I think I have posted here before about my dating situation on hold till roughly the end of April, and most women (the same as in RL) sensibly advised me to keep my options open and keep dating other people while it's not clear what is happening with this guy. I did do some scrolling on Bumble and it just brought into clear focus how far less interesting everyone looked compared to MY Iron.
Though it's sad and ridiculous to think of him as mine, because even though I have no doubts he was immensely attracted to me in every sense, I myself needed far more time together to be able to decide if he was just good potential or an actual good longer term prospect. It's just that he was the first person in so many years I felt so, so good with and was excited to get to know him further, and then it was all put on hold without any certainty at the end.
The way I operate (seems to be the opposite to many in this thread 😂) is I assume THE BEST until proven otherwise, so I still think we will resume our dating and it will be fun and interesting, but I must say I have started to forget him in 3.5 weeks and it's more difficult to keep focus on the end goal.
Also I have made peace with the fact that if he doesn't re-appear, all it means he wouldn't have been good for me. Because someone who is good for me would need to truly make an effort to overcome all obstacles and circumstantially the situation was so far from simple...but had this vibe about it, that if the person is meant to be/is right for you things would fall into place somehow anyway, despite all odds. Anyway, mentally I have given it till next Saturday for him to re-appear. If he doesn't, he would effectively ghost me which I just don't think is possible 🤔(I know some people might think I am very naive!) To be honest his whatsapp shows he was last online the moment we said goodbye 3+ weeks ago which does make me wonder sometimes if he had lost his phone or threw away the sim card or something...but I think even if, say, he somehow lost his phone/my number (I know he had only one phone, saw it, saw my messages on it etc, but assume he had 2 sims)...anyway, if he turned out that he was so resolutely offline not because he planned to but he lost my phone or his sim or anything, I would just accept it as fate saying wasn't meant to be. I am not into forcing anything. I would say by the end of April if there is nothing I would say I would delete his number/chats but hahaha his number looks like 0719 328328 (not his actual number but once you see it it's impossible to forget!! there is no point deleting it because it's instantly memorable) Anyway, I would not be tempted to reach out, I would think he isn't worth it, so it doesn't matter...
In other news someone very cute locally who I have known for less than a year suddenly made clear he liked me which cheered me up! He is 15 years younger than me though so I really never "saw" him that way, and still probably wouldn't consider anything, but he is fit and fanciable and also intelligent and interesting, to be honest looks wise he is more my type that Mr On-hold...But I think he possibly was a bit tipsy initially when he revealed he was interested, because he came on strong then disappeared, possibly got shy or anxious...or he is into playing games. But in any case it showed me that fit clever men exist in general, they can be interested in me, and it turned my focus to looking forward to a better future again... :)
I did delete Bumble for now but will create a new profile in May if it comes to it...