Ladies in your 30s how often do you and your other half have sex?

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I know there is no right and wrong amount of sex to have. I am in a sexless relationship in my 30s and wondering how normal it is?

We havent been intimate since November 😪

Every day but if I'm honest, I'd prefer 3/4 times a week

I get a bit bored of it every night

4-5 times a week. We both have a similar sex drive.

Haven’t had sex for 7 years I’m only 35 but single, November would be nice 😂

We just had sex for the first time in 6.5 years, (back when I conceived my youngest). Ever since having children my desire to have sex is zero. I used to really enjoy sex before children! DH has been super patient but is pushing the issue now, hence giving it a go recently. I'm 39.

Who does and doesn't have children on this equation

A sexless relationship at any age is fine, if you're both agreed and happy with a sexless relationship. There's no magic number of times a week you should be having sex in your thirties in order to qualify as "normal", you just need to both be on the same page.

One relationship of 5 years - mostly twice a day. We were at it like rabbits!
Another relationship - He wanted it all the time and I mainly avoided it as I no longer fancied him.
I wouldn't put up with a sexless relationship in my 30s. You're in your prime. You should be with someone you want to shag senseless. There's plenty of time to not have sex when you're in your 50s and menopausal!!

I'm 35 but he's a bit older (52) so I'm the one who has a higher drive. We average 2-3 times a week usually. I'd happily go every other day but he works long hours so can be quite tired in the week. There's also 4 kids in the house so alone time is hard to find!

Forgot to add, we've had patches where we went longer without due to medication side effects or depression (me) but we try to ensure we're always quite intimate with each other so lots of cuddling, kissing. Sometimes we just 'make out' like teenagers 😊 works for us but like PP said, you both ideally need to be on the same page

I look at my sex drive now and, wistfully look back at my late 30s and 40s when we had sex at least 5 times a week and it was exciting! 😀
Not having sex for 3 months would require a stern conversation, even at my current elderly age! 🤣

1-2 times a week. Mid 30s, no kids together.

3 months isn’t a sexless relationship lol, sexless would be a lot longer gap. 3 months isn’t that unusual for couple with kids (obviously I don’t know if you have kids or not).

1-2 a week, I'd say. 1 school aged child and a baby.

It's not quite, but it's in danger of becoming one... If you've not had sex for three months (and there's no particular time-limited reason such as illness or an operation) then that can very easily become 6 months... 12 months...3 years...

To avoid that you both need to work out what it needs for you to get back into the habit of having sex....

We have sex 4-5 times a week we have 1 dc aged 8

our ages are 33-39

sex doesn’t have to be routinely the same. There are lots of factors as to why the frequency changes. Work patterns, children, stress etc and if you’re solid and comfortable in the relationship there should be an understanding of this and you should both know that there isn’t anything “wrong” it’s just life. however if it’s an elephant in the room I would address it. Is it not happening because one of you are avoiding it? Are you just not feeling it? (Could be a hormonal imbalance) or do you just not see each other in that way anymore? Whatever it is, just talk.

Around once or twice a week.
Two teens at home.
I personally would agree with you in using the word "sexless" to describe a relationship where you hadn't been intimate since November, because relative to how my relationship is and always has been, it would indicate a change to the norm.
Others however, who have always had a mutually content relationship with having sex only a few times a year might very well see a 3 month gap as the norm.

By you asking here I presume that you feel something is wrong, and that what's important.

I'd say on average twice a week, will just do other stuff once a week rather than full sex also. So I'd say a solid 2.5 per week on avg .
2 kids, toddler and 8yo

We are early 30s

4/5 times a week. 3 small children, married 10 years. 3 months would be a major issue for us, but obviously depends on the reason.

@Notamum12345577 3 months is a long time for me, id like it a bit more frequently

It seems the issue is your partner then. You need to have an open and honest conversation about it.

”(partners name) we haven’t had sex for three months and I just wanted to ask if everything was ok and why you think that’s happened?”

@SKG231 i would like it more, but he has a complete disinterest in sex. We have been together 2 years, and its bothering me now i feel its only going to become more of a problem. I know its not the most important aspect but for me i find it a way to reconnect. Now i just feel less love for him.

I have brought it up with him and to him it isnt an important aspect of a relationship.

3 kids. 5,16 and 17.

2-3 times per week. We are both early 40's with 4 children aged 11-7.

Has it always been at this frequency or was it more to start and has slowly stopped?

Frequency does slow down after the initial high of starting a relationship but not usually to this state.

if this isn’t a routine you’re happy with I’m afraid it’s only going to cause friction and resentment down the road if you chose to stay. Unless your partner is open to really talking about the issue or willing to seek medical help to see if there is a hormonal issue I don’t see how you can continue.

Could he possibly be confused about his sexuality, stressed at work, depressed?