Dating thread 245

[SamW98]

Continued from 244….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I don’t think the men on bumble have a clue. They see the word sex and think ‘this will get me a lady 🍆’

I asked one what it meant and he replied ‘I’m hot stuff in the sack baby’

Im sure you are mate 🤣

@SamW98 🤣🤣

Well I have cancelled with Mr Hot. Not had any reply and didn't really expect one TBH.

I am so glad you asked the question! I assumed it meant are basically just after that!

@Bestlife18 to me sex positivity means kink friendly or they think they have a high sex drive so want the same. I'm interested in that kink scene but would never put sex positivity on my profile

I’m so glad someone asked that question as I was wondering!

@Superawkward well done for cancelling I think that was a good call. Have you made plans with Mr Nerd?

@SamW98 you need to be writing a book, you are hilarious, you've clearly had the misfortune of coming across some absolute charmers 😳😆

I've had a couple of messages from ones into BDSM/ fetish stuff and they didn't have sex positivity or I wouldn't have matched with them in the first place so I'm not sure. I definitely give anyone who does have it a wide swerve. I assumed it just meant they want a shag on tap on their terms and if that feeling isn't always reciprocated the other person would be negative/ at fault not them. Also anything goes and again if not received well the other party would be deemed a prude/ at fault 🤦‍♀️

@Mckittens

I wish I could share my single mates WhatsApp group on here to show you the screenshots of the dreadful men me and my mates have encountered on OLD.

And these are men over 50 ffs. My theory is a lot of them were in long marriages and now haven’t got a clue how to speak to women. I reckon they probably think ‘cracking tits love’ is a compliment and are bemused why they don’t get a response 🤣

One I had the conversation of how are you etc? His response - better if I was inside you…
I wish I was joking. I think it is bad flirting. I’m debating about meeting mr younger tomorrow as I’m not sure if he is being entirely honest about age. I’ve also realised he hadn’t got his shit together in life as much as I thought. Plus the probably filtered photos. But I like him other than that!

So just back from my date with Mr Peru. Couple of drinks, then he suggested we go for some ceviche at a nearby Peruvian restaurant. It was amazing food, he was relaxed and normal, decent looking, tall and sporty. Also on good terms with ex wife and shares custody. He's not just solvent, he's comfortable. No spark, but agreeable company. Undecided. Should I give it another go? Does that seem cynical?

I've not had a great week in OLD. Was going to have a date tonight but I wasn't feeling it all week and finally called it off this morning and unmatched/ blocked on whatsapp. Then had been texting with another guy and we were planning a date on Tuesday late night but he hasn't replied to my last message after that. And the likes I'm getting are nothing to be excited about.

@Chocolatefreak what's your definition of "solvent"? I see this is some men's profiles..

I would give it one more go the lack of spark could have been first date nerves. You might find a spark at the next meeting

Just reactivated my profiles on Bumble and Hinge and seems to be a few new faces on there so having a little look. Got a couple of matches already so going to message and see if I get any more luck this time round

SamW98 I hope you have better luck than me, I havn't had any matches in days, nobody will talk to me
And (I was bored today) I counted up to 500 Swipes today, several I swiped Right, & still no matches.

Nothing on the Free site either, although I'm hanging around on there tonight as it's gotta be more promising than Bumble right now!

@NervesOfCotton i am the same, absolutely nothing. It’s only 2 years since i was last on and ive been trying to think back to how it was then! I have pretty much given myself rsi from all the swiping 😂

@Poppyzo grim! I don't know how some blokes can keep a straight face writing all this.

@Chocolatefreak If he is nice company then I would probably meet again. See how it goes. Treat it as a night out with a friend.

@SamW98 good luck! Hopefully you find some matches.

@NervesOfCotton and @Bestlife18 I know exactly what you mean about getting RSI from so much swiping!

I didn't bother with the apps last night. Not heard anything back from Mr Hot after cancelling. Had a nice chat with Mr Nerd last night and we're meant to be meeting next week. He was nice but a few things he said make me think he's married. FFS.

Bestlife18 & Superawkward I've only been on Bumble a few months & this is the worst it's been for me. Usually I'm getting several matches but they just aren't suitable or the matches never reply, but at least I'm getting matches in the first place!

I did have several messages on the free site last night, but they were all so far away, they may as well have been on the moon!

Superawkward What did he say to make you think that he might be married?

@NervesOfCotton are you paying for Bumble? I was hesitant to waste any more cash because I just think it’ll be the same dregs as on hinge!

Bestlife18 I am... I had 2 dates from there before Christmas.

I don't like it on there when I havn't paid though, I hit the daily swipe limit in about 2 mins & then there's nothing to do. And there were still several who I left swiped on who I meant to Right swipe on, yesterday, so I make heavy use of the 'Go back' feature (I just can't get the hang of the swiping the right way in the first place!)

I also used to love the Speed dating. It was by far my fave part of Bumble & I miss it

@NervesOfCotton the speed dating part sounds fun they had stopped that by the time I joined in January!
I have a date today with the guy I matched with 6 weeks ago.
This will be our third date so hoping it might progress further and he might kiss me today...we have taken it slow as we have both been hurt in the past and neither of us are 100% sure on what we actually want but know we don't want to hurt each other!
We get on so well it's crazy and there is a definite connection/attraction there. My friends say I should just stick one on him as we are going to the cinema so plenty of time sat close in the dark....but what if it then gets really awkward!!
I am meeting him in the city near where he lives and I have no rush to get home so in theory if things went really well I could stay over. He says he is embarrassed about his flat as needs bits doing to it and says it's not very homely so I doubt I will be invited back there then!

@Chocolatefreak
sounds like you had a good evening tho’ I would give it another change. I didn’t fancy MrWozfunnest the first time I met him but the sparks suddenly ignited on our third or fourth meeting and (sadly for me) are still there three years later and a year after we split.

2anddone Yeah I got both of my dates from Speed dating. Many on here didn't like it but I loved it!

I had (only 2 but they both turned into long ones) dates with a man last summer, I'm usually not in a rush for that first kiss at all but this one I was just... 'Argh! Why won't he just snog me already!' & I just wasn't brave enough to do it myself! (All went wrong after that but I remember the feeling well)

I hope you have a lovely day, however it turns out. It's nice that you don't have anywhere to be after, sending you lucky vibes for this one