Should I get my seperated wife flowers for valentines

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Well wife separated from I six months ago...married 19 yrs one teenage son..we live in same house together...in the beginning g of seperation was rough....only small talk..she was vivid in getting a seperation agreement..that was for first few months..recently were allot more civil..she does not bring up seperation agreement..I want to get together...and with valentines day coming..not sure to get her flowers or not

Not.

No

Absolutely not

Definitely not. Utterly inappropriate.

No. Unless she has directly said she wants to get back together, do not do this

Your writing is really unclear, but you 'want to get together '?
Nope. Take the hint.

No to flowers.

You say you want to get back together with her, have you actually tried to discuss this with her, or even offered to do joint counselling? Or are you pretending everything is "okay" so she must regret the separation?

No! Yikes! Why on earth would you think that was ok?

No to the flowers, have you actually spoken to her and asked her how she feels about reconciliation?

No. She clearly wants a separation. You buying her flowers is nothing but manipulation.

Definitely not! I won't even get flowers from my own husband!! (Too expensive on V Day).

Only you know the full story, I don't think it's the worst thing, but not red roses - my advice is you need to read the room, do you really think there's a chance of getting back together? If you're genuinely convinced buy the flowers but if you're not sure then perhaps it's best not to rock the boat

Noooooo!

Just because the atmosphere is less tense between you doesn’t mean she wants to get back together with you.

If you want to get back together then have a conversation. If you feel you can’t, have a grown up conversation with her, then you really need to rethink the whole getting back together idea.

Yes want to get together....I never bring up what is your plan concerning us...I know she wants to stay in the house for a few years as it's expensive to find a new house..and we can't buy each other out...yesterday we did a bit of shopping.spent time in the hottub...just figured things are getting better between us..surprised with all saying no to flowers...

Ask her if she considers that you're back together. If she says yes, crack on with Interflora.

I think flowers is a nice gesture…

She’s got a legal document to cement your separation. She’s there because she doesn’t want to move. The house needs sold and the divorce sorted. Surprised that you’re surprised.

I think sharing a hot-tub with you is a bit cruel if she’s not planning a reconciliation and knows you want one. No wonder you’re confused. Bear in mind that she may be able to do these things because she no longer cares about you except as a friend and these things have no meaning for her (which is why it’s cruel of her to do it if she knows you would like to reconcile). But flowers would probably be a mistake.

People are saying no to flowers because you’ve split up. You’re acting as if, you’re still happily married, where buying flowers is normal. The truth is your marriage was at such a bad place that you’ve separated, she doesn’t want you, and you’re only living together due to poor finances. Therefore she’s there due to convenience, not because she is happy with you.

Talk to her.

No

We're definitely not back together...far from it..remember when we she seperated from I 6 months ago..and at that time your pleading begging etc.she mentioned if we were to get together it would not be for at least a year...of course after separating..stopped all begging..given her lots of space..been doing a lot of books councelling..she does not believe in couples councelling..as we've tried before did not work.,shes sees the changes in me since seperation..she mentioned couple of months into seperation that she sees all my changes and mentions it won't last..well 6 months in..my changes are good..and will continue as it's for I..and if it's not for her at least for a future partner

Yes! If you want to get back together this could be your perfect opportunity to encourage a romantic relationship again. A heart felt love letter reflecting your marriage and the last few months could change everything for you both. If there is still love there I would go for it

She's using you for the house. Look into selling it, move out, and rent.

She's rubbing your face in it every day you're living together. You don't owe her anything, she's made it clear what she wants.

So you think a bunch of flowers will result in “getting together”? Grow up.