Men, what's that one thing that your girlfriend/ partner/ wife does that keeps you committed to them?

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This really.
I'm curious to hear men's version the main reason they are in a committed relationship with their female partners.
Only looking to hear from men.
Thanks

Well I must have married a man who is in the minority then. There is not much feminine about me!

Here is 95% female. The men who do come to ask for advice likely take that advice and disappear; or the amount of male users would rise. And it’s a different question to the one OP says she likes to read. I can tell you a hundred things my husband does that make my day, or make me feel loved. I am committed to him because I love him and we make a good team, and he’s not an arsehole. If I asked him, I’d get jokes back, and then the same answer. Love.

Right now this is the equivalent of going onto a car forum and asking non-drivers why they don’t drive.

I guarantee if the title was "Ladies, what is one thing your partner does that you love" the replies here would be wildly different.

Yes they would. Because that's a different question.

Hardly.

Because the usual crowd have descended to ruin the thread with misandric tropes. Again.
I just asked DP-he said it's because he's bored of his previous harem lifestyle.🤔😂

Wow I really upset some people on here with my response. Which is strange because I do not see being feminine as something to be hidden from or ashamed of but it seems the only way a lot of women here feel they can be equal to a man is acting like one. It's really sad that instead of understanding what I was saying or placing any value on traditionally famanine personality traits and body language they instead laugh at the notion as though it's somehow silly and beneath them. It's just bathed in misogyny I suppose. It's sad that so many are trying so hard to defy gender conventions that they have ended up embarrassed to be seen as famanine. I am not saying all woman are the same or even that all women are traditionally femanine but over compensating (though some clearly are) but it's disgusting that it's shunned and belittled. As though it's something you aren't allowed to be proud of as a woman.

@Anotherparkingthread you should get over to this thread
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4986580-the-pope-says-gender-theory-causes-divisions?page=10&reply=132284259
there's a poster on there talking about exactly this - an internal perception of being female- and no one can work out what it's meant to be, so maybe you can shed some light

You think men don’t like femininity anymore? What about women, do they still admire masculinity in guys or is that outdated and sexist too?

What's femininity?

I have not asked DH but his answer would either be along the lines of "your tits" or "the divorce would wipe me out", depending on his mood.

I asked my dp..
He said 'because I love you, what?'

What's masculinity?

talking about men loving their partners for being feminine is either talking about stereotypes or saying nothing at all

I would hope that my husband loves me for more than the simple fact that I am a woman - as this is effectively what femininity boils down to if you don't mean stereotypes

I would like to think that he was a bit more selective and that I am more than a placeholder that could be filled in by virtually anyone of the same gender

In the same way - there is more to each individual man than his masculinity

There’s never just one thing that keeps you interested in someone, ever.

Perfect answer

Well probably the entire opposite of what you've just asked.

Men don't admire or respect women that ask what men need.

I don't expect her to do anything specific, other than continue to be the woman I fell in love with. I remain committed to her because I figured out at an early age that what you get out of a relationship pretty much depends on what you put into it. Whether it's commitment, trust, happiness, love or feeling appreciated you generally have to give to receive. If you're not getting out what you put in it's probably time to cut your losses but it's worked well for us for almost 30 years.

What's 'the one thing they do'?

Weird question. Commitment isn't dependent on women doing one magical unicorn 'stay with me' circus trick. It's a mutually, emotionally mature decision by both parties.

Cooking nice meals

I'll bite too. I'm a man, although stating a single thing is very tricky as there are many things. A lot of the things have been listed above, partnership, equal, humour, etc. Our relationship is expansive, the sum is much greater than the parts, and together we can accomplish so much more than individually. We came together fairly late and although I was happy enough bumbling along, I'd sort of given up on marriage until we got together.

I suppose if I had to sum it up in one sentence, I would take a quote from the film 'As Good As It Gets', she makes me want to be a better man.

I asked my husband what he did to keep me interested, twenty minutes after reading him this thread, and he said "ineffable masculinity," and I snorted my tea until I coughed, so I think maybe we're perfect?

Well I know what mine likes about me because he has told me I make him laugh and he could never be bored of me apparently because he finds me a little unpredictable. He also says I have never been overweight and as much as I’m sure some will now consider Mr Overcooked Smile a shallow bastard that’s what he has said in the past.

I love yours.

My DH answered “your cooking darling”. 😂

How is it interesting?

There will never be ‘one thing’ that anyone does that maintains a relationship.