Dating Thread 247

[SamW98]

Continued from 246

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Wow, I would be tempted to delete the message with the number before he copies it but impossible on Bumble, isn’t it? Unless you unmatch, then the chat disappears

@Chocolatefreak though it reminded me how at the end of the very first chat with my iron because he told me we matched just when he was about to delete Bumble I said if you are deleting do you want to give me your number I will add you to WhatsApp to be able to continue chatting tomorrow?(it was 1.30 am by then)

and he said let’s keep bumble for now, I will you my number tomorrow, and I remember being exactly like you, thinking FFS!! What is wrong with these men!!
I only suggested for your sake, mate! But I said ok, let’s keep chatting on Bumble, I don’t care.

but 2 messages later while saying goodnight he did provide his number 😁 (however later I found out he had reasons to hesitate that it would be a good idea to proceed any further, anyway, overcame them 😁)

@Chocolatefreak

At any rate a man who gets huffy or defensive (that early on as well!) or “considers” adding you to contacts doesn’t sound like a catch I am afraid

Well I've just given him some time and he's apparently still considering it. I would delete it now but I don't have Mr Beefy's number yet. He does want to meet so I'll delete it once I've got his number.

I think it's to do with the cleavage photo. I think Mr Crash is miffed that my profile pic changed to that one. Not my choice, as I explained. But now he's got the wrong idea.

@RadiantRainbow so did your iron have a different ´front runner' as if were, at that point? Did you overtake

I just saw my ex boyfriend on Bumble 1 week after he ended it and it hurts!!!

Help, feel hideous and questioning our whole relationship now 🥲

What a joke, tell him nah don’t worry! Cheeky bugger

Men are incapable of being alone I have discovered! My ex husband was living with someone 4 mths after we split, my ex boyfriend didn’t wait until we had actually ended our relationship before hooking up with another woman! Even if they don’t want a relationship, they need the attention!

@Bestlife18 it's totally rubbish.

He's said it's made him feel confused and lonely! He realises that our connection was unusual and unlikely to get again.
But still sees no future with me.
I've deleted his number today

@Orchidlie22 he might be on Bumble to distract himself. Hurtful for you but deleting his number is the best thing. How long were you together?

@Chocolatefreak he did say that but he ended it. We were together nearly 2 years. He lied and cheated in that time but crazy why I'm still so gutted x

I've just swiped past Mr shy on my new tinder profile. Did have a quick nosey and he's active on it. I don't know why that's my business or why it upset me..... but it just did 🙈
Wish I wasn't feeling wounded still but I am. Why is it some people just effect us so?

So far all the guys just look like little townies/lads lads and I'm not interested in either 😞

Also... had 6 matches, sent 6 messages. No replies and one unmatched 🙈
Not the comeback I wanted 😂

I’m back on Feeld only because my fwb are so flaky and I want a more reliable and consistent one. But I’m not pursuing and I unmatched one who promised great chat, didn’t deliver and was needy straight away. So I have 2 potentials, one who I was meant to be seeing tomorrow evening but I haven’t heard anything since last night so I’ve asked if he’s still interested - we’ll call him Mr Enigma. Then we have another one who’s really busy right now which suits me as Easter is really busy for me too - we’ll call him Mr TV because he works in that industry.

@Mountainormolehills tell me about Feeld. Is it kind of fetish-oriented? I've heard it's good for middle-class fwb 😂

Left Bumble and Mr Crash immediately WhatsApped me. His chat was very nice and insightful but since his sulky behaviour I've gone odd him a bit.

Meanwhile Mr Beefy has been responsive but not overwhelming. I'm meeting him after work tomorrow.

That made me laugh! I’m not sure it’s middle class but you certainly have to wade through a lot of couples, and people who want group sex, but I have had a couple of short term FWB from it.

Currently Mr TV seems interesting, I recommend being very upfront on your profile. You both need to like each other to match and then either party can message first, I tend to wait if it’s a man as men are lazy enough. A lot of them don’t have the chat and just want to go into WhatsApp immediately but I want to have a bit of chat otherwise it’s not going anywhere for me.

Loads of fetish/kinks on there but equally there are people who just want something casual.

No contact - best thing to help you move on. Have you read Susan Elliott getting past your breakup? It’s really good - highly recommending it for anyone who has gone through this. It got me through.

I love your poem. Thinking about writing a Tinder Haiku myself

He sounds like hard work, and it's such early days. I'd be tempted to throw this one back.

Don't take it personally. A man I know at work separated from his DW in January, they'd been together 20 years and he goes round the office singing that he's ready to mingle and on all the sites. He hasn't even seen a solicitor to start the divorce process, just wants to sleep with "hot young things" (he's in his 40's).

Aww thank you @cassiatwenty 🥰

Arrhhhh help
Just had a match on bumble, within 5 mins of messages, he has asked for a date ...eeeek !!!

Ohh, this guy has just cracked me up
I asked what kind of date he had in mind ?
His answer : few drinks then snog you face off xxxx
I can't stop laughing 😂😂😂

At least he’s honest @librauk 😂