Is anyone In a happy relationship with a male partner who Is thin, slight build and also not tall?

[Whitsta90]

I was wondering if there is anyone who has a small, skinny boyfriend/husband that they are very happy with? I'm 5'8'' which i know by seeing other threads on here would be an issue with some women and maybe not so much with a few others, the only problem is I am also very slight build, which from what I have seen does seem to be more of an issue, especially with also not being of a tall height, i think most women only seem to be attracted to guys on the skinnier side if they are tall as well, the whole thing of not feeling that its manly if your small and skinny etc.

I ask this as i am 33 and have not been in a relationship and reaching the age that i would like to meet someone and have a family. A big reason for my situation is that from a young age I have always been very socially inadequate. I was wondering if my physical stature might have also contributed to me being in this situation, I certainly don't think its entirely down to that, but I was thinking that it might not have helped. Are there any women out there who are in happy relationships/marriages with men of my stature? Anything that would give me a little ray of hope would be much appreciated.

I have seen small slim guys out in public who are in relationships, being conscious of my own build/height tends to make me only notice taller guys who have partners, i guess its pyschological . I know that this will hold me back in being able to attract certain women whom I might like to have a relationship with, but nobody, even some tall guys I suppose , can't have the pick of any woman they are attracted too. Everybody likes different things I guess

Yes I was thinking of him!

Gave up on online dating years ago, i was as realistic as i could be when i used it but its become far too shallow now

I know lots of short men. The two most attractive men I have ever been in a relationship with were 5ft 7 (I suspect the one was shorter than that.) My father is 5ft 7. I just googled the average height of a man in the U.K. and it says 5ft 10. I am amazed as everyone around me is small!

Good point about Rishi Sunak but if you look like him, please get clothes that fit.

When I met H in 1989 he was under 9 stone (he was 7.5 stone at 18). 5'8" and a 27" waist, 36" chest.

It was something of a milestone last year when I was, for the first time since the mid-70s, lighter than him (he put on weight after he had children, which he always refused to believe me about...)

He's always been stronger than me, though.

You're going to have to work on your feelings of social inadequacy. Have you thought of taking up a slightly niche hobby, like morris dancing or bell-ringing? And be open to a relationship with someone slightly weird (I don't mean alternative, I mean the ones who pulled faces at primary school).

Seriously, your general presentation and how you hold yourself/confidence is more important than your size.

Traditionally my type has been big and tall men but I have had two boyfriend of 5'8 or so and honestly it stops being a factor once we got to know each other. It's the person you are - study confidence, that's what I'd do, and work on that. My current boyfriend is strong for 5'9 and I adore him and he fits me. I'm 5'4.

It sounds like your confidence is holding you back. Confidence (but not cocky) can be a very attractive trait for women. Plus your height really isn't that short, it's average and there are plenty of shorter women, who to them ,you would be tall anyway. Also re.your build, not everyone likes the muscular type either. We all like different things at the end of the day.

You can't change your height so you need to focus on changing your mindset.

They do, and even though it would by lying to suggest being tall wasn't an advantage, like being pretty is for a woman, I doubt there's many people so physically off putting they will never be able to find a relationship. If you're a nice guy and spread your net wide enough, rather than restricting yourself to narrow ideals of your own for women, you'll find soneone.

You're very tall compared to most of the partners I've had...

My dad was 4' 11" 😂.

I think there are plenty of women who are attracted to slighter built men. But what women really want is someone who is comfortable in his own skin. Being kind, considerate, good fun, enthusiastic and willing to try new things, valuing her opinions and ideas - all these things make you attractive also!

My partner of 2 years is 5’7” , 9 stone and simply scrumptious 😋

Me, I’m 5’4” and a size 16. Honestly, I do panic at how beautiful he looks undressed compared to me, and how he could possibly find me attractive.

And on top of that he has the kindest soul of any human I’ve ever met.

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I'm not currently, but my first proper relationship of some years was with a slim guy barely taller than me, god he was gorgeous. Would not put me off at at all. In fact I liked it more than the taller men I dated later.

My DH is 5ft 8 and when we met he was slim built (he was only 20 then) over the years he has bulked out a bit, he’s very fit and runs marathons so still slim but muscular. He has lovely legs! I’m only 5ft 3 so we fit together quite nicely, lots of my friends DHs are quite short too my DH doesn’t stand out

I don't think 5' 8" is particularly small. In fact, my dad's that height and it was the average height when he was a young man. My ex is 5' 8" and he was stunning, an actor and looked like a model.

I've known three much shorter men who were constantly sleeping with lots of women, so I don't think height is much of an issue, despite the stereotype of tall being more attractive.

Slight build might suit shorter men better than stocky, but really attractiveness is about personality and warmth, taking a genuine interest in others, plus, unfortunately, a dash of confidence or at least self-assurance (difficult if you feel insecure).

Like a PP I am a tall woman (5’9) who has always had a bit of a thing for short slight men. I don’t know why. The most beautiful male body I was ever lucky enough to get to know belonged to someone who is my height - maybe an inch shorter - very slim, but not an ounce of body fat on him and very toned - he was like a Greek statue. He did complain once that I crushed him by leaning too heavily on him. He was giving me an orgasm in a cinema at the time so I forgave him the implication that I was too big. My God that man was incredible, and more masculine than pretty much any of the 6 foot plus, hairy, blobby men widely seen in the UK.

Im 5'6, DP is 5'9. He's not thin, but he is slim. I've never been attracted to taller men, especially the big build or gym bod type. Previous partners have been my height or 2 inches taller at most. None of them big built. In real life I don't think every woman wants a tall, built man at all. Different folks different strokes.

I'm not currently in a relationship with a man such as you describe, but one of the happiest and most fun relationships I've ever had was with a man who was extremely slight in build and was maybe about 5'6" tall (I'm 5'4"). The key thing I think, was that his height/build was never a factor or anything I thought much about because he just didn't care about it and it wasn't a thing. He was a confident, fun, outgoing person and when we met I took him at face value and found him incredibly, irresistibly attractive. As others have said, your own confidence level is your stumbling block. Overcome that and you'll find that there are loads of women out there who will be interested in you!

You have to stop worrying about things that you cannot change, it’s pointless and anyway most people would prefer to change something about their physical appearance so it’s not just you

Some women prefer shorter men and some prefer taller same as some men prefer short women and some prefer taller but and the end of the day why worry about it as you can’t change it anyway so it’s just a waste of time and get on with making the best of what you have got

Both of us are 5ft 9 1/2 and slightly built. I totally can’t abide gym bunny or neck ache inducing blokes. Thoroughly amazed our DS is a 6ft Bobby Brazier lookalike but yoga muscles are better than gym over built

I am very tall and built like a tank, and usually gravitate towards men who make me feel a bit more petite. However here is Prince and apart from the fact he is sadly dead, I would ride him like the Emperor’s whore.

I’m 5ft just about and my partner is 6ft 1! I did date a guy who was 5.5 at a push and I also found him very attractive, even though he was slim, he worked out and had great arms 😊 I don’t think you being tall is a big problem either just like me bring short or “petite” as I’d prefer. Love comes in all different shapes and sizes!

I wonder where you get this idea from as the average height in the UK for men is about 5ft9.. https://www.statista.com/statistics/332542/height-of-individuals-by-gender-in-england-uk/

And about 50% of males in the UK are married according to ONS data, with many more in relationships.

So that should answer your question that height is not a barrier to having a relationship or being attractive to women.

It's easy to focus on height as the cause of your social awkwardness and relationship struggles because it's the one thing you can't control (and easy to blame). You'd be better off figuring out what caused the lack of self esteem which you've probably had since you were a child? And working to stop the negative mind talk, maybe with a therapist if you're having no joy.

DP is 5ft8 and slender, though he has muscle and naturally athletic. Never bothered him nor me.

My husband is 5 feet 7, and slight. He's also completely bald. He's gorgeous!