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pinkandblue89 · 2024-04-01T14:39:05+00:00

Nosey Nelly over here but just genuinely curious how often you have sex if you are in a committed relationship? We go through peaks and lows depending on the time of the month and I was curious how it fluctuates for other couples. Happy to answer any questions anyone have 🤣☺️

GingerLiberalFeminist · 02/04/2024 15:21

4-5 times a week minus the 4 days I have my period although I usually "entertain" him 😅 (my choice before anyone starts).

Together 2 years. It used to be more, I started getting a bad back so eased it down a bit!

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pinkandblue89 · 02/04/2024 15:22

@GingerLiberalFeminist hello fellow ginger! Go you, I don't even want to be touched 2 weeks of the month so well done you 🤣

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PotatoPudding · 02/04/2024 15:23

pinkandblue89 · 02/04/2024 15:18

@PotatoPudding that's a shame. Is it purely just looks that you're not attracted to him or personality also?

He has contributed very little since DS was born. It’s only in the last 6 months he’ll even take care of him so I can go to the supermarket on my own. All the while, life has carries on as normal for him. I was diagnosed with a chronic illness, which causes me a lot of pain, discomfort and fatigue, but he doesn’t acknowledge it at all unless it’s an inconvenience for him. He criticises every item I buy for our son or for the house. It’s just exhausting. He’s also gained a couple of stone, so it’s really uncomfortable.

For me, sex is about the person rather than being horny.

midnights0 · 02/04/2024 15:26

Depends! Been together nearly 2 years, married for 6 months. It was every other day / every 2 days. But we've gone through 4 miscarriages & I'm on antidepressants now which has decreased my sex drive. It's usually between 1-3x a week atm though. Still love Dh very much and am attracted to him

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pinkandblue89 · 02/04/2024 15:28

@PotatoPudding I'm so sorry to hear this - he sounds like absolute dickhead so can completely understand why you wouldn't feel attracted to him. You're basically a single mother at this point. Obviously I get it's not as easy to just leave but is this something you have considered?

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PotatoPudding · 02/04/2024 15:31

pinkandblue89 · 02/04/2024 15:28

@PotatoPudding I'm so sorry to hear this - he sounds like absolute dickhead so can completely understand why you wouldn't feel attracted to him. You're basically a single mother at this point. Obviously I get it's not as easy to just leave but is this something you have considered?

Thank you for your words. I have basically said I have been like a single parent. I have looked into leaving but can’t afford it, and due to a joint rental property that will take a while go get rid of, I can’t claim UC. I am currently working towards increasing my earning potential, which will take about another 18 months

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pinkandblue89 · 02/04/2024 15:32

@PotatoPudding I really hope things get better for you ☹️ you and your child deserve to be happy and it sounds like you're doing a great job xx

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PotatoPudding · 02/04/2024 15:39

pinkandblue89 · 02/04/2024 15:32

@PotatoPudding I really hope things get better for you ☹️ you and your child deserve to be happy and it sounds like you're doing a great job xx

Thanks. I hope you have a lifetime of great sex 😂

pinkspeakers · 02/04/2024 15:45

Once a month maybe? Possibly not even that tbh. We are in our 50s/60s and have been together 30 years.

We've never really been an "every night" couple. Possibly partly because, by the time we actually lived together all the time, I was 7 months pregnant! But also partly just personality.

I'm happy as it is. DH might like slightly more but it's not a big issue and I think that has largely passed compared to eg 10 years ago.

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pinkandblue89 · 02/04/2024 15:55

@PotatoPudding same to you! You deserve to feel loved and be treated nicely too. Xx

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underthemilky · 03/04/2024 08:01

@Missamyp

It's the equivalent of every day if we were together full-time.
So for example I'll arrive at his and we'll have sex once or twice as soon as I land. Then rest or go out for a bit and carry once or twice, once in bed then sleep.
He has a very little refractory period. In fact he can and does carry on.
He starts to wane after the 4th or 5th time.
If the time together is longer not a day it's not usually as frantic or long.
Neither of us smoke-drink and we're not overweight. He's 50 I'm early 40's.
I'm so fascinated. Sorry for being so nosy 😂 having that little refractory period that many times a day is remarkable for a 25 year old let alone 50!!!

How long is each episode? Is it like 2 mins or 20mins? Is he going for a long time each time? Do you get sore?
Do you engage in a lot if foreplay each time or are you quite efficient in getting straight to the PIV bit?

I know you say it's the equivalent of once a day but it's like eating week's worth of food in one day 😂

underthemilky · 03/04/2024 08:04

cemetery · 02/04/2024 08:56

1-2x per day. When we first met it could be 4-6x a day.

I'm so over invested in this thread. Is it 1-2 1 hour sessions if lots of foreplay and 30 mins of PIV action or quickies at 5-10 mins.

If it's the firmer don't you get sore if it's up to twice a day every day.

6 x a day I would have no vaginal lining left. I guess it depends how long each episode lasts.

Isouf · 03/04/2024 09:44

cemetery · 02/04/2024 08:56

1-2x per day. When we first met it could be 4-6x a day.

Do you have a job? 🤣

ElatedMauveFish · 09/04/2024 16:50

We average sex 1x or 2x a month. I wank him 1x or 2x a month too. He says he needs sex or a wank every week. Any man ever say what he gets is enough? But 3x a month has been enough

Missamyp · 09/04/2024 18:11

underthemilky · 03/04/2024 08:01

@Missamyp

It's the equivalent of every day if we were together full-time.
So for example I'll arrive at his and we'll have sex once or twice as soon as I land. Then rest or go out for a bit and carry once or twice, once in bed then sleep.
He has a very little refractory period. In fact he can and does carry on.
He starts to wane after the 4th or 5th time.
If the time together is longer not a day it's not usually as frantic or long.
Neither of us smoke-drink and we're not overweight. He's 50 I'm early 40's.
I'm so fascinated. Sorry for being so nosy 😂 having that little refractory period that many times a day is remarkable for a 25 year old let alone 50!!!

How long is each episode? Is it like 2 mins or 20mins? Is he going for a long time each time? Do you get sore?
Do you engage in a lot if foreplay each time or are you quite efficient in getting straight to the PIV bit?

I know you say it's the equivalent of once a day but it's like eating week's worth of food in one day 😂

The simplest explanation is we both enjoy sex.
It is a form of bonding for us and we both think sex is very high up on a list of priorities for a relationship.
I have a high sex drive too so it's not just DP who's leading the dance. Flirting is an ongoing chatter via the apps, so foreplay is regular. It's quite likely to ebb and flow when we eventually do move in together.

And no it's not 2 mins.

Chocolatelover888 · 11/04/2024 15:13

Autienotnaughtie · 02/04/2024 07:20

Exactly this

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Agree. Sometimes 3 times a week, sometimes 3 times a month, weekend away several times. 3 kids under 6 and often knackered, could never put an average on it. I do notice if it’s been a few weeks and we haven’t and also notice the more we do it the more we want to do it!