At what age do you think most couples stop having sex?

[feelingstifled]

Just that really. My DH and I had a very long dry spell, but with the help of a supplement (for him) we are now at it daily and we are in our 50’s. Would love this to last.

I thought this!

2 young kids here and have got the quickie down to a fine art. Bish bash bosh, everyone satisfied, job done 😂. Couldn't be bothered with a long session now, would defo rather sleep. But itches still gotta be scratched...

Well that’s a horribly ageist statement.

Because ugly people don’t want sex?

I totally lost interest from about 50. I started the menopause at 45. I'm 62 now and the very thought of it makes me shudder. Just as well I'm divorced really. It is not something that is important in my life.
I'm more interested in spiritual exploration and the natural world, hobbies and friendships.

No.

We're late fifties and mid-60s and also about once a fortnight..its not swinging from the chandeliers stuff anymore but nice and loving (bit soppy!)

This is a very interesting thread.

Re the UTIs: if we don't use a lot of good quality lube for PIV sex then yes, I do get them (in 60s, post menopause, but on HRT). But a really good lube sorts that fine. And we do less of that these days, more oral and anal tbh (sorry if TMI). Works for us. A quickie in the morning can be incredibly invigorating for the day!

I have no desire any more for long soulful sessions with a joint and hours of slow sex and cuddles a la the old days, but I still love orgasms! DH doesn't (yet) need any erection help, but if he does at some point I would be happy to go with the Viagra (when I was in my 40s I had a much older lover, he used it every time and it was great).

Care home staff need so much education on safeguarding the highly vulnerable residents eg dementia from the predators.
I won't derail the thread but some situations, when the older generations meet a like minded, equally able person and they find companionship and choose with sound mind to pursue a sexual relationship, it is absolutely wonderful and heartwarming etc, (ive helped the sweetest older man buy his new found love a valentines card and write it out for her!) I've also told a predatory old man to stay away from a beautiful older lady with quite severe dementia because he was what I'd call in a professional way, " a rapey little cunt" but carehome staff would be like, "oh Lauren calm down she loves the attention", be that as it may, she had no comprehension to choose to have a relationship of any nature with this awful fucker.
(Also I've just realised - I gave of my DC the same name as said rapey little cunt - oh no!😂😂🤦🏼‍♀️)

Possibly my favourite post on MN ever. 👏🏼👏🏼

I am not selling any drugs! Bloody hell. I have a respectable FT job and so does DH.

I am over the moon, because for the past 5 years or so, our sex life had been almost non existent. DH knew I wasn't happy, as I was telling him frequently that I didn't want to be celibate. He ordered the tablets from Numan, and after about 3 months they kicked in. It took so long to work, that I remember telling him just to stop taking them. Thank goodness he didn't.

DH wanted to have sex, but his ED was a barrier, but it was a funk he got himself in - he could get a hard on, but was terrified of losing it, and the over thinking would make him lose it. Because of this he would shy away from sex, because he thought he would fail. It was a terrible cycle. With tadalafil, you take it once a day and you won't get ED. It's better than viagra (in my opinion) because you don't have to take it 30 mins before sex - viagra doesn't allow for being spontaneous.

Sex doesn't have to take ages. We managed a quicky yesterday in 25 mins, between my customers coming and going.

It's interesting to read that you can get this on prescription! I didn't know this! He is paying for his right now. I'm not sure what it costs. To be honest, I'm not sure he would ask the GP for it, as he would be too embarrassed. The number of times I begged him to go to the GP about this - loads - and he wouldn't.

As others have said it's not a supplement it's Viagra (well a similar alternative)!

@feelingstifled is sex only for pretty people?

‘Not sure about couples per se, maybe familiarity can dilute things with age, but l have a widowed friend in her 70s, who is regularly bedding 2 men (not at the exact same time!) on a regular basis, at least one each weekly, both some 10 years younger. She says she would never marry again and her lifestyle keeps her fit and youngish.

l’m in my 40s, and hope l’m still sexually active in my 70s. It’s hard to imagine the need going away.

We managed a quicky yesterday in 25 mins

That's not a quickie!

"and she was so pretty too!"

🤔 yeah cause ugly people don't have sex

So if she was ugly you wouldn't have felt sorry for her?

What a bizarre post

As various posts here demonstrate, many people do grow out of it, and it's not "ageist" to say so. In fact I'd say it's ageist to imply that older people have an obligation to maintain interest in an activity that many are relieved to have left behind.

It's only fairly recently that we've been been expected to continue rooting like rabbits well into our twilight years. This notion was an invention of a certain segment of the boomer generation and their cult of "eternal youth". Before then it was accepted that sex was for the young, and older people were generally happy to fill their spare time with more interesting and dignified pursuits.

If that's a quickie, then I'm guessing your normal sessions are sex marathons 😂

We are 65 and have an active sex life. Maybe it helps that its our 2nd marriage and we actually like each other....

Awful?

Me and DP have sex most days, periods aside, he's 56 and I'm 50, and it's absolutely amazing. We've been together 4 years and sex before him was shite, but now I can't get get enough. Long may it continue

Man here, we’re 65 and still DTD at least once a week. I also masturbate regularly. The need is still strong and happily shows no sign of diminishing.

Menopause has stopped a lot of my friends having sex. Blood thinners stops erectiond so a lot of men give up when they develop heart issues. Some people carry on.

im 50 still very sexually active, long may it continue, however im creaking a lot more these days.

I can’t imagine what sexless marriages can be like, intimacy is like a glue. My friends in mid 40’s don’t seem to bother.

Depends how quick you are! Half an hour tops in this house from beginning to end, can be much quicker if needs must. That leaves plenty of time for other things

@Lwrenagain

I think there's a massive difference between two elderly people who are in sounds mind connecting and, yes, having sex. That's great... heartwarming even, but for those in care homes, it's generally a different matter. You don't generally go into a care home until you have largely lost your ability to look after yourself mentally and physically...

And the thought that STIs are frequent in care homes doesn't imply a few couples who are sufficiently sounds in body and mind getting together, it suggests a fair bit of promiscuity to enable that to happen which would be beyond the ability of most care home residents to willingly engage in!