Help, husband pees all over the floor and gets angry when I point it out!

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I'm aware of the male physiology and understand that sometimes things don't go where they should. Do your men pee? Is it your job to clean it up or do they do it?

I am surrounded by boys in my house, I'm trying to teach my kids that it's polite to make sure the toilet is left clean after every use. Got into an argument with husband the other night after he had just used the loo and I went in after him, there was pee all over the floor, I called him on it and he got annoyed at me and said some horrible things and said I treated him like a child! I told him he was disrespectful and how could I teach the boys if this was his attitude. He got annoyed again and stormed off to bed. No, he didn't clean his mess first.

How do I try to communicate that this is not OK. I'm tired of keeping my mouth shut to save arguments. Any help appreciated.

What?

put one of his t shirts on the toilet floor and use your foot to flick it on the spillages - just leave it there - try to use a different loo so you don’t have to suffer the smell

He's disgusting and he's teaching your sons how to behave to their future partners

🤢🤢🤢 Seriously ?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2017/10/09/whats-a-urinal-fly-and-what-does-it-have-to-with-winning-a-nobel-prize/

try something similar?

Every time he does this and doesn't clean it up wipe his clean clothes in it and throw them on him.

Does he wear socks/bare feet? I would prime the floor after the boys have gone to bed with lots of water.

JFC, if your marriage ever devolves to this deplorable level, it's already over.

If you marriage has descended into shouting at your wife for treating you like a child because you have pissed yet again and you don't give a shit, I'm not sure there is much left to save do you?

To me if this carried on i would seriously consirder whether i want to stay with a massive Prick like this
A Twat of a man like this,

There is something wrong with him

I am just wondering 🤔 has he been checked to see if he has got some kind of medical disorder of the Penis,
such as his the foreskin being too tight ect?

he needs to be checked out for any kind of medical disorder

If there is?

He will have to have a small op..

What other disgusting habits does he have, bet you have a long list. The pissing on the floor thing is bad enough but just leaving it for kids to walk through with the bare feet would give me the rage.

I would withhold sexual favours until he acts like a domesticated adult.

I don't know why we are discussing ways to stop him doing this when the OP should simply be leaving him because of the contempt in which he clearly holds her.

The man pisses on the floor, is verbally abusive to the OP when she points it out to keep her in her box, and refuses to clean it up…

It’s already dead. I couldn’t stomach that level of disrespect from someone who was supposed to love me.

OP what advice would you give to a friend whose husband pissed all over the floor and refused to clean it up leaving it for her to do. and blew up whenever she broached it?

Do that.

this is the behaviour of an animal.

I’m going to gloss over what a horrid man he sounds, (he is being a really unfair rude bastard) it doesn’t sound as if he’ll change or want to. & you deserve a piss free floor & toilet. So the best I can suggest is chucking a ping pong ball down the loo that he can ‘aim’ at, it sounds stupid but might appeal to his level of maturity, it may not do much for the shake off after if he’s not using tissue, but it might distract him enough that 95% of the piss ends up in the toilet. Good luck. In theory it should float when you flush instead of going down the pan.

I've already posted how unbelievable it is that the op stays in this shit marriage. I'm sure she'll continue to.

Are you serious??

Thank you all for responding.

I am scared to end it, not because I feel threatened but because we did separate in 2022 because his behaviour was appalling and I couldn't win, after we sold our home and bought seperare houses he broke down and apologised for the way he treated me, he told me he had been to counselling and his gp said he had some sort of breakdown. He asked if we could try counselling. We did and he seemed like the man I married again. He told me I could choose where we lived once we were at that stage so I chose my house.

I'm feeling guilty for putting my bots through this not once but twice if I end things! I also feel embarrassed that I fell for his charm and let him weasel his way back into my life. I feel guilty that he's got rid of lots of the things from his property and took out a loan to fix it up and he'll probably struggle financially if we seperate.

But deep down I think I know it's not going to work out and I know I deserve better than this.

I tend not to go for LTB, as i think here people go to that over things that can be resolved.
But - unless you want your three boys grow up into terrible men like him - you need to really think about what to do to prevent that.

Or - pretty soon you’ll be wiping pee of 4 boys/men.

I have two sons - not once have they EVER peed on the floor, left the toilet seat up, or left skids on the seat, not ONCE.

Your husband is foul

So you can’t leave period blood around - but you can leave the odd unflushed turd in the bowl and clean shirts on the floor soaking in piss.

Let us know how it goes.

Tell him he can have a far better read whilst sitting down - whether its for a number 1 or 2 or both.

I am not cleaning up piss after some dirty man who cannot aim. My 7 year old does better. I do not care whether men sit, stand whatever, but I expect a bathroom floor left spotless.

I stayed with my life time friend at Christmas.

Her 81 year old partner has started peeing all over the bathroom floor, and she has told him it's time to sit down as it isn't fair for her to have to clean it up before she can use the toilet. I hope he does as she seems permanently angry and ready to be disappointed :(

I had an ex who used to do that. He didn't lift the seat either so sometimes I wouldn't see it on the seat before I sat down. Fucking disgusting. I would end up screaming at him in frustration. It would stop for a few days, then start up again. I resorted to grabbing his towel or t-shirt and putting that on the floor to soak it up. He would just ignore it lying there.

Scummy bastard is someone else's problem now.

OP his behaviour is probably deliberately vindictive then, lots of little ways of getting back at you. As i assume he never used to piss al over the floor.

find your courage, sort your shit and get away from this disgusting 'man'.

you can co-parent and remember that his mental health isn't up to you, its up to him.