Is anyone In a happy relationship with a male partner who Is thin, slight build and also not tall?

[Whitsta90]

I was wondering if there is anyone who has a small, skinny boyfriend/husband that they are very happy with? I'm 5'8'' which i know by seeing other threads on here would be an issue with some women and maybe not so much with a few others, the only problem is I am also very slight build, which from what I have seen does seem to be more of an issue, especially with also not being of a tall height, i think most women only seem to be attracted to guys on the skinnier side if they are tall as well, the whole thing of not feeling that its manly if your small and skinny etc.

I ask this as i am 33 and have not been in a relationship and reaching the age that i would like to meet someone and have a family. A big reason for my situation is that from a young age I have always been very socially inadequate. I was wondering if my physical stature might have also contributed to me being in this situation, I certainly don't think its entirely down to that, but I was thinking that it might not have helped. Are there any women out there who are in happy relationships/marriages with men of my stature? Anything that would give me a little ray of hope would be much appreciated.

Sophie Dahl and Jamie Cullom spring to mind. Married since 2010 and have children.

Sorry to hear that about your son, re the weights i have had that suggested to me before so i will bear that in mind🙂

Interestingly i very often hear about women your height preferring very tall men which i have always been quite curious about, at my height i am eight inches taller than you and yet i often see mention of very small women preferring men over 6'0'' tall, not sure if that is true or not

I got sooo confused reading this post, I dunno but with it being MUMSnet, I always seem to presume the OP is female and I was wondering what difference it makes if a tall, slender woman also like slender men....
Please can I ask that you state that you are male in your OP, to save me and possibly others from being very confused and having to read half a dozen posts before the lightbulb moment.

Fwiw, I wouldn't see 5'8" as short, and yes I've only ever dated slender men. Never been a fan of muscular builds, or beer bellies either.

I'm 5ft 2 and my husband is 5ft 6, and very slight. I prefer smaller men. I don't want a massive, great big, bloke. Never have. I find my husband attractive, not just because of how he looks, but because he is intelligent, hard working, funny, good to talk to and a brilliant partner.

A lot of women wouldn't choose a man with your build, but clearly some will as otherwise all the short slight men in the world would be single.All it means is that you won't have your pick of the women you might fancy. But thats life isn't it? We can't always have what we want, so you have to play the cards you're dealt the best you can. I'm sure you know this really, as you must see short thin men with partners.

This is true.

Women like confidence. Work on your self esteem first and good luck.

Have you seen a Rod Stewart and Penny Lancaster?

@Whitsta90 well, I can’t speak for other short women, but on the whole I definitely prefer fairly short men. I don’t know why really, I just find myself drawn to smaller guys. Maybe it’s because I don’t like getting a crick in my neck talking to the tall ones! My DH is 5’9” and he’s a bit too tall if I’m honest 🤣. But he’s slim at least 🤣🤣

Yes your right, I did wonder before I posted this whether or not to state my gender as I know the majority of members here are female, sorry about that

I am drawn to taller men, however personality is more important. My current partner is 6ft2, but I've dated men of various heights, mainly under 6ft and one of them was 5ft8.

My husband is your height and quite slight too. I know several men who fit that description (I am Asian so 5’8” is not that short in my part of the world) and none of them have had a problem in terms of their physiques inhibiting their relationships.

I’m 5’7 and DH is a slight 5’8 - I adore him, not only physically but more importantly for all of his many other attributes - he is kind, hilarious, intelligent. Oh and excellent in bed!

Your DH is 5'8 and weighs less than 8 stone?

I really hope that was a typo

My Dad is 5"5 lol, so I wouldn't be here if no women liked short skinny men. Second marriage and has another child with another woman so he's not done bad for himself. He's always been confident though. It's probably a vibe you're throwing off rather than an actual physical issue, your self esteem sounds low. Work on that then start asking women out. You need to be proactive rather than wait for us to come to you lol!

I have always dreamed about being the amazonian princess towering over my male partner! Maybe because at 5'2" it's never been likely to be my reality.

One of the smallest, skinniest blokes I know (must be 5'4" if that) is married to a gorgeous six-foot blonde woman who looks like a model AND always wears heels. They've been together 15 years now.

OP, I get why you might be disheartened if you read too much of the internet and spend too much time on dating apps - seems like it's more socially acceptable for women to be disdainful of short men out loud than any other preference. However that's not real life. I know plenty of men of your height and they've all thrived dating-wise (some of them are definite catches, too). "The best version of yourself" is a very good phrase to bear in mind, but all the tips I have for you are the same as I'd have for a 6'4" guy. Be kind, be respectful, be interesting, be interested, be yourself.

I love short men! I'm 5'8, I don't want a man to be taller than me, if we're the same height we fit together perfectly!

Really what we all are looking for is someone who is decent, respectful, good company and who we fancy too. So you just have to find someone who clicks with you!

Loads of different sorts of men- short, tall, fat, thin etc find partners, just as women do. Look around you at couples in the real world- very few people male or female look like supermodels. The human race would die out if only those considered conventionally beautiful had sex!

I'm 5'10 and a half" and my partner is 5' 6". He isn't skinny, I'd say 'just right'. I am skinny though! We've been together nearly 3 decades. I think you need to be more confident, it's not about your height.

I’m 5ft 6 and my husband in 5ft 8 and slim. Personally not attracted to the big bulky look. My ex was about 3 or 4 inches shorter than me, never even really noticed

OP have you watched One Day? Jonny Weldon who plays Ian is 5'4 and is incredibly desirable in my opinion! Google him!

According to this data, average male height in the U.K. is 5'9 (and it's less in many countries) so while 5'8 may not be 'tall' it's not markedly short either

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Averagehumannheightbyycountry

My DH was 31 when we met and he is 5’8 and very very slim indeed - so much so that he was always the one to climb into people’s houses through tiny windows ( he’s a policeman not a burglar ! ). I’m about the same height , and we’ve been together 31 years and have 6 kids.

He’s kind , totally dependable , has a very strong moral compass , and fiercely loyal to those important to him. And those qualities are more important to me than his stature.

I’m in a happy, twenty year relationship with a man who isn’t “my type”. He is overweight and his face is a bit battered, poor thing. It matters not one whit and as I got to know him I started to fancy him.

I think if you project confidence but not cockiness; show genuine interest in the people you talk to; smile and have a decent sense of humour then you will be able to form romantic relationships. The problem for all of us regardless of sex is that once we are anxious about it or lack confidence in ourselves it affects our body language and behaviour in unhelpful ways. You have to fake it to make it by which I don’t mean you should adopt a fake persona: just breathe and consciously smile and prompt yourself to do what you know you should be doing and would do with someone who knows and likes you already. Avoid telling a new potential romantic interest all your insecurities and lack of success, - don’t lie but no need to give a confession of “inadequacy”.

Have you tried online dating? Do you pick on compatibility as expressed in the bios or just on looks? The way OLD works on so little information and no face to face chemistry is that if you are a “6” and you are only contacting very physically attractive women then you are likely to be passed over as such women are inundated with messages, many of which will be from either very good looking men or men using very good looking profile photos! Some of those men may be attached and cheating or horrible people but at that initial contact and respond stage she doesn’t know that.

I don't think your physical stature contributed to you being single. But it seems your conscious of your height and weight so that's almost certainly been holding you back.

Confidence is absolutely key.

It's hard, especially when you haven't had a relationship. But you really need to find it from somewhere.

My DH is 5'7, formerly bulky and now slim and lightly toned. He's much shorter than me, but doesn't matter at all! In fact, I quite like the shortness, the not needing to be tall and prove oneself to be uber-manly. The secureness in himself.

All the best, I hope on find the right woman.