Dating Thread 247

[SamW98]

Continued from 246

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Saw this on Facebook...maybe we could all start using it😂

@Chocolatefreak Good news then! It seems like things are going okay. It's not a bad idea to see how you both feel, but glad that there are lots or pros with him.

Mr T has been attentive and decent (love decent men!), he's been busy but so have I lately. I think what I'm learning here is that I shouldn't be so passive and wait for ppl to prompt me, but that it's okay to be assertive and talk about myself.

Fab update @LittleFloatingGhost hope it goes well, and well done you for getting back on the apps.
I am off them at the moment while I am playing with Mr ITW my FWB situation.
He messaged me last night to say his daughter could smell perfume when she got home so we have to be more careful but he still wants to meet up when we can but at mine for a bit!
Usually this would send me into tail spin and I would massively overthink it but as I have put barriers up to make sure I don't catch feelings I have just replied 'ok let me know when you are free' think we are meeting up Saturday evening!

@SortingItOut omg that's hilarious 🤣😂😂🤣 I'm robbing this thanks

@LittleFloatingGhost missed your update, that sounds really good! Well done for getting your mojo back, fingers crossed for this one!

@cassiatwenty & @LittleFloatingGhost , when you put it like that it does sound like a bit of dream combo, currently manifesting MAFS, frazzles and a fit academic guy on my sofa 😆

@SortingItOut Love that, so funny!

I had paid for both and felt like a waste not to use it! Hinge is crap this time for me, very slow.

Well I’ve had my first ever match on Hinge and he actually seems normal.

We’ve had a laugh about him being the only man on there who doesn’t spend his weekends up a mountain and he said the only time he enjoys a long walk is if there’s a pub at the end 🤣

He's told me he’s not a great texter and prefers a call so I’ll have a think about swapping numbers as obviously I’m a little scarred by previous experiences.

I also had a match on Bumble who told me I’d previously matched with his mate and he knows about ‘birds like you are like lol’ - funny enough he’s now blocked

I also back on Bumble
Got a notification last night that my snooze period was up
So had a look, so many new faces, including locals, which I have never had before.
So one caught my eye, had a good profile etc.
So gave him a swipe, within minutes match came up
And we chatted for a few hrs, felt ever so natural, not had one like this for a long time, and still chatting this morning 😀

Morning ladies, it's Friday and some of us might be having dates, looking forward to positive updates. @librauk and @SamW98 Those are good news, fingers crossed

Morning
Well not sure , if this is going to go anywhere, shame really, as it was going well lol
Chatted most of yesterday, went over to what's app, he has an interesting job ( tv/film) one I have not come across anyone doing.
As he was at work, was surprised at the amount of communication, I asked him, what he was doing at work, and when he replied what it was , just happened to be one of my favs 😀 he then sent me a short video of the set , was awesome.
So evening chat started to get a little flirty shall we say, why do they do it ?? mostly involving his shower, we had already spoke about meeting up, but then he , invited me round for a cuppa, but I insisted would be better to meet up first, no way was I going round to his , he then proceeded to to say , his busy plans for the weekend.
Last message from him was a ❤️.
Ugh .
He is still on my what's app, so will see if I hear from him today .

Just had a Good morning , message , from him 😊

Hey @librauk that's a nice update. Mr T also works in TV/Film (it's not the same person, I hope 😁), but it's nice he showed you a vid of his set. Good of him to check in this morning too. Let's hope for the best 🤞

@cassiatwenty

Oh I hope not ?? But I think we are in different parts of the country ?

He is very attentive, immediate replies
So we shall see 😊

@asabatt I work in a 80% male company where everyone is super chatty and fun and married. Now you know why some men are single! I doubt that whoever you are chatting to is chattier with others necessarily - they may just be terrible at communication with everyone.

@SamW98 this is really good news. I would absolutely agree, my kind of long walk is one where there is a pub at the end of it. Are you going to have a chat with him? I'd go for it, I know you've had previous v bad experience but surely not again. You deserve a bit of luck with this whole circus!

Wishing luck to everyone else with any dates/chats going on. I had a brutal clear out of all ongoing chat's yesterday and I'm going to hide my profile. Can't seem to do it from my phone for some reason. I'm just done in with it all ongoing chats as I need a break. Mr Happy did invite me out for dinner tonight but my ideal first date is not dinner and it all just felt really full on.

But although I know I need a break I also keep finding myself looking and then getting disappointed so just need to hide/ delete the app for a while I think.

I have moved over to WhatsApp with Mr Academia so he is the one surviving chat!

I am seeing Mr TV tonight, we met on Feeld so it’s obviously more sex less romance but he’s really sweet and thoughtful, communication is consistent and clear so I’m never in any doubt as to what’s going on.
We’ve both intimated that we feel strong potential chemistry/connection but as we’ve not even kissed properly we will have to see.

Hi all!
So I've been enjoying chat with Mr beard this week. My only concern is that it seems he has a much more exciting life then me with holidays etc, I'm a single mum and don't really have any of that 🙈
It's funny because it turns out we actually went to the same ink at the same time!
Anyway, no date on the horizon and I'm too scared to ask 🙈

Hello all, gosh this thread has moved on a lot! Sorry I've not kept up, I was on holiday - and actually had a holiday romance via Bumble! I only went on there because I was feeling down about how I don't really fancy any of my dates.

We were in Italy, he lives in Germany, I'm in the UK. Matched on Bumble as I am going to be in his hometown next month and he was incredibly attractive.

We started talking and got on incredibly well. Moved on to sex quite quickly but that made sense as it was obviously not going to be something serious. He then suggested we meet up while still on holiday and we had the most incredible first date. Connected well, kissed a lot, he was trembling all over after we kissed. I was instantly attracted to him.

We talked about trying to continue meeting up but I think he is now ghosting me 🙄

We talked about trying to continue meeting up but I think he is now ghosting me 🙄

Oh no, @friendswiththemonstera

Sounds like you had a lot of fun though 😉

@blacksocks33 just because someone has a more active social life doesn’t mean they are more exciting or interesting than you!
And FWIW, if he’s interested, he will ask you, I wouldn’t ask him.

So many good updates!

@librauk Oh no! Otherwise we could eat Frazzles together (love Frazzles!), go shopping (love shopping!) and watch MAFS with @mckittens 😁

@occhiazzurri Surely they are not all married are they? 🙏

@Mckittens Yeah, if you need a break, take a MH break. Even if a lot of good things are happening, it can still be stressful for you. In December I got overwhelmed with it. In hindsight, I needed to rest a little. If it's not fun, stop as the thread rules say.

@Mountainormolehills It sounds like you two are both on the same page, good on you

@blacksocks33 Don't worry about it too much, if he is keen on you, that's his choice. I do hope you two go out on a date 🤞🙈

@friendswiththemonstera It sounds like you had a movie-style holiday fling, jealous 💫🙏

I just went out for a shopping spree to treat myself with something nice. I don't want to go out this weekend, I think I need to get some proper rest and a good cry 😅 So overwhelmed with life right now 🥴 But happy things are happening for everyone.

@cassiatwenty we are, ironically I think this might have potential if we are sexually compatible as we connect in every other way so far, we are similarly matched in terms of sense of humour, way of communicating, attachment style and other things that I value, like a similar seniority and ambition, sense of duty added to the fact that I find him very attractive, with an incredibly sexy accent.
But I feel secure enough that if it’s not meant to be then that’s ok too.

@Mckittens

I have swapped numbers with him and said we will chat tonight. I did get a brief message yesterday just asking about my day and telling me what he’s done.
Think the issue I always have is I hate taking on the phone - I have nothing to say. I’m a texter not a talker but men always want phone calls.

Theres one little thing with him that’s in back of mind - he’s got an old rescue dog that he said can’t be left for very long. And he lives 45 minutes away so already in my head I’m thinking he’ll want me to go over to him most of the time. But him staying open minded as it’s only my thoughts he’s not actually said that.

I did slow fade Mr Twee and he’s given up. I don’t like doing it tbh but think before you’ve met ghosting/fading isn’t end of world. He was just too trite for me - I don’t want to stay blessed ffs 🤣

@cassiatwenty unfortunately all age appropriate ones are married.

We have monthly drinks and other social events so I have managed to meet quite a few colleagues and only encountered a few unmarried in their 20s.

I guess the people I work with were quite popular as younger and/or if they ever get divorced as they need good social skills for their jobs and earn high six figures. Not a single divorced colleague in sight though!

Mr T as I’m calling him just messaged to ask what time I’m free to chat later so looks like it’s on