How often do you have sex?

[pinkandblue89]

Nosey Nelly over here but just genuinely curious how often you have sex if you are in a committed relationship?

We go through peaks and lows depending on the time of the month and I was curious how it fluctuates for other couples.

Happy to answer any questions anyone have 🤣☺️

About once s fortnight
Happy age 65

People having it multiple times a day, are they quickies? Do you not get sore? I can't imagine all the foreplay etc multiple times a day. I am mid 40s and been in a relationship for 25 years. We have sex once a week and it's great and we always say afterwards we should do it more but I can't understand how people don't end up with sore insides!

Oh blimey. It’s been months!! We adore each other, hold hands, go on dates, kisses my head, love spending tone together… he’s just not bothered. I have to tell him it’s been toooo long and he schedules me in 🤣 10 years together.

luckily I don’t mind a wank.

I always find these threads quite depressing. There is always a lot of posters who are unhappy with how little they have sex. I understand there can be reasons for staying in certain situations but it’s just something I couldn’t settle for.

Together 10 years, both early 30s. We average about 2-3 times per week. It can fluctuate, sometimes it can be less if we’re busy.
It can often be a lot more (few times a day) if the kids are having a sleepover with family.
It’s normally at the very least 3-4 times per month.
We’d both definitely like to be having it daily if we could.

I can rarely have sex on my period anymore as they’ve gotten a lot heavier and more painful since pregnancy. We do occasionally though, usually in the shower.
I’ve never tried anal sex. I’d like to but a 3rd degree tear and haemorrhoids post pregnancy put a stop to it…

It can sometimes be sore depending on how long the sex lasts and how erm, enthusiastic it is 😂 TMI but I find after you’ve done it once or twice and you’re slightly tender it can be more sensitive and pleasurable.
I’m guessing it can vary between couples but for us usually the first time will be more dragged out with foreplay etc and the rest will just be quickies.

We only have sex multiple times per day here and there now, but we used to do it constantly pre kids. I think the most was 8 and I wouldn’t recommend it! We were both very sore and swollen afterwards.

3-4 times a week. X

Been together 10 years. Both in our late 30s. For the last few years we've both had major health issues, young children and I also had a very low sex drive for no apparent reason. I researched whether I might be asexual at one point, told my partner to sleep with other people or leave me (he did neither) and I said I have no interest in sex whatsoever. However I do love my partner and a therapist said to me "have you ever had sex with him and didn't enjoy it? Therefore what harm will it do to you to try?" So I have done for all this time and I have never lied it has been enjoyable and made my partner happy. He didn't know that at the points whereI instigated it I was never in the mood until we started. He hasn't pressurised me or shamed me at all. It's been like once every fortnight at the most.

Recently I started taking gummy multivitamins. I've never bothered with vitamins except those prescribed to me in hospital when I have low folate or iron during a routine test. I ordered these adult strength bassets by accident instead of the kids ones and didnt want to waste them. After a week, I stopped getting cystic acne which has plagued me my whole life. I haven't had a spot for nearly 2 months now! My hair is growing back on my temples. After 2 weeks I had a period which I thought had stopped as I didn't have one for 7 months. (I have PCOS and should induce them but was told to skip the pills this time due to being on blood thinners for something else). My period is back again now after a 4 week gap which is the most regular they've ever been in my life. Also - my sex drive has come back. Nothing else has changed in my life - diet, medication, stress levels, activity... The only change is the vitamins. We have been back to the same frequency as we were 10yrs ago. Every day! Multiple times. I feel like something I was lacking in my body made me have no sex drive whatsoever, so that might be worth looking into if anyone is in a rut. Possibly B6 as that helps with hormones.

Gosh! It’s been so long, I think you would need a tin opener to aid entry!

Well I’m in late 20s and I do actually like it if I didn’t why would I do it?
as explained it’s afterwards 😂 not actually the sex

You won’t be 😂😂😂when you end up with a rectal prolapse.

Honestly, I've never gotten any pleasure from sex - different partners/ husbands etc.

This husband was the closest to liking it I've ever gotten but he's stated clearly that he can tell I don't like sex.

So after getting pregnant last August we haven't. I'm 37, can please myself and oral works fine, but actual sex doesn't bring alot of sensation tbh

I'm so glad somebody started this thread, I was literally just thinking about this as everyone always seems to be having loads of sex and I often wonder if I'm completely abnormal 😅
DH and I have been together for 16 years with a 15 month old DD. Before DD it was probably once a month or sometimes less as we both have quite a low sex drive. We're both happy with this but I've always worried about it, more due to other people's expectations than anything else. Since DD was born we haven't had sex once, which we would both like to change but she's a terrible sleeper and we have no family nearby and get so little time to ourselves that we've both agreed we'd rather do something else with that time than sex at the moment 😅 hopefully that will change in time though and we'll go back to how it was before.

About once every 8 weeks no interest

Exactly this

Not for 5 years. No emotional connection in our relationship anymore and that leads to no sex. I'd love for us to be closer but he has no interest in even spending time together. Were the definition of staying together for the kids.

That's hard.

My husband works away, 3 weeks on, 1 week off, so that week off, at least 5 times.

When he works in town, at least 3-4 times a week except when I'm on my period, but even then there is sexual contact.

Those of you who have been together a long time how do you keep it fresh? Or do you find you follow the same routine? Does it get boring?

@totallybonkerswarning if you get pleasure from a wank then maybe a vibrator will enhance sex? Works for me.

DH and I have been together 17 years. I’m mid 40s he’s early 50s. It’s about 2-3 times a week. A mix of 1-2 long sessions and 1-2 quickies before getting up in the morning. We sleep naked which helps with spontaneity and easy intimate contact.

Its more on holidays 😁

Together 16 years, mid 30s, preschool / primary age kids.

For the first 14 years it was pretty dire - sometimes 3+ months of sexlessness. I was really, really unhappy with it but pretty much everything else about the marriage was brilliant. When we had sex it was hit or miss wonderful / terrible. I felt like I'd tried everything to no avail, it was even hard to talk about with DH.

Then it was like something clicked 2 years ago and the frequency began to ramp up. Knowing that we'll have sex again 'soon' has done wonders for the tension and pressure that was there when it was a rare event. We're probably having it 4/weekly when I'm not on my period. I'm so delighted and it's made me a massive advocate for believing that things can change. For so long it didn't seem possible.

That's not actually unusual. The vagina isn't very sensitive for pleasure and most women who orgasm from PIV do so because the clitoris is getting stimulated too. If your clitoris is a long way forward from your vagina, getting the stimulation you need might be impossible. It is is for me.

Once in the last 4 years. Less than 10 times in the last 10 years.

Rubbish but I love him and other than that he is lovely. He thinks he is asexual as this was the reason his first marriage broke up too.

I have just come to terms with it now.

I didn’t know that was even a thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Ok no more anal for me 😂

I think I'm at this stage too.
It's nice to hear of other people in the same situation, I'm glad I'm not alone. Although it is a shitty position to be in.. And I'm sorry you are in it too.

Sorry to read the situations where sex/intimacy is limited or none at all (if this isn't what you want) I was in a similar position with my ex. We didn't have it often and when we did, it was over quick and I hadn't orgasmed so I was still raring to go when it was all over. Luckily it's not like that now, I think my partner would have it everyday but due to my cycle, we seem to have a 2 week period where we have it constantly or atleast 2/3 times if not and then nothing 🤣🤣

Sigh.of relief here that I'm not the only one in the situation. The situation is awful and Id rather the kids see a healthy relationship.