My husband shaved

[thirtythirty]

My DH went on a work trip to somewhere quite hot. It got to around 25C so not unmanageable. I noticed on his return he had shaved down under. This is very unusual for him. When I asked him about it he said he did it because he was so hot and he gets sweaty. It didn't really sit well with me but I've never mentioned it again. He doesn't shave normally here in the summer. Am I thinking too much into this? Also when chatting about this trip on one occasion he became very flushed, red faced and very hot which has never happened before. I felt alarmed by this but have said nothing.

I was seeing a married man recently (long story) and he shaved off his pubic hair/chest hair. I was a bit shocked at first as I’ve never been with a man who does this before, but I presumed it was to make his dick look bigger as it was very average to small!

@DrJoanAllenby thats so weird, most humans find shaved growth itchy. I guess you're a lucky odd one.

@thirtythirty you are not overthinking it, he is sleeping with someone else or wants to. Heat excuse is nonsense.

I did feel a little strange about this but I don't think anything is going on between them. He did tell me she had recently broken up with her boyfriend. This did add a little fuel to me feeling uncomfortable.

I think something happened. Men tend to shave their pubes to make their peen look more…….substantial.

I’m afraid to say that after being with my ex for 32 years, he suddenly trimmed his pubes. It wasn’t long before he left me for OW.
Looking back - this was the first clue!!

Many men shave, it's not a gay thing, plus I do know gay men who definitely want an unshaved partner, so shaving=gay is not true

I wouldn't alert him to your thoughts just yet, it's too easy for him to brush it under the carpet, and hard for you to find other evidence. However, if you watch him closely for a while, and can do some phone or computer snooping, there could well be ongoing communications to her relating to it.

of course but it crossed my mind as it is unusual for this man and he did during travelling

New pants? Also a sign.. I'd say something is amiss here, he's tidying himself up for someone else. Call his bluff or sit back and wait (easier said than done). My ExH bought new pants, then joined a gym and so on.. he'd cheated many times, never in a million years did I think he would but he proved me very wrong! He was away a lot and it was easy done, never crossed my mind - I was far too trusting. If the opportunity is there most men will take it, they just think very differently from us.

I don't think shaving due to heat us anything unusual but it is unusual for him so I think you are right to be suspicious.

You know him. You know what's out of character, what doesn't make sense etc.

Gut instinct is very powerful. Not always right but you'll know how accurate yours has been in the past.

I would be concerned if I were you.

It could be online things too - not necessarily that female colleague. A friend of mine has an online domme and she tasks him to shave and do stuff and take photos etc...maybe if he had time away from home, he was more able to do things online from his hotel.

But yes overall it's definitely a sex thing- that's the only reason anyone would remove it all I reckon.

Yep, dodgy AF. My ex also suddenly trimmed his pubes, 3 months before I discovered condoms in his work backpack 😌

I’m sorry OP. 💐

I agree with most PP here. He either slept with his colleague or hoped it was on the cards. Does he have mentionitis about her before or now?

Is he letting it grow back? If not you have your answer for sure. Otherwise, I would trust your gut that something was off about this trip.

Only time one of my partners did this it was because they started seeing someone behind my back.

Don't make excuses for him. Confront him.

Or, hold back on confronting him until you've spoken to a solicitor and worked out your plan of action.
If he's having an affair, he will have his plan worked out perfectly. He has a head start on you, perhaps a year or more.
Lawyer up.

Is it dodgy? I don’t think so.

My husband uses clippers on his armpits and pubes, but 10 years ago or more, he didn’t. It didn’t herald the start of anything suspicious.

I'm sorry OP but it sounds very dodgy to me.
If it's unusual that he did it, and there's been another woman sharing his work trip, he may well have slept with her.

This is exactly what you do. If he’s lying he will fumble over his lies

Don’t say anything. Pretend you’re perfectly happy with his explanation and act normally. Then nose around - at his phone, in his pockets, etc etc.

Bloody hell !
Who wants to look at the last turkey in the shop.
Weird, weird, weird

You've been given an excellent suggestion by @greasypolemonkeyman:

I'd sit him down, completely straight faced and say "you have something you need to tell me about your trip. This is your only opportunity to tell me the truth " and then sit and maintain eye contact and remain silent until he speaks. It will either come out in full or you will see it play over his face and you will know.

Probably wanted to try a shave for a bit and was bored and on his own it’s not as though you wouldn’t notice

Oh...no, yeah honey this wasn't a work trip it was a dirty weekend away.

No way would I have been OK with a partner going on a work trip with just one woman. It's not appropriate. I don't know what company would have okayed this either. It sets them up for all manner of issues.

Oh heck, I think the Pinkbonbon has nailed it.
Sorry. 🤢

Don't confront yet, find out more info