Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

[Random100]

Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

You've got away from your abuser because that is what he WELL DONE! Now tell everyone you've left him and NEVER go back ! Enjoy your holiday and the rest of your life which will be so much better without him Take it from one who knows !

Phone the police for a welfare check as he’s said he’s suicidal. Means you’ve got him help if he requires it, and shown them his pattern of behaviour. Explain you’re out of the country and you’re going to block him.

Get. Out. Now. Call his bluff, get that Uber and never go back there again. He will only become more & more abusive. Unless the few things you have left at his place are really important to you-abandon them. Your health-your life-are more important than this revolting, manipulative guy. He may try get you back after you leave him-DO NOT be fooled by him. Never go back. And go on that holiday! Have a great time-you deserve it.

This is what narcissists do. They ruin every occasion that is not about them. If you stay with this man, be prepared to have every birthday and Christmas ruined. I’d recommend you do some research on NPD - this all has the hallmarks of narcissistic behaviour.

I’ve been in this relationship, 10 years of my life ruined by a controlling arsehole. He is kicking off because he is jealous you are going away with your friend. What is he giving you other than heartache and stress. Please get away from him before he ruins all your confidence and isolates you from your friends. Life is too short. Enjoy your holiday, please don’t look back xxx from someone that has been there.

How long until he hits you,OP? Leave and don't look back. Infact, have very many one night stands on holiday.

Let us know you're OK and safe.

Please stay strong and completely ignore his requests/threats/gaslighting - it’s important you have no contact at all, even he tries to make you feel guilty.
If you weaken and go back to a relationship with him it will only get worse and worse. Save yourself from a miserable future and cut all contact. Enjoy your holiday.

He sounds like a classic narcissist. You’re better off without him. Narcissists will always try to ruin any enjoyment you have to guilt trip you into not living your life too.
leave and never go back

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To which I would have responded:

"Yes. Very sad. Anyway! Don't forget to drop my stuff off.

Kind regards

The pool boys new thang on holiday"

🤪😜

Go enjoy your holiday and make sure you leave him in the bin when you get back. Perfect time to break things off and have a new start. He is controlling and abusive, it will only get worse. The intention was to make you stay and not go on holiday, clearly he is very manipulative and insecure. His issues not yours.

I had a sociopath boyfriend like this. Hated me being happy with others. Would sabotage any plans and make it all about him.

I know it's not simple but you Said it. You need to leave, block and never look back. Things will only get worse if you stay. Time to get your life back.

Get ya stuff together get a taxi home and have a lovely holiday. Kick him to the kerb

Enjoy your holiday and say goodbye to this man and his manipulative behaviour.
Start with a new chapter on your return. You are worth so much more

Random100 I know it’s hard but you have to leave him - ASAP. He sounds unpredictable, spiteful and controlling.
You need to value yourself and go before this turns into something worse.

Leave, take your stuff and forget about him x

OP, send some friends round or a brother/ your dad to get your things, block him on everything and just get on with your life, he’s a gaslighting, emotionally abuse twat and he will constantly try to get in contact with you until he realises that you aren’t taking his shit anymore. If he has access to your house please get locks changed. It is also not your problem if he does something silly (not that he will. He’s trying to make you feel awful so you go running back)

have the best holiday!!

They're just crying wolf.

Dump him

At the risk of sounding repetitive, I'd still encourage you to block his number while you're away.

If he knows his messages aren't reaching you, he'll stop with the drama.

I don't think you should worry about his mental health @Random100 , he doesn't care about yours when he's trying to stop you doing anything planned/fun and is making you cry. You are not his parent or his keeper and you can stay away from this negative controlling behaviour forever.

And please block!

Please, please do yourself the biggest favour of your life and block all contact with him or he will reel you back in and the cycle starts all over again. Trust me I know. The only way to get away is to block all contact

Dump him

Sounds like you have got yourself a classic narrsist