Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

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Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

You can ask the police to escort you to pick up your belongings (I had to do this for something unfortunately I couldn't leave behind). That way he can't come to work with them to humiliate you. But don't give him notice you're turning up to get them or he'll be 'out'. Get him to open the door then the police can appear and ask him for your belongings.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this but you sound very strong and I’m looking forward to your new, better life without him.

In a couple of months you will look back and wish you had done this sooner because you’ll be so much happier.

Please do not engage with him at all.

If he threatens to kill himself then calm the police and they will do a welfare check - it should also him stop threatening these things.

Please do not go to his home or allow him into your home, even if he’s coming across as calm or kind.

This is a very dangerous man who will not be happy that you’ve ended things with him.

Well done OP your doing great x

Well he could do it then. Or op could grass him up!!

I don't think the Op should tell the LL, he'll know it was her and that will only make him more hellbent on revenge

Go. Enjoy your holiday with your friend.

While you are there be TOTALLY honest with your friend about what he's said and done, on this incident and others.

It sounds like you don't live together. That makes a clean split easy.

While you're away, tell him you don't want to see him again. Do you have a friend or family member who can change the locks? Once this is done, ask him to post your key back while you're away.

Make this your clean break. Your life is made worse by him being in it. Being single will make you much much happier. Even better, moving him out of the way means you're also open to a future with someone who will treat you the way you deserve x

And thank god the police are involved.

I'm glad you are free of this abuser.

I agree. That’s for the landlord to deal with as a separate matter.

OP doesn’t need any additional hassle from this narcissistic lunatic.

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FFS - read the OP's updates, we're 32 pages in, she's been on holiday and come back. Things have moved on

As I mentioned in my previous post OP, this is exactly how my piece of shit ex behaved. Nobody knew what he was like but I warned the security not to let him in or call me from reception. He never followed through with his threat to humiliate me at work.

He also had NC with family.

I did also go to the police to report him just in case he was following me. They gave me a number to contact.

I finally admitted to my brother what he was like which is why I broke contact. I was not allowed any friends od family. He used to take my sim card every few weeks and throw it away so I had no stored numbers.

Look at this holiday as one of the best things that has happened. You now have out!

Good luck for your future.

That's true.

Tell him to keep your things and cut all contact. He wants to come over so he can apologize again until the same thing happens. Do not let this man control you! He sounds awful, that is not okay to do to anyone especially someone you claim to love. Run for the hills!

Great idea.

The hive mind has spoken - DO. NOT. TOLERATE. THIS. ARSEHOLE. A. SECOND. LONGER. Ghost him completely, block him on everything and refuse to acknowledge his existence. You deserve so, so much more.

Block him on everything or he will be texting etc nonstop and enjoy your holiday.
If I were you I wouldn’t unblock him when you get back either.
Dropping off your stuff is just another way to pester you when you are back home.
once he gets to you he will probably go on and on until you give in and take him back.
if you aren’t tied to him in any way - kids, finances etc. Then make a break for freedom and don’t look back!

Sorry you're going through this OP.

Don't forget to screenshot everything. And keep a record of everything. Even the tiniest things.

Pour a load of sugar into his oil tank then get yourself an Uber and never look back!! Enjoy your holiday 😁

Perhaps read the OP's posts and her updates.

Please come back and let us know you're OK when you can.

Poor you, you must be terrified 😞 I do hope you're ok x

This. If you can pay for baggage storage at airport . Or If you have your car with you store in there and pay for long term park at the airport. I’d leave now. He’s a total dick head and I wouldn’t waste a single minute around him or his house. Block him

You are posting on the 32nd page of this thread - maybe a quick skim to see if things have moved on from the OP?

Hope you are ok still and just busy with work/life now.

This.

The best £90 you will ever spend.

Oops I see we have moved on.

Still... 90 quids a bargain to dump a cunt.