Help, husband pees all over the floor and gets angry when I point it out!

[Unicornsarefab]

I'm aware of the male physiology and understand that sometimes things don't go where they should. Do your men pee? Is it your job to clean it up or do they do it?

I am surrounded by boys in my house, I'm trying to teach my kids that it's polite to make sure the toilet is left clean after every use. Got into an argument with husband the other night after he had just used the loo and I went in after him, there was pee all over the floor, I called him on it and he got annoyed at me and said some horrible things and said I treated him like a child! I told him he was disrespectful and how could I teach the boys if this was his attitude. He got annoyed again and stormed off to bed. No, he didn't clean his mess first.

How do I try to communicate that this is not OK. I'm tired of keeping my mouth shut to save arguments. Any help appreciated.

I've had this 'argument' before. It goes along the lines of, "There's piss all over the seat, I just sat in it! Thanks very much! It's completely disgusting. I don't piss on the floor or on the seat! You need to aim better or start sitting down."

Maybe this is the approach you should take with him. It's not the way you would speak to a young child about this issue, so he should be okay with it 🙂

I imagine you have said this to him already.

Why do you think I should clean up your nasty ass piss?

We know the reason, that he is being passive agressive and contemptful.

You were able to leave him before. He is still a twunt. Do you really want to spend anymore time with this arsehole?

So grim! In our house all the men sit down to pee. No one stands up to avoid this.

I would really struggle with this behaviour. It's a deal breaker. It's disgusting and unhygienic. He needs to sit and so do your kids! Will save a lot of work.

Well I have 3 males in our house and I've never seen a wet floor that's just plain ugh

Yep, it’s disgusting. He should clean up after himself. I’ve pounded this into my DH as well. I don’t want to clean up your piss!

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It's a shame things didn't work out, but you're not putting your boys through anything. This is on their father and his inability to behave like a decent human being.

As for his financial position when you dump his sorry arse - not your problem. You gave him a second chance and he blew it. Probably just as well he can't afford anywhere nice if he's just going to piss all over the floors anyway.

This, 100 percent. He definitely blew it by pretending to be the man you fell in love with and married. That man may well always have been a lie.

History has given you the perfect retort, "remember why we split last time? Remember how bad you felt after? Well you are behaving the same way again and if you don't cut it out pronto I'll make it a permanent split this time".
That's fair warning, if he gets defensive rather than sorting himself out, you know what to do.

All the men in DHs family sit. No pissy floor. Just teach the kids to sit at home. Then they can point out to Dad he is disgusting.

That calling you out on it, accusing you of treating them like a child, is classic behaviour of someone who knows they are in the wrong. At a calm time, they need to later be questioned about that poor reaction.

I would take his favourite shirt, fold it neatly and lay it down on the pee puddle. Repeat as necessary until he gets the hint.

@FineCotton

You are never too old to leave an Arsehole of an husband like the one you have got,

Just surround yourself with good friends and family who care about you,and carry on with your hobbies and interests and discover more aswell...

It's a thing now that Travel companies have picked up on that of older women exploring the world,
it was on the Internet and news about it,

Rember there a famous Author who started writing writing in her 50s or 60s became successful so much there have been tv series on her stories adapted to drama such as Netflix

Maybe The Handmaid's Tale?
not quite sure

I know in the western world there is unhealthy obsession with cult of youth

Ageing needs to be celebrated too in a different way just like other cultures do such as China Japan ect...

Based on my experience of men's toilets, I wouldn't bank on it!

WTAF? You coated yourself in your DH's piss to make a point? There are easier ways!

@Unicornsarefab

Does your husband pee all over the floor at work or at his parents and friends houses or at public toilets 🚻 then?

Just 🤔 wondering

Did he piss everywhere when he was your wedding reception or honeymoon venue place ?

I don't think so either

I would quietly plan my exit and when you tell him why it is over, mention the pee.

A dog or a cat is easier to to train up than this pissy bloke of yours

I had an alcoholic ex very similar to this

Glad i got shot of the Prick and Arsehole schiopath...

This is a classic way that some men use to show their contempt for women. No-one in my home pees on the floor. Your husband is grotesque and revolting.

I think you should feel more guilty about the truly appalling lessons you'll be teaching sons if you don't leave him a second time for good... You'll be a dreadful role model if you continue to stay.

I realise it's really difficult to end a relationship in these circumstances, but you really must.... if not for yourself, for your children.

To have a room in your house smelling like a male public urinals a lot of the time,
would be enough for me to have thoughts or dreams of how 🤔 to Bury this one under the patio or floorboards type of senerios ect...

It doesn’t matter one jot whether he has a physical reason for his filthy behaviour. It’s totally irrelevant. None of these physical conditions would prevent him from cleaning up his own misdirected urine. He’s just a disgusting, disrespectful slob.

Maybe there is a reason like you suggest, but that's completely irrelevant to this thread.

The issue isn't that he pees on the floor, it's that: a) he doesn't clear it up when he does, and b) is nasty to the OP when she points it out.

I've never lived with men or boys who couldn't pee in the bowl.

He is disgusting to miss and even worse not to clean up after himself.

He must sit down to pee if he cannot control his aim. Simple as that.