How often do you have sex?

[pinkandblue89]

Nosey Nelly over here but just genuinely curious how often you have sex if you are in a committed relationship?

We go through peaks and lows depending on the time of the month and I was curious how it fluctuates for other couples.

Happy to answer any questions anyone have 🤣☺️

Also interested in the app... mind is boggling...

3 x a week, only together 3 years so it's not that much. Both mid 50s. It's v hot but I'd like to get kinkier and I'm not sure that's going to happen. Not anal - tried it, nah - but would like to go dogging.

This thread has made me feel like shit. 3 children all under 5 years. Once a month at best. Would like it more but always too tired and always end up with one if not two children in our bed every night.

https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/sex-game-for-couple-naughty/id1353066380

With my ex husband once in a blue moon. With my current manfriend, at least 3 times per week. We see each other twice a week so at least once per date, but sometimes it's 2-4 times per date. We've only been together about 8 months though so I assume it will wane soon!

A couple of times a week. Would prefer it to be more but the opportunity only presents itself at the very end of the day, during the 8 hours (max) before we need to get up again.

Never..
Been together 20 years. No kissing, no cuddling, in fact no physical contact whatsoever . Have had separate bedrooms for 3 years. No sex for that long and maybe once a year before that. I got fed up trying to instigate sex no foreplay involved no nothing so gave up.
Marriage in name only really. I'm not interested in another relationship but I do miss a jolly good snog. ( dh was rubbish at that)

@Justletmelogon Wow that’s unusual - roughly how old were you when you got together? Have you asked him why?

I’m not surprised you gave up, it must be hard being constantly rebuffed like that 😣 I’d feel quite cheated. I’d even get over the lack of sex easier than I would than the lack of affection though.

I’m not naive. I know people do these things. I’ve done these things when I was in my 20s. But now, in my 40s I don’t really fancy the prospect of shitting myself or spending time being in discomfort because something has gone up the exit chute. It’s okay to not find things okay. I think a lot of people kid themselves they enjoy these things when they actually don’t, especially when they’re younger. There’s a lot of pressure.

Not since before Christmas. But my marriage is fucked so I'm probably not useful as part of your sample size.

We're a LDR we see each other 1-3 times per week.
Sex anywhere between 3-7 x per day we're together. We've even stopped mid dates to go back home or found a spot. It's only been less than 18 Month's though.

Never, and I hate it. I'm at the stage where I hardly consider myself to be in a relationship at all, it's more like I have a constant obligation to not interact sexually with other people, like I live in a monastery or something. I'm very good at it and never cross the line, but sometimes I wish I could be like everyone else, free to at least pursue satisfying and mutually enjoyable romantic and sexual experiences.

Cool story bro

Daily but it's harder now as I'm heavily pregnant. Having to settle for sideways quickies instead of better positions!

@Astartn
We got together in our peak!
We had a pretty average sex life to start ( well below average judging by some rampant love birds on this thread)
But kids, work etc We drifted apart. We're both early 50's but I have no romantic inclination towards him anymore. It just 🤷‍♀️. It is what it is.

Almost a year ago and can't envisage having sex again now😕
Single for what seems like forever as exdh wasn't up for sex. I miss being held and close with someone who cares about me.

Don't do this. Your partner can tear your rectum if you don't use lube.

7 x a day???? Seven?? How long are these sessions? How can't he manage 7 times? So many questions

Once every few months 🥲

Every other day more or less, although he's been unwell lately, so less than that in the last month.

Agree. A lot of men are 12 hour gap or so, as they head towards middle age. Maybe he is very young.

It used to be maybe once a week usually initiated by me because I felt we should. DH doesn’t really try and after many conversations explaining how it’s hard to feel wanted if the other person doesn’t show they actually want you, I’ve given up initiating. It’s been over 3 months now and the more time that passes the more the idea of sex is off putting. It’s a shame as we’re great friends but it’s tough having a partner who doesn’t want to risk being rejected so won’t ever put themselves out there.

About 6x p/month but it varies, 16 years together and we're in our 40's. Even if we don't have sex we still cuddle before sleep.

Twice a week in a good week. Not less than weekly I'd say, unless one of us is ill/ away.

Oh, don't knock the sideways quickie!

Varies here. Would like more in general but not long had our 4DC so things are so chaotic.