Help, husband pees all over the floor and gets angry when I point it out!

[Unicornsarefab]

I'm aware of the male physiology and understand that sometimes things don't go where they should. Do your men pee? Is it your job to clean it up or do they do it?

I am surrounded by boys in my house, I'm trying to teach my kids that it's polite to make sure the toilet is left clean after every use. Got into an argument with husband the other night after he had just used the loo and I went in after him, there was pee all over the floor, I called him on it and he got annoyed at me and said some horrible things and said I treated him like a child! I told him he was disrespectful and how could I teach the boys if this was his attitude. He got annoyed again and stormed off to bed. No, he didn't clean his mess first.

How do I try to communicate that this is not OK. I'm tired of keeping my mouth shut to save arguments. Any help appreciated.

Do you have another toilet in the house ? One for you and the children and one for him, tell him he gets sole use of a toilet it’s all his, but that includes the cleaning.

I got so sick of cleaning up after my DH shaving and the scum and the mess in the shower, he now has the small shower room my adult daughter and I and any visitors use the main bathroom. He cleans his own, it’s disgusting in there, I absolutely refuse to set foot in there, but it’s up to him.

Anytime I mention anything to him he usually replies with "are you not sick of your own voice" - why are you with this man? Why are you giving up your one and only life to be abused and belittled like this? What are your children learning from this? Why are you in the same house as him? Why are you allowing your children to hear this stuff?

Ask him if he thinks this is how to demonstrate his love and respect for you. If he thinks he can treat the person he loves like this does he think your marriage will last?

Get him to read the article about the cup on the side or something, that ends the marriage. Every single time you clean up his piss it kills your marriage a little but more.

Never in my life have I been with a man who pissed on the floor.

He should be utterly embarrassed and ashamed.

There's is literally no reason for this to be happening.

You don't try to explain an adult why peeing on the floor and splash wee all over the place is filthy, he must know by now.
You are not overreacting. He is dirty and is doing it on purpose. Millions of humans manage to pee in a toilet without splashing everyday in this country, not to say in the rest of the world, unless he is having a shaking problems in his limbs he is disgusting, no only for the pee also for his actitude when you pointed out.

I'm sorry OP but he is gross and disrespectful. Why should you clean up his piss ???

I bet this isn’t the only disgusting/ disrespectful thing he does

👏🏻 I agree wholeheartedly with this.
That is contempt, you do not come back from contempt nor would it seem that he would be interested in trying. Leave him to his filth and his peace and quiet that he wants so much, obviously.

If you pissed on the floor would you expect him to clean it up? If not, why is it different the other way round? Misogyny?

Mine does this too. He says it's not unhygienic because he eats well and goes to the gym so nothing about him is dirty. The was I rectified the situation was by coating myself in the urine using a cloth after wiping it up, then getting into bed next to him. When he asked why i stunk of piss i said its his LOL!!!🤣🤣🤣
NEVER DID IT AGAIN !!!!!!!

That's so grim. All the males in my house always sit down to pee in the house. Domestic toilets are not designed to be used as urinals and should always be sat on. I don't know if you've got any hope with your DH as he sounds incredibly rude, but you should teach your boys to sit down unless using a urinal.

4 boys here and dh. It rarely goes on the ground now (it did!) but I call them back and hand them a spray. I’d love to say they do it without me telling them but I don’t think they would unfortunately

Piss in his car or any other place only he uses, then when he complains ask "are you not sick of your own voice" and DO NOT clean it up.

@Unicornsarefab

Start buying babys nappies and do a star chart for your husband

Treat him like a child another words,

as he is acting like one
it's the most appropriate way to deal with this piss taking 🙄 Twat or this Prick of a man..! ..

Men like this need to be treated like children... punishments are the only thing that works... no washing, no food, no buying things he likes, no sex. Men who act like children, will be treated like children.

Your standards for how you expect to be treated are so low it's shocking. Your sons are going to grow up to be just like your husband. They see exactly how he treats you and it's fucking appalling.

Ask him does he want you to start purchasing incontince pads or and babys nappies to put on the toilet floor 🤔 just in case of usaul spills ?

He has no respect for you and the messages he is teaching his children is atrocious- get rid - he’s a bully.

Put a ping pong ball in the toilet for him to aim at, like you do with a child.

He’s a horrible and disgusting twat. Remove the bad influence on your sons from the home. He can go get a flat and piss all over the floor to his heart’s content.

I’d leave him. He clearly has zero respect for you and is a horrendous influence on your boys. You deserve better

Suggest that he sees a GP for prostate issues. That is one important symptom.

DH and DS aged 12 never wee on the floor . DS aged 8 very occasionally does and I show him how to clean up.
Your DH is a pig . LTB

Keep a cloth beside the toilet for wiping it up. Then leave the cloth on his pillow. Every time.

I'd get him chair-pads for Birthday. Once the aim goes, sitting in front of TV and wetting the armchair comes next.

Better yet, leave the disrespectful bastard to his own dribble.