Is anyone In a happy relationship with a male partner who Is thin, slight build and also not tall?

[Whitsta90]

I was wondering if there is anyone who has a small, skinny boyfriend/husband that they are very happy with? I'm 5'8'' which i know by seeing other threads on here would be an issue with some women and maybe not so much with a few others, the only problem is I am also very slight build, which from what I have seen does seem to be more of an issue, especially with also not being of a tall height, i think most women only seem to be attracted to guys on the skinnier side if they are tall as well, the whole thing of not feeling that its manly if your small and skinny etc.

I ask this as i am 33 and have not been in a relationship and reaching the age that i would like to meet someone and have a family. A big reason for my situation is that from a young age I have always been very socially inadequate. I was wondering if my physical stature might have also contributed to me being in this situation, I certainly don't think its entirely down to that, but I was thinking that it might not have helped. Are there any women out there who are in happy relationships/marriages with men of my stature? Anything that would give me a little ray of hope would be much appreciated.

Oh and we met on Bumble. Yes, it is superficial because we probably just focused on the face, and both had active hobbies. I did read the bio but his didn't give much away about himself, was funny though.His messages had good vocabulary and he responded promptly, we agreed to meet quickly - I liked that, no time wasting. My long term ex, I met on Tinder and he had nothing in his bio but again I liked his face and the communication afterwards. Ex was 5ft9 and slender too.

Online dating is superficial but so is all dating unless you start as friends. Pre internet dating, people still focused on looks if they saw someone in a pub or grocery store etc. In fact online dating gives you the option to put your personality on show through photos, bio, messages that in real life doesn't.

On a recent thread asking what people loved about their DH's the number one answer was they are kind. As well as good sense of humour, pulls their weight etc. Not one comment really about height or appearance.

There may be someone out there for you, there may not. All you can do is be yourself.

Height is a daft thing to focus on. Peter Dinklage? I’d shag him rotten.

What makes people attractive is being interested in OTHER people so that they feel like they are the most fascinating person in the room. That is properly seductive. Not height. Or looks really.

My partner is 5 foot 8 very slim and bald. He is wonderful. Very kind. Makes me laugh and I fancy him!

Of course small men can find love, that's how more small men are made. 😁
I have a good friend who sounds very similar to you in a fab relationship (marriage) with a lovely lady (professional musician, he's in tech). They really get each other and are so on each others wave length. That's where good relationships come from.
The women who won't look at someone if they're small aren't the interesting ones for you. But that's ok isn't it.
You just need to find your vibe and the more you accept yourself remember your positive qualities, keep the company of kind people and follow your passions, the more likely you are to meet someone who will like you for who you are

My DH is 5' 8". I am quite small and I take a long time to warm to massive men. I like Cillian Murphy types. Don't let your body hold you back and make you self conscious. It will be exactly what some women will most like.

I'm 6ft 1, my husband is 5ft 5 and a half( always told never forget the half) he isn't slim but he isn't big more in the middle.

We have been together nearly 29 years and have 6 adult children.

Height has never been a factor for me, it's the personality that counts.

Have never wanted to date a man over 5’10. That is the tallest I’d go for. DH is 5’9 and so was my last partner.

DH is quite sporty and I wouldn’t say slim but definitely lean. I have a bigger waist and bigger thighs definitely! Although he weighs a bit more than me.

You can’t do anything about your height but you can improve your self love, your confidence, your conversation, you can work out and build a bit of muscle if you want (lots and lots of short guys in my gym who look great), you can wear clothes that show your personality, have a great haircut, cultivate great friendships and interesting hobbies…. There are many many things you can influence and really those are the things women will be attracted to, your height will not even be a consideration for a lot of women believe me.

Seriously when it comes to it women mostly want a sense of humour, integrity, dependability and honesty over inches.

Are people saying 5’ 8” is small? I wouldn’t class that as small at all.

My partner is barely 5'6, wears a mens size small, and is several stone lighter than i am.
I fancy the pants off him and would marry him tomorrow.

Everyone has a type. Mine is actually small cute men (and I’m not short myself). You will be, without doubt somebody’s type. There is definitely some lovely lady out there for you.
It sounds like you need to work on your self esteem. How about taking up a sport or hobby - rowing, cycling or gym membership.
Good luck!

My husband is 5'8", and slim build. I've never went for tall guys, all of my boyfriends were from 5'6" to about 5'9" or so. I fancy my husband still and love his height/build.

No. Everyone knows that short people have no reason to live, so how could anyone love them?

WTAF?

Know loads of women in relationships with men of this build. They’re well dressed/groomed and quite a few of them are very into athletics, cycling, that kind of thing. Total non issue.

Forget the height/build thing — what do you mean by ‘socially inadequate’?

No typo - he has weighed around the same all his adult life (he's in his 60s now). Not an ounce of fat on him. Very frustrating sometimes, as I gain weight very easily, so it feels really unfair when I see him eating whatever he wants.

All the males of my family are smaller than 5 8''. Most of them are married.
My two brothers went to the gym when the were young and put some muscle on but older generations never did it.

My husband fits your description. The best decision i ever made!

My dh is 5’6, quite a bit shorter then me. I met him after an abusive relationship with a very tall man. So i instantly felt safe with him because of his height. He ‘s the kindest, funniest man i’ve ever met and the best father.

My dad is only 5'8 and a 30" waist, mum and dad have been married 54 years! She's shorter than him by 6 inches

I'd focus on the fact you say you lack social skills. That's more of an issue! Try some meetup groups maybe?

Sounds like the issue isn't what a man looks like but more what you feel you look like. At 5ft 8 you are only a little taller than average. You seem really down on yourself. Plenty of men who are slim and shorter than the average who are in happy relationships. But it sounds like you feel you are the problem?

I'm 5"4 and thin and the guy I almost married was the exact same height and thin. Suffice it to say lack of attraction was not the reason we broke up.

Also - I'm 5ft5 and a size 16 and my husband is 5ft7 and a size small. We've been together 15years. Before my husband, my partner was about 5ft10 I guess and a size XXL. Honestly I don't have a type it would appear!

Sounds like the issue isn't what a man looks like but more what you feel you look like. At 5ft 8 you are only a little taller than average. You seem really down on yourself. Plenty of men who are slim and shorter than the average who are in happy relationships. But it sounds like you feel you are the problem?

Argh, sorry I misread your post and thought you were a woman complaining that you were too tall! Apologies!
So, to reassure you, height doesn't make a difference for many many many women. Honestly. I do think more of the problem might be how you view yourself though - that point still stands!