Dating thread 245

[SamW98]

Continued from 244….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Dear God 🤦‍♀️

What's wrong with them, do they seriously think MILF is a compliment. Another one to delete then?

@blacksocks33 plenty of lazy men on tinder! I'm using it travelling mainly but thought to try at home, and most if the likes are from really unattractive (old looking) men working in not very glamorous jobs (or not working at all). But no pictures of mountains or watersports (except the men that are also on bumble 😆)

@SamW98 I can't believe these messages, like what does he even think you would reply to that? 🤢

On that’s absolutely brilliant - 😆

Just thought I would post to say I'm still reading this thread despite still being happily together with MrsW for nearly 8 months 😊

@SamW98 I was going to say you seem to attract the slightly odd ones but one of MrsW's best friends lives in Ilford which is bordering Essex IIRC and she has had some very dodgy proposals on OLD.
Is Essex the UK capitol of people with strange sexual needs?

🤣🤣 all the sex pests congregate around Essex!

Thanks for clearing that up I can now tell her that it's not her that is the issue 😉

😆 sorry but I'm a few hundred miles away and we definitely seem to have a good proportion of sex pests here as well based on some of the messages I've had in the last month 😂 but I do agree it does seem Essex might be the No 1 hotspot for them.

Great that you are happy with MrsW @WtP 8 months on, thanks for the post, a good reminder that there it can work 😊

Thank you for your kind words 😊
Yesterday was a year since I got dumped from my first post marriage relationship during a holiday while ill, so I know all about feeling shit about yourself.
MrsW & I have had our doubts along the way but so far we have kept the communication open and honest.
We are both widowed so perhaps that understanding is a given where we both have that love for our late partners but still have love to give?
We also are in unison that we want to keep our own houses/lives going.

Im in Essex too! There is no hope…

@Superawkward brilliant! @WtP this is lovely news, so happy to hear.

Mr Bohemian has just messaged me with an audacious proposal...he wants to come and see me on Friday - he has one evening free before needing to be somewhere else early the next morning. He suggested meeting for a late drink and has said he could stay at a hotel. I don't think there are any hotels in my small town and I don't think I'm ready for him to stay over. I did have a date over who slept on the sofa and who was a complete gentleman, but I'd already met him once for a drink and later went on a long hike with him, so had time to feel comfortable with him. Mr Bohemian I've only had dinner with. But out of all my chats and dates recently, he's the one I feel most excited about.

I don't want to be put under pressure, but would be fine if he also slept on the sofa, if I suddenly felt more of a friend vibe. What do you think? I somehow think this is an opportunity to see how decent he is; if he acts huffy/distant if I tell him drink only I guess he will reveal his true colours. Or if he's also happy to see me for drink + sofa with no possibility of anything further, also fine. I guess to be safe I should say drink only. But then, what if second meeting confirms I fancy him and want to bring him home?!

I get this regularly 😅😂😂

My preferences are there for a reason, so I am not compromising 😅

@WtP So pleased it’s still going well!

@WtP I'm glad to hear things are going well for you.

@Chocolatefreak I probably wouldn't have him over at yours just yet. He's mentioned a hotel, let him deal with it.

@Chocolatefreak if he's happy to get a hotel, I'd let him. You could always join him there if you fancy it 😉

@Chocolatefreak yes I was thinking the same, there must be one hotel surely, let him book a hotel and then if you can always decide to join him.

Well I had a busy night, Mr Chatty got back in touch so his date maybe didn't go as well as I had presumed 🤔

Mr basketball didn't message again so I unmatched with him but someone else popped up as well who seems promising but he is younger, not sure how I feel about that.

@LittleFloatingGhost that's a shame about the distance and friend vibes but good that you had a nice time anyway. Someone messaged last night from Belfast. No connection with the city I live in & a flight away 🤦‍♀️

@Mckittens It’s one of those that I was keen to see if I could manage slightly longer, as I have clearly rejected the majority of the men who meet my criteria locally 😅😂😂

But, ultimately they have to live within an hour for anything to be sustainable and successful!

Belfast is lovely, but yep, that’s a stretch too far 😂

Absolutely!!!

I have a date tonight with Mr Nerd. I am so excited and nervous, its ridiculous! Been chatting all weekend over text so hoping it goes well.

Hope it goes well @Superawkward let us know how you get on.

That's brilliant @Superawkward, really hope it goes well, crazy how anxiety provoking it is. Good luck!

Please tell me I’m doing the right thing and stepping away. Only 3 dates in - lively man, kind of liked him - but then I did my homework. Turns out the last relationship he was in of 8 years was with a business partner- in the US- she was married. He has a flat there. He says she had promised to come to UK once her son went to uni. Of course he didn’t and she went back to the husband, except.. my date and her are still in contact as there is one of two businesses they haven’t shut down.. thought it couldn’t get worse ethically but apparently these narcissists look like they found each other. Bullet dodged or am I too hasty to judge - or am I simply walking into a boundaries shit show…? ffs..

@abouttoblowafuckingfuse76 personally I'd trust my gut. If you're not comfortable with it then walk away now.

Ok what would you all do. Matched with a guy who is really my type looks wise. However his first message is

Hi babe 👋❤️🌹xx

Honestly I’m cringing but he’s fit - should I reply and wtaf can I say to that?