Can I tell him over txt not interested?

[Violetroseyjane]

Oh I feel so awkward. So I went out drinking with friends a couple weeks back, met a guy we had a chat some laughs and swapped numbers & kissed at the end of the evening.
He actually knew one of my friends boyfriends and my friend was like oh now we can double date , hes so sweet etc.
I just said let's not get carried away, but agreed to meet up with him for a coffee.
I agreed to meet with him yesterday, as soon as I locked eyes on him I knew .... he really really is not someone I would be attracted too normally, but thought I'd give him a chance ( I must of had serious beer goggles on when I kissed him ) 🙈
He was a perfectly nice man, however we had no spark, bad conversation and I am not one bit attracted to this mans personality or his looks.
Turns out we have nothing in common at all and he is also 15 years older than myself.
I was still polite throughout the date , tried to make conversation then we went our separate ways.
This morning my friend msg me saying that "ben" had the most amazing time and has told all thier friend group about me. He then msg me this morning calling me his girlfriend and putting love in the msg.
I really now have serious ick here.
I do not want to see this man again!
Is it ok to let him down through txt? What shall I say? I really dont want to hurt his feelings but I know he is not the man for me .I need to do it sooner rather than later as he is trying to organise a 2nd date 😏

Definitely what other posters have said I'd do it soon as possible. Hes calling you his girlfriend already !? Run don't walk lol

Sorry didn't read last post . Good on you lol

Just tell him that you were the worse for alcohol the night you kissed him & after the coffee date you realised you had zero feelings for him wish him well ,end of text, no xxx on the end.

I'm absolutely gutted, I'm so emotional & really fell for you
I'm wondering what he would have been like if you'd called it off after a longer period of dating. 😱Lucky you called it off quickly. Hope he leaves you alone.

You dodged a bullet with this clinger.

Of course it’s OK to say no via text. “It was nice to meet you but I’m not interested in taking things further. Best wishes, etc”.

why are you even giving this a second thought. No is enough. Don’t let him manipulate you.

Well I wonder what he would have been like if we had actually slept together? ... propose?😂😂😂

It's all been done if you read all of the thread you will see x

Hi all thanks for all of your messages ... little update , he initially left me alone and then late last night he messaged me saying he was in the pub and he had sang a song on karaoke and it was a song that reminded him of me... I just replied about an hour later saying huh? Is this msg for someone else? How on earth can there be a song that reminds you of me ? I met you twice , once in a pub amongst others , and for no longer than 3 hours , second time for coffee... no more than an hour and a half , surely this cant be for me ?

He then msg a long msg about giving him another chance ... by then I had fallen asleep so didnt read it until the morning, as soon as I woke up I blocked him... it's safe to say I think this man is a complete fruit loop! My friend and her boyfriend have also told him off for coming across way too much and to leave me the hell alone now !

Oh totally!!

Very cringe 😂😂😂

I'm glad you've blocked him , just be careful as he does sound like a weirdo and it can escalate. Hopefully it won't be the case.

Thank you , I will be staying well away from him. I wont even be going to the local pub anymore ... not that I did very often but met friends at least once every couple of months.
I will be avoiding every single place I know he goes forever more !

Hi, thanks for meeting up with me the other day. You seem like a lovely person, but I don't think we're right for each other. Wishing you all the best, with no hard feelings, I hope. Violet.

Sorry, David. I like total honesty in relationships. And it just doesn't work out for me, when I don't feel I'm right for someone, or they're not right for me. It just becomes awkward and horrible. A painful lesson I've learned. I like you as a person, but not enough to be involved with you. I sincerely wish you the best. I'll be genuinely pleased to see you, if we bump into each other, but let's just give each other space right now to meet other people. V.

I don't blame you at all , keep safe

Lots of good ideas on here for texts. Pick the one for you. I think your friend is being a PITA. Why doesn’t she keep her nose out?

Hiya thanks , if you read the whole thread u will see I have txt him and just updated. Also my friend has turned out to be in complete agreement with me and thinks hes being odd and ott! X

Sorry. I have just actually skimmed the whole thread. Best wishes 🌺

You have to be very clear and direct if you see him in public now (as I think you said that you might).

If he comes over to speak look straight at him and say, 'Please leave me alone. I do not wish to be friends. I do not wish any communication with you. I found your behaviour to be bordering on harassment. I hope that is clear. I want you to go away'.

Don't back down. Don't feel embarrassed. He needs to be told straight.

Oh god is this going to be one of those threads where no one bothers reading the bloody updates?

SHE'S TEXTED HIM, PEOPLE.

(well done OP, hope he leaves you the hell alone from now on)

i know but sometimes it is so hard reading a long thread 🤣

You don't need to read the whole thread, just the OP's posts. There's even a button that allows you to do so. It's not difficult.

Jeez OP 😂

Thank fuck you palmed him off swiftly.

that is so embarrassing. He reminds me a little of a guy I went out with for about 3 weeks in 1st year at uni. I got a lot of very unhinged messages after I broke it off. He lived in my block of flats so couldn't fully get away from him. He managed to break into our key carded apartment into my room one night 😳It might be him!

His brain has got seriously carried away. It’s imagining things that aren’t ever going to happen. You need to send a very polite text ASAP to put a stop to his over-the-speed-limit thoughts.
if you don’t, his reaction will be that of a man jilted at the altar because that’s where his brain is headed.