Dating Thread 247

[SamW98]

Continued from 246

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Sorry to hear that @LittleFloatingGhost think having a break from it for a bit is the right course of action.

It made me feel completely and utterly awful about myself after my disastrous month on bumble and hinge so I don’t blame you at all.

Oh morning everyone! Another riveting week ahead.

P.S. If anyone spots Ben Fogle lookalike on OLD please let me know. I'm asking for a friend ofc 😁

sending a virtual hug @LittleFloatingGhost this OLD is just fab when it’s going well and crap when it’s not. Hope your little break is helpful.

@Bestlife18 fab update! When are you seeing him again?

Did we get an update from @mumofoneanddone82 - asking in case there’s another positive update, fingers crossed!

Im currently chatting to 2, Mr Tall, who is kind of an on/off one with me as his comms can be rubbish, not slept/sleeping with but he’s quite chilled which works for me, although I think most likely more friend zone, and then Mr V who is also interesting at comms but very accommodating (best way to put it!) in bed. They’re both about an hour away from me which is a pita but the pickings in my local town are slim to dreadful 😂😭

Hope there are some good dates/chats for people this week.

Hey @Browniesandcustard and anyone else that might be interested in an update. Saw Mr C (that's what I'm going to call him haha)! He came round for food and drinks! We had a great time and he is incredibly lovely! Which I find insanely overwhelming but I tried to roll with it! Woke up feeling very happy and had a lazy morning in bed! I then reverted back to reiterating 'I don't want kids, I don't want to live with someone and I don't want to marry anyone' how romantic haha! He questioned why I mentioned this all, and I said I don't want to get further down the line and would rather be honest from the start! He didn't seem bothered and just told me not to worry and continued being lovely! It doesn't matter what I say, he seems to like me 😂😂 We shall see!

Also sorry haven't kept up with thread past few days. Hope everyone is doing ok and keep swiping and keeping your standards high!!

@Browniesandcustard ohhh sounds like you have some options! Mr V sounds a good 'for now'! Especially if you get all that attention 😂 yes, I dare people around an hour away too! Anyone know my home town would be too close for comfort!

@LittleFloatingGhost I'm sorry that things haven't been going well for you. Blocking someone really is the best option otherwise there is always that temptation to go back instead of moving on.

@mumofoneanddone82 that's good that he wasn't phased by what you wanted. I don't think a lot of men think about things that far ahead TBH.

@Browniesandcustard hope you don't mind me asking, are you looking for more of a FWB? I think I would prefer that but don't know how to look for it without being inundated with sex pests.

@LittleFloatingGhost sorry to hear this, sounds like you have done the right thing by blocking and deleting. Be kind to yourself it's a horrible feeling but really good you had the conversation directly.

The one I should have blocked early on yesterday when he called me beautiful after a few more messaged asked to move the chat off the app so I said yeah no problem I can chat to you via WhatsApp and he started going on about telegram, to which I said no I don't have that and he then said twice to download it so we could chat there.

Errr no, so he has been blocked and deleted. Should have just done it at the first beautiful. Lesson learnt.

It did seem like his first language maybe wasn't English from some of the phrases he used so assuming he wasn't in my locality but overseas and didn't want to give out his phone no as it would have been apparent he wasn't local?

Now this morning some European guy has messaged saying thanks for checking out my profile, almost certain I didn't and that he is is living in the UK but relocating to my city next month and very drawn to my profile 🤦‍♀️

No idea if I am just on a lucky streak being approached by multiple scammers but his Profile actually included 'dear' 😆

I've had to respond, couldn't help myself.

@Mckittens are you on Match by any chance? I'm on Match and Bumble. Yesterday Match was showing that I was a mutal match with all of these people I hadn't liked!

@mumofoneanddone82 & @Bestlife18
Great updates, really happy to hear your dates went so well!

Happy Monday everyone 😊

@ChampagneNightmares yes totally, I had several messages from randoms I'd never looked at saying I'd matched. I wrote back to the first one saying sorry must have inadvertently swiped right, sure you are lovely but you live 350 miles away 😆

Happened several times and then I realised there must be something going on. Mr European is at least saying he is moving to my city though and even though I didn't check out his profile he does sound interesting apart from the use of 'dear'!

If I'm out with pals or have had a wine at home I do sometimes wake up to unknown matches as much more likely to swipe right when under the influence but no alcohol involved this time 😆

@ChampagneNightmares sorry meant yes this was on match!

@Mckittens yeh, I was the same! I had loads of men messaging saying I'd matched with them when I hadn't! It's worked quite well though because I ended up having a couple of nice chats last night!

Omg @Mckittens that sounds like some serious scamming being attempted. That’s awful! What was that on??

@Bestlife18 it was on match, I did wonder whether I should have blocked and reported or just blocked but ultimately just blocked.

I doubt anything would have been done if I had reported as he hadn't actually done anything at that stage other than to not want to use WhatsApp but definitely not right. Bad day for me yesterday what with that and the creepy hello pretty neighbour message in the morning.

Urgh it’s scary @Mckittens

@Browniesandcustard he messaged asking about when I was free, we now have fun and games trying to find a time but our child free weekends match although not next weekend as he has swapped. Bloody typical, but, gives me more time to get to the gym 🤣

@LittleFloatingGhost im really sorry though you should really be proud of yourself that you asked/drew a line under things. At least then you have it in black and white and can move on. Ive always been hopeful in the past but i find when its a hard break, it helps me close that chapter.

@LittleFloatingGhost well done on stating your needs, it’s hard but it would be even harder down the line. You’re not being unreasonable and you should be really proud of yourself

I literally have no matches or conversations going on :( it's so demoralising!!
Tempted to join match but don't really want to have to pay for the same bunch of guys to ignore me!
Ahhh! Hating this dating game 😞

@Bestlife18

@mumofoneanddone82

good to hear of some positive news!!

I had my non-date with a local, such a lovely decent kind guy, but he was SO NERVOUS most of the time it felt slightly exhausting by the end, trying to put him at ease 😐
He was far more lively and funny via chat!!
Anyway, I actually couldn’t tell what he made of it all until he sent a text saying thank you, had a wonderful time.

I thought if it was a bit boring for me (a lot of the time), surely it would have been boring for him too??

But looks like it wasn’t, though it’s not like I am interested in him, to be honest even as a friend I don’t think he will work, so I would rather he didn’t get too attached 😃

@blacksocks33 I hated match. I find it the most depressing (not everyone has the same experience)! Are you on Tinder? It is where I get the best success! (And there is certainly quantity over quality but if you pay you can see who likes you and sift through) x

@RadiantRainbow he probably loved you because you were fun and trying to keep the chat alive (and we're a radiant rainbow) do you think it's worth one more date or was it too painful?

@mumofoneanddone82 awww that’s a fab update! Good on you though for making your thoughts clear, it’s not always easy to do that when you really like someone .

@ChampagneNightmares @Mckittens I’ve had that happen also but on Bumble and not Match!

@Mckittens that's awful 😳 I’d definitely report it another time. Hope you’re ok.

@blacksocks33 I’m on Match and have found it to be really busy tbh, way better than Bumble.

@RadiantRainbow sounds like a date I went on - really hard work and almost like someone else was replying on text for him!!

Hi ladies. I haven't posted much on here but i love reading this thread. It's like a little support group for online daters (and christ we need it sometimes). Its also hilariously funny and relatable...sometimes I wonder whether we're all interacting with the same small pool of dodgy blokes. Anyway I've decided to have one last round with it all... a last hurrah I suppose before I get on with being single. I'm going to update my profile with some fitness pics in the next week or so and see how that works out...

@Bluestarling good luck!!