manipulate you. People like him know when they've pushed too hard and he'll up his game, either big commitments like getting engaged or he'll talk about having nothing to live for, either way, it's the same old shit. Do yourself a big favour and don't listen to him

Remember this op once you're back from hols
Remember!!!!!!

Lucky you! The trash took itself out. Have a fabulous holiday and raise a glass or several to freedom and happiness.

Try to put it all behind you and have a good holiday. Then remember this feeling when you come home and DO NOT let him put you through another episode ever again. Tell him what you told us, you don’t want to be with him anymore, he’s exhausting and spoils everything good in your life.

(I hope you meet someone fabulous on holiday!)

@Random100 Leave this absolute Scrote.

Your life will be so much better afterwards.

He’s vile.

I'm so sorry, this is horrible. I was with a man like this, and I luckily stumbled upon some YouTube videos about narcissistic abuse and a lightbulb went off in my head. It sounds like your guy is manipulative, abusive and narcissistic. Sadly these types rarely change. What happened with me was that my ex spent a long time chipping away at my self-esteem and sanity, so it got harder and harder to see what was happening (abuse) and harder to think of leaving. But when I started learning about personality disorders and emotionally manipulative people, I realised I had to get out, and knowing I wasn't alone, that other people had gone through the same thing and were now living much happier, more empowered lives, gave me the strength to leave.

I've done a lot of therapy since then, and so I was able to make a much better choice with my next relationship. We are happily married now - seven years. I had to come to believe that I am worthy of a kind and wonderful man who is devoted to me and adds a huge amount of value to my life. I'd rather be alone than have anything less than that. Once you know that, you won't accept anything less.

OP, just wanted to say I hope you enjoy your holiday! Have a fabulous time!

The nerve of him asking why you got an uber! I would just ignore the message.

What an absolute fucking bastard he is. My ex husband used to do this, moment I was out would be kicking off and ‘oh I was going to take you to the pub’ ( never happened in our entire marriage) fuck him off and never look back, have a lovely holiday x

However much you love him, you need to love yourself more. Don't look back, you won't regret it. He is a bloody man child that can't cope when the attention is on someone else.

Its already been said but what a sad, pathetic loser. Hes an abuser and I hope you never ever go back to him. He can’t stand you enjoying yourself without him being in control so he’s ruining it for you. You deserves so much better than this.

If you can 100% do without your left belongings, I would just block him now and have a wonderful trip and then go back to your own place on return and just completely cut contact. You don’t need to be with someone who tries to ruin all of the happy/exciting events in your life, how bloody draining.

Make this your fresh start. What a miserable, sad bastard he is!

It’s not often that MNers all have the same opinion.
That just proves how bad this man is.

Be aware that he will try and use the stuff that you’ve left as a way to keep controlling you.

Ask a friend to go with you to collect it or just tell him to chuck it all away out.
Then block him and stay strong, no talking things through or even acknowledging him.

Piece of shit. Good bloody riddance.
I would block him on everything now.
And forget about the bag of clothes. A few items of clothing and a pair of trainers are not worth letting this asshole back in your life.
Enjoy your holiday.

I don’t want to be with him anymore, it’s exhausting.

So don't.

What a horrible little man. Enjoy your holiday, use it as a chance to think about what you want. This is the first day of the rest of your life. Don't let that awful man back in.

I'd finish with him before he gets on the plane so I'd be free to snog as many local guys as I wanted to.

Whilst you are shackled to this man baby, you won't have the opportunity to meet someone decent.

Classic narcissist behaviour. Block and delete him and arrange for a friend to collect your items from his if you desperately want them back, but have no further contact of any kind with him.

£90 is a small loss in comparison with what you will lose emotionally if you continue to be with this man. Have a really lovely holiday and congratulate yourself on being free from this horrible person.

I mean why are you even tolerating him in your life?? Sounds completely dysfunctional

He is a manchild and a manuipulative gaslighter. Block and bin him now.