Help, husband pees all over the floor and gets angry when I point it out!

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I'm aware of the male physiology and understand that sometimes things don't go where they should. Do your men pee? Is it your job to clean it up or do they do it?

I am surrounded by boys in my house, I'm trying to teach my kids that it's polite to make sure the toilet is left clean after every use. Got into an argument with husband the other night after he had just used the loo and I went in after him, there was pee all over the floor, I called him on it and he got annoyed at me and said some horrible things and said I treated him like a child! I told him he was disrespectful and how could I teach the boys if this was his attitude. He got annoyed again and stormed off to bed. No, he didn't clean his mess first.

How do I try to communicate that this is not OK. I'm tired of keeping my mouth shut to save arguments. Any help appreciated.

Fuck him. This is his fault, not yours. Any hardship is his own doing. You can’t put up with this because of embarrassment.

He understands what you are saying, he just doesn’t care because he knows you will clean up after him. Your boys are learning a lot worse things from their father.

I regret my answer earlier because I should have said this:

It isn't your job to clean up after him.

It isn't your job to coach him.

None of this is your problem to sort, only this:

Cut your losses.

Fool you once is a mistake.

Fool you twice and that's on you.

Kick the man out. He thinks he has "won" you and trapped you.

Show him you're better and deserve better.

Kick him out and tell him to PISS OFF.

This!
Remind him he didn't like not having you around before, and that if you separate again, it will be permanent next time. He needs to buck himself up or you are done for good. He had a chance and he is rapidly blowing it. 2022 was not that long ago

just disgusting! I will say on the Piss problem, we did have an issue with it here too. My husband would not turn on the ensuite light in the middle of the night as even with the door closed, it lit up the whole bedroom (weird set up with a frosted glass window into the bedroom from the shower) But when it did happen HE cleaned it up not me!! Then he got wise and got a motion activated toilet light that lit up the bowl! game changer! Be that as it may, he never missed during the day when he could actually see the bowl. Train him like I toilet trained kids. Throw cheerios or fruit loops in the toilet every time and ask him to try to sink them as a game! worked wonders for the little boys in my life lol

He has no respect for you at all. How can you live like this? Raise your bar, give yourself the respect you deserve and LTB. In the meanwhile give him no clean laundry, cooked meals or sex. Cook for you and DC only.

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My 17yo DS has never peed on the floor or seat (and if he did he wiped it up as I've never spotted any). He's not even had a male role model to teach him what to do.

Your DH is being a gross toddler. I'd be angry too.

Which of these medical reasons would stop him cleaning it up afterwards?

And which would make him expect his wife to clean up his piss?

Looking forward to your thoughts on this.

He just does not care, does he? Filthy animal! Yes use puppy pads...until you kick him out.

It's not normal op. My dh has never done this. Not once.

There are medical reasons prostate being one. Being a beer drinker every night another.

Oh dear. My husband does pee aside the toilet bowl sometimes, if I find out, he says sorry and cleans up. There is also a massive age difference between us (I'm in my forties). This stuff happens, it depends if it adds to resentment already built up. 😊

Oh dear 😖

Please get his prostate checked

5 of us here. 1 female, 4 males. Everyone sits down for the loo. It can be done.

Haven't got the time for someone like your Piss head of a husband 🙄

My partner sits down to pee.

I could not be with a man who treats me like his support human clearing up after him.

It's disgraceful

he can get his own prostrate checked. OP needs to get shot of him

He'd be cleaning up his own piss. Dirty fucking scrote 🤮

It’s not going to help your relationship but I think I would threaten to shame him on social media if he doesn’t clean up.
My dh does have prostate problems and has never peed on the floor to my knowledge so if he has then he’s cleaning up after himself.

I wish 🤞 I could give your husband a swift kick up the arse,

if he carried on like that with me

He would end up like a glove puppet like sooty on tv back in the day...

He would end up like a glove puppet like sooty on tv back in the day...

🤣😂 oh the imagery! 👍

You deserve to be respected and I don't think you can have love without respect. I'd take some time to really think things through and speak to him about it before you do anything drastic. It isn't fair to your boys to swing back and forth, make your mind up and follow through. Ultimately kids watch and learn a lot and you'd hate for them to think this is a way to treat women so raise your standards and speak up for yourself. It will be hard but you deserve so much more.

Honestly the man doesn't even respect you enough to pee in the toilet properly. Let him go. If you end up never meeting anyone else, it's still far better than being treated like this .