Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

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Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

Classic Narcissist behaviour
https://medium.com/@empathicwarrior/why-do-narcissists-spoil-holidays-and-special-events-2115e3364555#:~:text=The%20Grandiosity%20Complex,of%20thinking%20can%20be%20toxic.

He doesn't want you to enjoy anything that doesn't revolve around him!

Block him & go and enjoy your holiday.

It shouldn't be this hard, remember that!

You know it was deliberate, right? He planned this to stop you from going away. He offered the lift because he wanted all along to pull the offer last minute so you wouldn't be able to make your flight.

His tactic didn't work because you got an Uber and now he is crawling back because he realises he's gone too far this time.

For your sanity and peace, you NEED to block him while you're away because he will bombard you with texts and calls, etc, because the worst thing to him is that you are not constantly thinking about him, now that his plan to sabotage your holiday has failed.
Don't spend every day responding to texts and trying to placate him. It will ruin you and your friends holiday and make the holiday all about him.

Take back control. Tell him you are blocking him for the duration of the holiday if you must, to give yourself time to think about what you want when you come back.

I feel a holiday romance coming on...

He has major form for causing a drama when there’s some sort of occasion. Last time was a few weeks ago at my friend’s 40th. He ended up not going after kicking off about something so minor I can’t even remember what it was. It always starts when there’s something happening and I had a horrible feeling he’d do something like this today, I should have listened to my gut.

He has the mentality of an attention-seeking toddler. Run for the hills.

OP, imagine if you let him back into your life and had children with him. Imagine all this drama and misery, but with no escape for the next 20 years because he’d have access to the children. Imagine never waking up from the nightmare you’ve endured with him.

Then never see or speak to him again!

Enjoy your holiday and the rest of your life xx

Please bin this absolute loser. Not read all the replies but assume everyone is saying the same. Where do these loser men crawl out from? Enjoy your holiday.

Ah, so his plan didn't work. Must suck to be him. Consider £90 your ticket to freedom from this pathetically controlling bastard.

Block and enjoy your holiday.

Wait, what?? Presumably you don't live together. Do you have children or some other tie that I'm overlooking? I genuinely don't see how you haven't dumped him off yet if he's just some bloke...

Holiday is a great place to get over a break-up though! Dump him by text, block him then enjoy your time away!!

Please delete and block this horrible plonker. I can see him incessantly calling and texting harassing you during your holiday.

Tell him to bin your stuff, then block him and fly off into the sunrise.

I hope you have a great holiday and are able to get away from the arsehole and the shit weather.

What the actual fuck is wrong with all these men?

Tell him to get rid of the clothes you've left. Celebrate losing 12 stone of dead weight by buying some lovely new ones, it will
be money well spent. Have a really wonderful break without having that clench of dread in your tummy at the thought of his mood. You're free, have a great time xx

Is this something you may have given in to him in the past eg not going.on holiday? Well done.

Think about how frustrated, sad, and stressed you felt this morning. Think about how that will continue to happen if you stay with this man. You said yourself - being with him is exhausting and you don't want to be with him anymore. You don't have to be - this is YOUR choice. Now is the perfect time to end it - block and move onwards and upwards. Today is the start of the rest of your life OP!

Block his number for the whole time you are on this trip, have a wonderful time focussing just on yourself and enjoying yourself. I know it’s easier said than done - but try to put him to the back of your mind right now.

If you don’t block him then he will try to think if new ways to ruin your time while you away, since his plan to stop you going didn’t work.

Only unblock him when you return if you want to get back your bag of clothes. Get your belongings and then tell him the relationship is over permanently due to his terrible behaviour. Then block again.

No-one deserves to be treated like this.

Yep, it's exactly what he will do. that's why it's so important to block him . He will ruin your holiday and your friends by doing this, Just when you should be chilling and relaxing and making this holiday about you and your friend, he will ensure it's all about him instead.

I know everyone has said it but here goes again: please please please do not go back to this abusive sack of shit.

You are now going to get massively manipulated by him, please be aware and prepared. ‘He didn’t mean it, he needs you, only you understand him, he’s lost without you, he was just so upset as he’d miss you, he’ll change.’ Bla bla bla

He is and always will be a manipulative abusive self-centred moron. You deserve a million times better!!!

This 100 percent!

I think you already know the answer but it's facing it that's the problem.
Whatever your feelings are towards him , thats not love it's control and if you carry on with him it will only get worse.

This ^

Please don’t let him spoil your holiday by responding to his dreadful behaviour.

Don’t spoil your friend’s precious time with you either by being preoccupied with his intrusions or indeed listening to you purging about him.

Relaaaax and put it all behind you. There’ll be enough if his crap to deal with when you get back.

Stay strong. He’s spoiling your life. Move on.

Block his number while you’re on holiday. Relax and have a great time.
If he returns your stuff just thank him, take the bag. No chat, no big breakup just thanks and bye.
Then one text you’re dumped and tell him what he is if you want then block on everything.
He won’t improve. Be thankful you don’t have joint property, finances, kids 😳

Have a brilliant holiday.

Oh yes the attention has to always be on the narcissist. Because they are actually quite weak inside even though they come across as confident.

Fuck me just go and don’t look back.

I hope you have a lovely holiday. Block him.

He is a monster.

You are not safe in any way with him.