I’m beyond angry. Just a rant.

[Ihavenamechanged987]

Not sure if relationships is exactly the right place for this but I’m reeling. How could anybody believe this is acceptable!

So guy I’ve known for years and would have said was a friend, albeit one I don’t see often. Both of us have had a rough month so arranged to meet him for drinks tonight with a few other people, strictly platonic. He was aware of this… or so I thought.

Texting earlier to arrange meeting time place etc and he starts to get a bit flirty. I clarify that this is just friends having a drink and a laugh together and nothing else and he agrees but then starts to push it again. Anyway I’ve attached the texts below because I’m speechless and angry.

The gist of the last message which is cut off is him asking if I’m still going! Funnily enough the answer was no with a side of me telling him he’s creepy and rapey. I’ve blocked and will never speak to him again but I’m so angry.

this, he's a sulky dumbass

Urgh.
Worship at the altar of my cock or be damned for all time.

Andrew Tate acolyte & that was his attempt at brainwashing you so you'll obey him?

Ah. The classic “nice guy”. He once listened to your problems so now you owe him sex, obviously, weren’t you aware…? 🤣

Scary how many of these types are around. They really do see relationships as that transactional. For every good deed they do they expect some kind of favour back.

If one of these rescued me from a burning building I’d probably just ask them to put me back. Wouldn’t be worth whatever I’d “owe” them for the trouble.

Euww.

This is the clearest example of an incel I've seen. Lucky escape there.

Demented. Proper incel talk. Frightening how people can get so twisted up that they can't even begin to understand how screwed up their perspective is.

I've never had this reaction before but "incel" is the first term that sprung to my mind too. Sorry you've had a rough month OP and this interaction can't have helped. You dodged a fricking bullet mind! X

Omg awful. What a prick.
Cuddles = sex to men (see also “snuggles”)

Words they can use then backtrack if you don’t respond as they want.

Sex pest.

Reading this actually gave me the rage. What an utter cunt. Entitled, unhinged incels everywhere. I despair I really do.

See also spoon, or wanting to be 'big spoon'

Ughhhh fuck off! Grim.

Yep. It’s shocking how prevalent this kind of attitude is. So depressing.

I blame porn and how readily available it is, with boys accessing it from such a young age.

Yuk. He is no friend OP and you have done well swerving.

Also, from his (ill written) texts, it seems you are far from the only person in his circle to have issues with him.

Justifiably angry, I'd say. You just don't push boundaries with friends. Don't ever get me started on the 'I want/I should get' male/female crap.
Bonus evening free - we'll keep you company :-)

PS I am glad you are angry. A young woman somewhere might be falling for this crap. I despair of the world my little female relations are stepping into.

He's fucking vile and I'm glad you didn't go

Even though this isn't AIBU, YABU to use the word 'rapey'. It's fucking awful and shouldn't ever be used.

I’m starting to get a bit upset. I’ve now received quite a few disconcerting messages from the unknown number and he’s tried to call me three times. I asked him to leave me alone when he called and I spoke to him earlier.

It’s mental. I’m not playing games! I just want to be left alone.

'If you keep harassing me, I am going to report to 101'

And now I’ve received a really nasty one that’s too personal to share. I really could have done without this.

Report him. Fuck this creep. He could be a loose cannon. Please take care.

This is awful

Fairly sure that’s what the ‘family friend’ called it before he rubbed up against me and squeezed my boob when I was about 11.

@Ihavenamechanged987 do you know where this creep lives?

if I were you I’d call 101 and report him. You’ve told him to stop, you’ve made it clear and he has no business doing this to you.

call your provider and get your number changed

Block the unknown number. If he attempts to contact you again, tell him you'll be reporting him to the police for harassment.

Block every number, don't let him take up any more of your time. He's vile and yes, as previous posters have pointed out, a typical "nice guy"

He isn't called Paul Breach is he? 🤢