At what age do you think most couples stop having sex?

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Just that really. My DH and I had a very long dry spell, but with the help of a supplement (for him) we are now at it daily and we are in our 50’s. Would love this to last.

My df & dm carried on until he died aged 81. According to dm 😦

I am in my 60s and I genuinely prefer sleeping rather than sex . Really am not interested TBH .

Who wants it daily, long-term?
OP, don't you need energy for other things on daily basis? Maybe it's just your second honeymoon, after a long dry spell.

Each to their own, but I decided in my late 40s that bothering to go through such motions was undignified and unappealing at my age, and I haven't looked back.

Mind you I'm single. I imagine there's often more pressure to "keep it going" amongst couples, although possibly not much real enthusiasm.

A quick google suggests 54% of men and 31% of women are sexually active in their 70s. Idk why the discrepancy, maybe men are exaggerating (or conversely women are down playing), having sex with women they’re not partnered up to or their partners are younger so don’t appear in this stat.

Having sex every day sounds awful. Would rather be celibate than do it that often!

That’s Cialis. You can get it on the NHS.

There are apparently a lot of health benefits to orgasms from being a mood booster to a lower risk of heart disease.

For me I like to think an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away.

I don't think I've ever though of sex as dignified or undignified. I feel beautiful and sexy during though.

Was sex ever a priority for you, or was it something you felt you had to do?

She has mentioned the drug, not the brand name. I’m sure if she was promoting a specific pill she would mention the brand!

Or she's just a happy woman who wants to celebrate having an active sex life again?

Why is that hard to believe?

I’m pretty sure the enthusiasm would have to be real in order to make the effort once you reach old age! Not everyone has low sex drives.

Fair enough if it isn’t for you anymore, but it’s weird to describe it as undignified.

38-40 :(

The poster said going through the motions was undignified.

That suggests it had stopped being pleasurable or fun, so there's nothing weird about thinking it was undignified in that context.

She actually says "going through such motions" which suggest the act of sex itself is undignified.

Yes that's how I read it.

As you said sex is neither dignified or undignified. Likewise a mountain is neither dignified or undignified. It's strange to label it either.

Having sex every day sounds awful. Would rather be celibate than do it that often!

Reframe that: Having an orgasm every day sounds.. blissful.

I actually think it's an interesting thread. Supplement or not. I got married recently. I'm in my 50s, husband is in his 60s. Not that I discuss my sex life in RL in great detail but I have often said when people who joke about 'newlyweds' that we are too old for all that nonsense. In truth we have a wonderful time and I hope it continues. Even if it doesn't for any health reasons in the future we love each other so we'll figure it out.

Everyone is different.

Sex every day sounds exhausting and unappealing. When do you spend time with your dc, assuming you have them, maybe you don’t, friends, hobbies and relaxing?! I would find that way too onerous.

I assumed it would be 50s, when naturally your hormones ( in both sexes) change and the need to procreate ends.

Although I have no problem being happy for ladies in their 80s etc to be enjoying intimacy - I hope it’s because they want to. I worry about pressure and abuse at that age.

I am happy with my life, contented. I have no need to be a rabbit and enjoy the lack of pressure and just enjoy dh as and when we want to. It works for us, we have a very long marriage.

I said "undignified at my age", by which I meant bothering to pursue a sex life at my age would seem demeaning, sad and a bit desperate. (I should have explained I'm a single gay man who wants to remain single, and seeking recreational sexual contacts is normally expected of men who are young, hormonal and desirable enough to find that worthwhile).

I’m pretty sure the enthusiasm would have to be real in order to make the effort once you reach old age!

Actually as the OP pointed out, in their case there wasn't much enthusiasm until the husband started taking "a supplement".

Good for them, but to me it seems rather pointless to take a drug to make you interested in sex when you're otherwise not interested in it.

I agree, it does feel rather forced and medicated. If he stops taking medication then what? They go back to the way they were. I wouldn’t want to do this either. I hate taking chemicals and tablets. I will listen to my body and decide what is right for me.

Too many people taking a cocktail of drugs for everything in my view. we definitely live in an overly medicated society.

... daily <shudder>

I don't believe any of this.

I'm 35, h is 43. My libido stopped in my 20s

How much time do you think this sex is taking?!

I think a lot of people thought this was some dodgy thread because OP said it was a supplement. It’s not. Tadalafil (spelled this way) is a medication called Cialis; in the US, they even have commercials for it. As another poster said, you can get it on the NHS and it’s for erectile dysfunction. I believe it is prescription only. Of course, the problem is that many men refuse to speak to their doctors about erectile dysfunction so sex stops.

The question about “when do you stop having sex” is usually when you are no longer physically able. Due to severe and worsening health problems, that age was 35 for me, which is absolute shit. But for my grandparents, as much as I don’t wish to think about it too much, they were still enjoying a “full” life until their late sixties when my grandfather got advanced prostate cancer and there was irreversible damage. A lot of people stop when their joints cause them pain, which can be in their late 70s or 80s. But there is SO much that doctors can do to help if there is something getting in the way of enjoying sex, usually (Cialis, Viagra, a few drugs that may help with women’s libido though I know not guaranteed, I think one drug for female anorgasmia, if I’m spelling that correctly, cortisone shots for sore or aging joints, etc). And of course, there is so much more to sex than vigorous or penetrative sex.