Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

[Random100]

Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

Hi OP. how r you doing? Did you hear back from the police?

hoping you had a quiet, boring day and that the twat has given up

I think you have to make your work aware that this lunatic may turn up there, and that the police are aware.

Are the police aware of the full details, the threats to his own life, the threats to punish you etc etc? I don't know that I'd wait for someone to come and see you, I'd take it to them as it seems you have more information now than when you initially contacted them online.

Honestly @Vonesk at least read the updates on how abusive this man is and the police now being involved before posting things like this
I pity him. Be kind.

Just checking in to say all OK! I’ve not heard or seen anything from him.

Glad to hear that. Hopefully no shock deliveries to your work either.

I’m glad you are okay. I worked with a woman who had similar partner and she told work. Everyone was very nice about it. We had a picture up for while so that we didn’t let him in!

Well done for getting rid of him. Do you rent or own your flat? Could you move? It would definitely be the easiest way to keep him away. Changing your phone number would also be a good idea. I know it's a massive pain, but I think it's worth it to make sure he can't contact you anymore. Keep records of all the nasty messages he's sent to show the police.

It’s the best £90 you’ll ever spend!

Thanks @Random100 . I presume he doesn't know your friend's address, hopefully your can talk to the police before you go home.

Gosh this is so scary for you OP.
As a mother supporting someone very close to me going through domestic abuse, please please don’t ever go back to him.
Get an injunction against him.

He sounds like a narcissist, please block him everywhere. Do not give him an inch. My ex was like this. Unfortunately, we have a child together, so I still have drama from him from time to time. I literally can't give him the time of day, or he tries to start the manipulative cycle again.

Walk away and don't look back. Zero contact. Don't respond at all.

Have a fabulous holiday and go enjoy your best life!

Have you actually read the thread ffs

Hes a dangerous nutcase - be kind my arse

"Poor thing, be kind" I despair!
Op ignore this advice, it's frankly shocking 😲

I read it as being sarcastic.

Glad to read you're OK. Stay strong, you're doing fab!

Just a slight word of warning, please don't let your guard down yet OP. I know you shouldn't have to be, but please be super vigilant for a little while yet. Expect anything for a bit longer, yet. Don't put anything past him yet.

Very self destructive of him. No reference, no return of deposit because the ll can take this in lieu of rent/for damage. What an idiot. You’re very sensible to block him. I’d definitely give work the heads up just in case and tell the mutual friend you don’t want to hear about his antics/threats/stupidity. Last thing you need, frankly.

This might be a tactic. Don’t be lured into checking if he’s okay. If you’re actually worried about him, ask the police to do a welfare check. Don’t go yourself.

@Vonesk it's not a joking matter.

Hi OP, glad to hear you got away. I went out with one of these its so confusing and frustrating and totally takes advantage of our preference to forgive and put others first. I echo the others saying leave and don't turn back! Best of luck , you deserve so much better and he knows it!

Hi OP, is your car still parked at his?

OMG it is so frustrating when people don't read the thread. Or read the OP's posts. Then come out and with shit like this 🙄

I read it as she's checking in here to let us know she's ok and that he hasn't made contact.

I agree it'd be madness to contact him!

Gosh you are lucky op to be away from him. I’m 5 years in with someone like this and I’m a ground down shadow of myself. Please please never go back.