Dating Thread 248 - Spring is on it's way and so are outdoor dates

[SortingItOut]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your faulT.
7. Know your wortH.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@wtfnow88 I stay well away from the ones who are still living with their exes. Unfortunately I dated a couple who were still emotionally over invested in their exes.

The men holding a fish make me laugh. There was actually a bloke who was quite attractive and had a good bio but I just couldn't match with him because he had a fish photo!

Welcome @Ikeashowroom

You'll find people on here supportive. Sometimes there are more posts, and less at times. Ah, men holding fish. You haven't been doing OLD properly if you haven't spotted a man holding a fish 😃

@wtfnow88

OLD bingo cliches

• age is wrong can’t change it
• getting confused that 6ft is actually 5’9
• No drama
• If you don’t look like your photos you’re buying the drinks til you do

The fish photos are an instant passion killer. I’ve seen decent looking men in photo 1 then scrolled down and there he is with no top on holding a giant fish the size of a primary school child and my vagina clamps shut 🤣🤣

My personal fav is NO DRAMA!!!! 😁

Oh I had one who said his wife was terminally ill and in a hospice and that aged given her blessing to move on.

Is it just me who thinks at least still she’s actually passed away before lining up the next one?

@blacksocks33 totally understand. Bumble where I live was awful as was hinge. My friend is having a disaster too having rejoined match, one cancelled date last weekend and another yesterday that lasted 3 hrs and he msgd saying he’d had a nice afternoon - that’s it. Urgh!!!

Oh, I love this OLD Bingo!

• FYI I'm into anal on the second text
• Single because they cared for their elderly mother please don't judge God bless you (all in one paragraph, no comma)
• Bitcoin
• Homeowner, salary, number of annual leave per year
• I can see ghosts (5 years later, he contacted me saying he has now got a gf. The relationship is not for the faint of heart. I don't know her but he knew her through me 😱)

I also had some fancy dates - think Michelin and Mayfair. The more swanky the restaurant the more miserable the guy. Which makes sense I think - a guy with a sound mind and a deep pocket will have been off the market very quickly.

Oh another OLD bingo - shall we go to WhatsApp? Within a few messages away from the app - oh here’s a photo of my cock

Man in his late 40s/fifties, no kids but wants kids. Looking for short term fun. No drama. Easy going. (As demonstrated by a picture of his tongue out ?)

Yep I had a new one today though, he doesn't live nearby so I suggested a video call and he agreed but he got the wrong idea as when we connected and he saw I was fully dressed he quickly put his T-shirt on saying he'd had to take it off as he was too hot 😆
It was on,y after we chatted for a while and ended the call that I realised Imhad been too naive and he'd had a altogether different idea of what the call was about!

It's a con....I had loads of likes.
They were all 75-80 miles away
My radius is set to 15 miles!!!
They use likes to get you to subscribe to see what you are missing....in my case nothing!

Yep. I paid once when they had a half price offer and all of my likes were in places like Aberdeen or Cornwall - I live in Essex!

Complete waste of money.

To be fair....as a man I can reveal.....that there are women posing with large fish too. Only one to be fair, and unfortunately I didnt screenshot her before consigning her to the bin!!
😂
However ....I will raise you photos with "cute" superimposed like freckles, and woman with kitten faces, ears and whiskers by the carton load.
Also in the bin on principal
Also pulling tongues....they join the pet brigade and fisherwomen!

😂😂

As a woman those Snapchat doggy and bunny ear filters make me shudder. I’ve actually seen a couple of mens profiles with them on 😱

Yeah, I like a cultured guy!

I may have a second date with someone I am not particularly attracted to right now, but who was great company on our first date so I feel like I should be open minded and give him a second chance. (Randomly, we are in the same profession and have many mutual acquaintances, so I am not overly worried about vetting him!)

I am chatting to another guy who seems really fun and might be just what I need.

I guess I am ‘figuring out my dating goals’ as it’s called on Hinge, because I am not long out of a serious relationship (7 months ago) and I am preoccupied with other life events - I am going through egg freezing and I am contemplating a big career move.

I just want someone who is good company who wants to go to cool places in London with me - I feel like that’s not too much to ask, but it’s proving quite hard to find! I thought men were all about casual relationships?!

I really don't get the rationale behind a man holding a big fish...I must be dopey, can someone enlighten me?!?

Same goes for:

• wrong age, can't change it (why did you enter your age wrongly?!?)

• sticking tongue out (looks so gross, I can't believe they think it's attractive)

So many profiles I've seen for these things, o automatically swipe left.

@Starseeking

I don’t get the fish thing either especially when most of them are posing topless as well
They look so proud of their fish but I don’t know a single woman ever who’s seen a photo like that and thought ‘wow what a massive fish, I absolutely have to date that man and hear his fishing stories’

That's sounds so refreshing. I love a cultured man myself much like @Crushed23

Hi all, I am new to this thread. Looking for some advice from you well seasoned daters. I've been online dating for around 8 months - been on dates with over 12 men. None are anywhere what I would consider boyfriend material, but I am outgoing and pleasant on dates. All have rejected me - mostly after a few dates. It's usually after we have sex, or I politely decline and say I need more time getting to know them. And this is after they come on strongly in the beginning and say they want a relationship. I'm nearly 40. Is this normal in the dating world now?? It's really becoming quite an awful experience for me now.

@Crushed23 Oh, I did egg freezing last year! It was not fun at all and I had horrible mood swings. Finger crossed yours go smoothly 🙂

Re men, I think it's just a matter of age. When I was younger, people who liked my profile were in their early 30s and super chilled. Now everyone is in late 30s/early 40s and all dead serious - wanting life partner, wanting children. Someone I know IRL lined up dates and asked people what is their family plan on the first date. (Obviously the women all ran off the hill after that!).

@cassiatwenty a cultured man with a sound mind is hard to find! I tend to match with arty people, but most of the time they aren't THAT interested, and when I find someone who is actually artistic, they often come in the general artistic package (i.e. a poetic mind along with depression, schizophrenia, forgetfulness, or just general disappointment in life 😅).

@Crushed23 I would say men on OLD are about casual sex rather than casual relationships. You need to actually make an effort to go out to cool places, travel and/or spend money. So why bother if they are only after casual sex?

@Okigen thanks! I’ve already done one cycle, got a second cycle coming up in June if all goes to plan (and it very rarely does with egg freezing 😂). Can I ask, did you mention it to guys you were dating? I’ve been very vague and saying “medical procedure” when my not drinking has cropped up, for example. But if I got past a first date with a guy and we actually started ‘dating’, I am wondering whether or not to explicitly mention it.

@occhiazzurri I think you’re right - it’s either casual sex or a serious relationship, and not a casual relationship. Which is what I want. Sigh.

@Crushed23 I didn't mention and I don't think they noticed anything different 😅 If I have to cancel the date due to the procedure I just say I'm quite unwell due to [insert random things here].