I’m beyond angry. Just a rant.

[Ihavenamechanged987]

Not sure if relationships is exactly the right place for this but I’m reeling. How could anybody believe this is acceptable!

So guy I’ve known for years and would have said was a friend, albeit one I don’t see often. Both of us have had a rough month so arranged to meet him for drinks tonight with a few other people, strictly platonic. He was aware of this… or so I thought.

Texting earlier to arrange meeting time place etc and he starts to get a bit flirty. I clarify that this is just friends having a drink and a laugh together and nothing else and he agrees but then starts to push it again. Anyway I’ve attached the texts below because I’m speechless and angry.

The gist of the last message which is cut off is him asking if I’m still going! Funnily enough the answer was no with a side of me telling him he’s creepy and rapey. I’ve blocked and will never speak to him again but I’m so angry.

Yeah I’d be showing those to the Police.

Can you please switch off mobile reception for now, and just stick to WiFi ideally on a laptop etc so we can keep you company @Ihavenamechanged987

Report and keep blocking. Do not reply. What a horrible person.

They really can't. They're always orbiting around just in case they might be able to cop a feel or get some sex, even if it's pity sex.

Note Peter predator wasn't interested in any "cuddles" from his male friends was he.

@BBSBAMH he’s not, which unfortunately means there’s more than one of them in the world.

His last message has really hurt me. It was about a personal issue that he knew upsets me and he’s told me that there’s no wonder ‘personal thing’ happens because I obvious deserve it for these ‘self serving’ games. He’s also told me that he deserves better than me and my ‘bullshit’.

I know he’s revolting but he’s just hit me where he knew it would hurt.

I would probably reply in that case, and tell him it's no wonder he has to try and trick women into physical contact because he's an ugly cunt and the only reason you gave him the time of day was because you felt pity for him, being the laughing stock that he is.

I'm impulsive though, it's best to just ignore him.

What an absolute cunt.

I’m really tempted. There’s a lot I could hit him with if I really wanted to bring him down a peg. I just want him to leave me alone though. This is not how I envisioned today going.

If you respond you are allowing yourself to be drawn into his game, as hard as it is, just block & dont respond.

Yeah, defo a creep. Everything is about him.

All a bit incel-ish.

I'd leave him blocked for good.

The best thing to do is not respond at all. No matter how much you want to. It's fuel for a person like this, and you need to not feed it to them.

Report this to the police, I wouldn't be at all surprised if this person has a record already.

My friend was in a relationship with a man who turned like this when she called it off and he would go for hours, keep her up until 4 or 5am with messages. He turned on me when I supported her and he messaged me literally saying 'reply to me, slag me off, fight with me. I love the banter'....

Don't OP, as tempting as it is.

Having been in a similar situation, a text like this worked though.

I've said leave me alone, blocked you and you continue to find new ways to contact me. As you're now veering into stalker territory, the next message you send, the next missed call, if I hear from you again, ever, in any format, I will take every one of these messages straight to the police. This is the last time im going to tell you to leave me alone.

Same.

Don’t, seriously. There is nothing to gain from going there and it may very well backfire.

tell him to stop contacting your and that you will go to the police if he won’t.
And then ignore him / block him.

go to the police if he contacts you again.

Yep. Probably even better than giving him a last warning.

and they can advice OP how to proceed. But OP definitely should not engage or try to “hurt” or insult him via text or phone (aka hit him with anything to bring him down a pay). That’s a really bad idea and could backfire in so many ways!

I won’t message him. It won’t make any difference anyway. He seems completely certain that he’s acting entirely reasonably and I’m evil for not wanting sex/ physical contact with him. I don’t think that level of insanity can actually be argued with.

Do not reply and fuel this guys anger. I would be making a complaint to the police, though, even if he stop as he deserves to be on their radar.

This, exactly. I've experienced this......'what am I getting after all that talking'? This was after my husband died suddenly. Parallel world indeed.

I’m so sorry this is happening to you, you do not deserve it.

I would be logging it with the police. I had similar with an ex partner and in that instance he moved on to stalking me so the police incident numbers proved how many times I had reported abusive and concerning behaviour.

I'd be logging this with the police too.

He is unhinged.

So sorry you're going through this. Do not reply as pp have said it will only spur him on.

God I hate men sometimes. I know they're not all like this but it just makes me despair because there are so. Many. Of. These. Arseholes. About.

The 'xD' alone would be enough to make me block

Yes - safer for you in the future possibly. It wouldn't hurt to type yourself a note if this incident from how the Meetup was arranged and why, included those WhatsApp exchanges plus, if you can, all the numbers he's called you from. IF he contacts you again from the no caller ID number message him back to say leave you alone as you now consider he's harassing you. Include that message into the note you're putting together. You never know whether you'll need something like this in the future if he continues being nasty and persistent and you may well need it if you need to involve the police. And, as annoying as it is, do consider asking your supplier to change your mobile number. Ask any mutual friends, if you have them, why you've changed your number so they don't tell him. 🌹

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this awful man, you don't deserve to be treated like this. I hope you're getting some comfort from the collective outrage here.

I'd keep him blocked but definitely report him to the police. He is likely to do this to other women.

I think the police can serve a notice on him informing him that you consider his behaviour to constitute harassment. Then, if he continues to contact you and you have to take further action against him, he cannot plead innocence or pretend he didn't know he was harassing you.