My husband shaved

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My DH went on a work trip to somewhere quite hot. It got to around 25C so not unmanageable. I noticed on his return he had shaved down under. This is very unusual for him. When I asked him about it he said he did it because he was so hot and he gets sweaty. It didn't really sit well with me but I've never mentioned it again. He doesn't shave normally here in the summer. Am I thinking too much into this? Also when chatting about this trip on one occasion he became very flushed, red faced and very hot which has never happened before. I felt alarmed by this but have said nothing.

He actually is the sort of person who is very self conscious about his appearance.

100%. This is the only time that my DH shaved. After that, he never bothered.
Check his phone and any deleted messages.

How old is he? Is the work colleague younger? I think most people under about 40 shave? I don't routinely because I'm much older, but the times I have it's been in anticipation of sex especially at the start of a new relationship. I actually find pubic hair makes things less sweaty, not more...

Are you blind?

How am I going to talk to him about this? I don't have any facts.

@breakingmews do you think only gay men shave?

Hmm. You’re only going to find out if there is something by asking more about it or snooping. (Or both) But there might not be anything to snoop even if something did happen. Pp that recommends interrogation style is prob right, he might crack under direct questioning IF something went on.

Boy, is that gonna itch when it grows back!

Under the circumstances where they felt compelled to socialise together in the absence of doing any work it's entirely possible they had a drink and got cost and she started opening up about her split with her boyfriend, laughter turned to tears, a comforting arm from him and telling her that she's lovely and the boyfriend will regret it and then a more lingering hug and then a kiss and then they turn in for the night and the seed is down for the next day where he shaves his nether regions in preparation for taking things further whilst they have the opportunity.

Or she was the kind that likes sight seeing and made him get off his arse and traipse around and after the first night he decided his pubes needed to go as he was getting very hot whilst walking around.

Only he can tell you.

Why would it itch? I shave everything off my intimate parts and I don't have any itchiness.

Can you ask to use his phone- for some reason or another- and see what his reaction is? The way he behaves may give you some clue.

If my husband did this, I'd know something was up. Trust your gut.

My DH shaves all the time. It looks better (his opinion).

Nothing to do with comfort he says.

So if he's shaved to "look better" that would be a worry.

Also some men shave to make their penis appear bigger.

no
but apparently it is unusual for this particular man to do so

You have to go digging. Don’t let him know you’re onto him though because it gives him time to make up lies and excuses. Get into his email/phone/social media and then when you have a bit of evidence you can present it to him. Or at least approach him to see if he’s going to be forthcoming with you asking him if there’s anything he needs to come clean about.

Men only manscape for to more presentable to the person they’re intimate with. I’ve just asked two guys, my partner and a friend and they’ve said “100% he’s cheating, and it’s probably something new with a younger woman or a woman who is far more attractive than he is”

Is the colleague younger?

oh lucky you!
I hate shaving because it is extremely unconfortable growing back, even on legs and even some waxes cause the same. Maybe it is to do with skin sensitivity.

My advice is to go with your gut. Every time.
If something feels off then the chances are that it usually is.

I would be suspicious. You need to either gather evidence first before talking to him or sit him down and tell him you want the truth of what happened on his trip (as per pp advice).

I hope it is just because he was too hot but unfortunately I don't think it is.

Maybe he wanted to try out the look/ sensation but was too embarrassed to admit it. Seems a leap to assume cheating if you trust each other.

My DP shaved off his chest hair last year - he's never done this before (30+ years)- hasn't made me in the slightest suspicious, it was annoying him in the heat. Wasn't great growing back he says 🤣. In saying that if it doesn't sit riggt with you then you need to say something.

Suggest she comes over for dinner and see how he reacts. His reaction will be telling.

I hate to say it but when my ex husband was having an affair he started completely removing his pubic hair and wearing these weird tiny tight pants despite always been a boxers man. I noticed it and said something and he brushed it off. It did eventually all come out. I'm really sorry. I'd trust your gut with this one. I wish I had.

Yeah that's fine, if it's normal for him, which it sounds like it is. This guy doesn't do it any other time so I think that's a red flag.

I always as a man when it gets warmer make sure my public hair is shaved it definitely helps.