My husband and I have been together for ten years and married just last year.
We have two lovely little ones together and a beautiful house that we worked hard to get. We don’t mainly struggle for money and are comfortable. So from the outside looking in things look pretty perfect.
However, my husband struggles with being a parent and not having his freedom. He works long hours and exercises most evenings. He is then tired and strugggles with patience and two demanding toddlers that want his attention at the weekend.
I work part time and have the kids as well so it feels like I work full time too. I don’t have time for hobbies at the moment.
We argue about silly things and it turns heated (we never argued before kids)
He struggles with bouts of depression (which is since kids too) and sometimes gets low and says he hates his life. Today he said the main reason he hates his life is me… which obviously hurt and these comments push me further away from him.
I don’t know when I should give up but separating seems massive and scary and I don’t know if that’s the best thing to do…
I’m not perfect but I wouldn’t say such hurtful things. I get very upset and I don’t know what to do now…