How often do you have sex?

[pinkandblue89]

Nosey Nelly over here but just genuinely curious how often you have sex if you are in a committed relationship?

We go through peaks and lows depending on the time of the month and I was curious how it fluctuates for other couples.

Happy to answer any questions anyone have 🤣☺️

This is so true 😂 the post anal bowel situation is not fun, for a good 24 hours. I suppose it's like an enema 😂

21 months and counting. Depressing as fuck but I've stopped initiating, not degrading myself with another rejection.

Currently pregnant with baby #6, I've not had an entire year not pregnant since 2016 because we haven't been able to keep our hands off one another since we met

This is a toughie - we’re stuck on ‘never’ at the moment because we were TTC so I had my copper coil removed, then I moved jobs so we had to stop trying. Tried the pill for a month but put on 14kg and would wake up crying in the middle of the night, absolutely ravenous, and my moods were all over the place. Tried to get another coil but there’s a copper shortage so…stuck in limbo right now.

Before TTC, probably once a week or so. He’d like it four times a day minimum but I definitely want less! Plus, I’m up at 4.30am for work, and usually go to sleep at 8.30pm. He doesn’t come to bed til around midnight most days, and doesn’t get up until at least 9.30am, so it’s ships in the night lol.

Depends, can be every day. Multiple times a week, once a week. Multiple times a month, once a month.

There is no set pattern.

2/3 times a week, work schedules depending

We aim for once a week, but to be honest it’s often less than that. We’d both like it to be more often but I work shifts and we’ve got a toddler and we’re just so bloody tired all the time!

Hardly ever. Maybe once every 3-4 months. I’ve got disabilities which make me exhausted and since early menopause (aged 37, now 43) just completely lost interest. Tried HRT, made no difference whatsoever.

Lucky you! Its nice to hear stories like this of people finding their soul mates -or whatever you want to call them - early on in life and things working out.

How can that possibly be good for your body? I’m at the age now where I won’t do anything that either causes me discomfort or issues during or afterwards. No thanks.

Not in over 18 months, hate it.

I have a 16 week old that wakes every hour day or night, and seems to detect and scream if I'm not within a meter. So .... not in about 16 weeks 😂 no idea how people have sex after a baby no matter how much we want to!

No it not not fun at all afterwards just like no one told me what it’s like after birth. 😂

Every night. We’ve been married 3 years and have a 10 month old baby. I have a ridiculously high sex drive and would happily have it more

It used to be twice a week. Lately it's about twice a month, mostly because we're both busy, tired etc. Been together 21 years and in our 40s

Probably on average 4 times a month 🤔

Kind of pointless unless we know how people have been together.

Been together nearly 10 years. We have sex most days except when I'm on my period. We've done it 4 times in the last 3 days. I'm in my early 40s , he's mid 50s if that makes any difference.

2-3 times a week. He would love to have more. Sometimes I’m dead and just cba he’s understanding. I love the openness and honesty we have. Sometimes it’s wanting it at the same time. Night before last he wanted it so did I, time we got the kids off to bed he fell asleep. Last night he wanted it, I didn’t. I said I don’t want to do any work 😂 he said no worries, I’ve got a free pass for when you want it and I don’t 😂 we sometimes use an app, highly recommend. Despite not wanting it. Enjoyed it 😁

You think romcom type happiness after 10years is a lie because sadly for you you've not had it. 32 years here and still fancy each other, regular flirting and sex is good. We are each other's favourite person.
I'm sorry you've not had this. But it's not too late if you want to take the risk.

I know several very romcom happy couples

More popular than you probably think

We had our second DS last year. His sleep is not great. DP works shifts where he’ll sometimes finish work at 1am and sometimes be up at 3am, so that combined with me feeling like a walking Zombie probably 2/3 times a month.

Pre second baby it was more like 2/3 times a week. I miss the closeness but I’m just so exhausted and also feel pretty gross in myself at the moment. I had an emergency section so still getting used to this new body.

Hopefully we’ll get back to our usual pattern or some
semblance of it soon.

What kind of app???

February. My Fwb rarely gets freetime and I'm full-time single parent with teens. Its shit as we both have high sex drives.

I’ll try find the name of it but basically is tiered and different higher tiers is more intense. So starts with foreplay kissing touching etc then moves up. It’s timed too so a tease. My partner although a good lover is shit at foreplay and likes to just get into it. The app I love because I get the foreplay element and he has discovered some benefits to slow and steady 😉