I'm going on a 3rd date tomorrow with Mr Pan, who I matched with in late January. Things have been going verrrrrrrrry slowly, as in 1st date was on 31 January, 2nd date last week Sunday, 3rd date this week Sunday. Each date has been great, and lasted 3-4 hours, but it's the times in between dates that have thrown me.
He texted mid week regarding timings for tomorrow, and there's been nothing else; no other calls or texts. It was the same communication style between dates 1 and 2, and when we casually discussed it he said he doesn't really like talking on the phone and is very functional with it (it's for making arrangements, not chit chat or getting to know each other).
He also mentioned on date 1 that he had some other dates already lined up, and that he was going to leave/delete the app we met on (Tinder) ad he'd seen enough, which he seems to have done (unless he just unmatched me lol!).
I've stayed on the apps, but haven't been keen to swipe on anyone else, as I felt the chemistry and connection with Mr Pan was so strong. First man I've felt like this with since splitting with my EXDP nearly 3 years ago,
I'm planning to bring up the frequency of dates and communication styles tomorrow, as seeing someone for only 4 hours a week just isn't enough for me, particularly as he's the only man from a total of 9 in about 8 months who I have wanted to progress beyond date 1 with.
We both have primary age DC, but I'm thinking that if we are going to give it a go, time has got to be made somewhere. He says he has his DC every weekend and works from home, while I have mine every other weekend, and work 4 days a week in office and one day from home.
I'm hopeful he gives me something to work with, as spending my week wanting to hear from him in some shape or form is not good for me! (He initially gave the impression he likes to initiate contact, so I've let it be, for the moment).