Terminally ill partner.

[Leebar]

My partner is terminally ill. He has cancelled his divorce proceedings and arranged for his wife to receive part of his pension when he dies. I am living with him and look after him. He say he wants to stay with me and not his wife. I feel very hurt about the non divorce and pension agreement. Am I being fare?

They are separated at least 8 years but only getting the divorce now?
Why is it that do you think?

It seems the reluctance to move on was already there all those years.

@LittleLegsKeepGoing

Depends on the type of pension. Mine's a defined benefit pension (final salary) so an ongoing payment if I pass away can only be made to my spouse - at the discretion of the trustees. It's been known for them to deny a spousal share of pension for relationships that are short lived (on the basis that the pension wasn't a shared investment).

The only lump sums that are paid out of my pension happen if I die whilst still employed. Those lump sums do have a beneficiary nomination which is generally respected.

I agree. My mother's DBS work pension stopped with her as there was no spouse/partner or dependant under 18yrs.
A spouse/partner would've received a percentage of her pension til death.
I'm not sure what would happen once the dependant reached 18yrs.

Her private pension however was able to be transferred as a lump sum as per her wishes which were lodged with the pension company & backed up by her will.

So this man could say where a private pension could go. And he might be dividing it up between everyone but his partner

@LittleLegsKeepGoing

Was trying to quote/ copy & paste your PP in my comment but it didn't quite work. Apologies!

I’m not sure with this one. If your partner is terminally ill, are you talking weeks to a couple of months? If his life is limited in such a way, I doubt he wants to spend it going through all the legalities of divorce, spending more money on solicitors etc when he may well pass away before the process is even complete. That is just wasted time for him when he probably wants to focus on other things. After a 25 year marriage and children, his ex would likely be awarded some of his pension anyway, so she will only be receiving what she would have regardless.