Dating thread 245

[SamW98]

Continued from 244….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Superawkward lovely update 🤞

@friendswiththemonstera I've always liked tall men but not so many tall men in OLD that fit other boxes as well, so my filter is at least 4 inches taller than me.

@Superawkward happy for you! ✨ hope it continues just as well

I've not caught up on the thread yet but just wanted to jump in & say...

There's a fit man pictured doing the hoovering on Bumble today

Think he must have read the posts from the other day

@Superawkward

Great update keep us posted x

Struggling already with Mr Hi Babe. He literally says nothing except giving cheesy compliments .

Ive asked him a few basic questions and he’s not answered any of them just replies ‘your beautiful’ (sic) and he’s sent 4 selfies already.

Think this one gonna do my head in very quickly

What is it about sleeping well as a value/interest?
Who doesn’t like sleeping well? Have seen it in so many profiles now 🧐

Hahahaa

I’ve had a couple of similar ones.

WHY do they not answer the questions? 🙄
I think unfortunately some are just aren’t very bright.

"Your beautiful" is an instant X for me. Conversation is more important than looks. Bin him!

@SamW98
I went to take a screenshot of a part of my profile just for you, even if it’s outing for men on Bumble reading this thread 😂

@SamW98 hate to say it but Mr Hi babe sounds like he may need to be ditched. It's so depressing!

@RadiantRainbow i figured maybe the ones that value sleeping well are lazier/ more chilled than the ones that are at the top of Everest every weekend. But it's hard to know 🤔

I'm getting better at reading between the lines I think, broad/ open minded =non vanilla? Not open minded world view?

Got someone in my inbox who says they are a good boy and another potential that says they can be assertive when required... presumably these two gems are also highlighting some kind of kink/fetish?

@friendswiththemonstera 👋 too!
I have friends who write to me “hope your well” I am not judging, but for a man to be sexy for me he’d need to be articulate!

I need to join bumble!!!!!

It really does make me feel like replying ‘I prefer insomnia myself’

Honestly some of the stuff in their bios is just so banal they might as well say ‘I like breathing’

This is hilarious 😆

I think they send selfies cos they want pics of you back. With no clothes on.

I was chatting to a bloke last week who was doing to whole 'I want a serious, loving relationship etc'. Soon as we reached an understanding on that, his next question was 'can you send me some pics?'.

I think some men use dating apps as knock off only fans!

😂😂

I hope some men will read this thread and learn what makes women tick.

Actually one really made me laugh in his profile yesterday, but he was 10 years younger and of a different ethnicity/culture, was worried about too big a gap (culturally, mentally) and somewhat regretfully swiped left, was told I missed a match! He was good looking too! (But really way too tall again- for me!)

will attach a screenshot

Hmmm I didn’t realise that 😩 but it makes sense

Though some are just desperate for praise/validation or feel lonely I think, so that’s why the need to share selfies…

First time I ran out of swipes on Bumble, just sat and put the work in 😃😃 swiping away 😆and not one match 😐 yet, anyway

Wondering if I should download another app or maybe create Facebook dating or something…

@RadiantRainbow pretty sure I've seen this kind of bio as well. Where do they copy-paste these from, and do they think they're actually good ones 😆

Anyone used tinder? Opinions please. Or suggestions on other apps. I have bumble which is ok but find most men are quite far away. Hinge seemed slow and same faces going round in circles. I didn’t like match….

I don't know what it is but I have no luck on bumble! I have tinder and hinge. I know tinder has a bad rep, but lot of the profiles I find on hinge too. It seems a lot more popular for people in my distance range!
I haven't tried Facebook yet... not sure I dare 🙈

I honestly think it depends on your area. Like I said to a PP, tinder seems to have a bad rep, but for me, there's way more profiles then on bumble and certainly hinge.
Most of the guys I've met have been on tinder.
Bumble has been very unsuccessful for me so far :(

I’ve never used Tinder. I tried to join but got a message saying I’ve violated their terms and am banned for life. I did contact them saying I’ve done nothing wrong and can they review but just got a ‘computer says no’ the response.

FB dating is ok but I saw a huge amount of friends of friends who I know in passing - including several friends exes

@Poppyzo I felt on Tinder there is more openess. People say what they are looking for and you will see there's a lot more "just for fun" and "short term" - so I think you know where you stand. Do believe what people say with respect to what they are looking for if it's blank take that as a "short term". I actually had more dates through Tinder and people seemed keener to meet. I feel with Bumble because you message first men over value their value. So I preferred Tinder to be honest.

Seems to depend on area, for me hinge wasn't very good. I've got bumble and tinder. I planned to use tinder for travelling, but there was quite a lot people so I'm using it locally for now. But yeah, people are definitely quite open on their kinks and sexual preferences. I have quite a lot of matches but not many men message - maybe they're not the dominant kinds 😆