I've been catching up and just don't want to add to depressing stories! But basically matched with someone who was less single than he made out and had my heart slightly broken(at least we didn't sleep together!), took weeks off to nurse my heartbreak.
Then the other day the only other guy I seemed to connect with a little bit tells me he's been single for 2 years. And then turned out he visits his kids a flight/ferry away every week, and there he is in the same family house(downstairs) and the kids haven't been told they are separated 🙄I do believe him that this is the way things stand, he seems to be very gentle to the point of being meek, but his bio states he is looking for a relationship or life partner, how can you conduct a relationship when this is your situation?!
I haven't said no to him yet since I got the full picture(we haven't met yet and I will be away so no chance to meet for two weeks) and it might not come to anything/might not be chemistry in person so there is no point explaining to him yet that you don't call yourself single for two years if your own children think you are one full family (children are teenagers and older though, surely have worked it all out?)
Anyway, he is my best bet for now in terms of only the second guy who is actually interesting, but obviously I am a little cynical/ambivalent going forward...
One guy seemed a little promising, very local, went on a date, he is a recent-ish widower, but it was obvious he wanted companionship and affection but was still very sad and lost in his head, there was no spark at all...
It's a bit difficult keeping positive and digging through Bumble feels like digging through piles of old clothes in a charity shop/thrift store hoping to find a vintage haute couture item 😂however, I keep reminding myself that 1) I am on there, so other adequate interesting people might be on there too 2) If I walked into an average pub in the evening and each bloke there could be wearing their "app bio" there is very little chance I would have walked out of there paired up either, to find your match is literally a numbers game and you just have to be pragmatic and put in the time.
Though being late 40s I do seem to be mostly screened off from men my age and seem to mostly get matched with boys in their 30s who obviously don't mind...even tempted to create one of those profiles which give wrong/younger age and then give the correct age in the bio to override the algorithm, but then think if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be, and if someone thinks all women in their mid to late 40s are "too old" and hides them, then I probably don't want them as a match anyway...