Men, what's that one thing that your girlfriend/ partner/ wife does that keeps you committed to them?

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This really.
I'm curious to hear men's version the main reason they are in a committed relationship with their female partners.
Only looking to hear from men.
Thanks

I'm certainly not a journalist. Just an everyday person like most on MN.
I've seen some men come on here to ask questions to help understand or deal with their female significant other better. So, hoping to hear from well meaning men.

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Just came on to be awkward because you said you only want to hear from men, and this is MN one of the only places women's views don't usually get pushed aside in favour of men's. You could at least have posted on the dadsnet board.
But while I'm here, it's a daft question, as the sort of men whose opinions would be valid would give you very personal answers relating to their own partners so not much use to generalise from. The ones who'd give you a bunch of stereotypically desirable female traits, well who cares what they think?

Thank you for this. Really interesting.

How does that answer the question the OP posed?

"Being female in a completely unexplained way" is the one thing that keeps your male friends committed to their partners?

Useful stuff.

Nothing. Your question implies that if she stopped doing something, I'd stop being committed. I love her, so I'm committed to her, unconditionally.

Femininity!
Feel like I've travelled back to the 1950s with that one! 🙄

Reminds me of the joke when the world found out about Arnold Swarzenegger's affair with his house maid.
'What does Arnold Swarznegger seek most in a woman?
Proximity.'

My DH was with his ex for 12 years, never married. She was horrible to him but he stayed for the kids until it got to the point where he couldn't.

He told me he wanted to marry me after 2 months. We were married on our 2 year anniversary. He says he loves that he can be himself with me, I don't judge him and he knows I always have his back. He said it's the first time he's been in a relationship that feels like a proper team. We have similar ambitions and goals in life and similar energies.

No, no - not just femininity!

'Ethereal' femininity.

And if you don't know what that means I guess it's because you don't have it.

From husband (after being assured it’s not a trap, then a “comedy” answer about my bum):

”The same things women want. Chemistry, friendship, love. You’re my best friend and I fancy you. We want the same things. We have a partnership that makes my life infinitely better and fun.”

He then reiterated the bum thing. He’s an idiot but he’s my perfect idiot 😜

I haven't asked DH but I can guarantee that would be his response too.

They're not allow to say 'I want someone like my mum who I can also have sex with'.

For some reason that scares people off. So they spout this claptrap. But we all know what it means. It's like that bloke on you tube who says he wants an 'agreeable' woman 🙄ie never disagree with the big important man.

'Ethereal' femininity.

That's DEFINITELY not it for DH. He likes that I'm kick-arse. Take no shit Adventure Girl. He's a giant black belt with a shaved head and broken nose and has hidden behind me when I'm fighting my corner at times. Doesn't get involved unless he gets the nod.

Some men value strength and bravery. His mum was like that too. And his sister.

Oh, my ethereal femininity brings all the boys to the yard.😀

I chose a man who isn't an arsehole. That's the one thing I did to make sure he'd be committed to me. Does that count?

I have asked my husband what do I do to make him committed:

"you love me...I do everything else"

and: "you're cheerful, I have fun with you and you don'y annoy me that much"

romance ain't dead! 😂😂😂

Jesus

I was interested in this

why has the thread gone to shit

@Nortono because it's silly thread directed at me on women's forum and when we ask men in our lives they answer silly thing

but when you scratch the surface all answers boil down to "men stay committed to women they love" and what makes a man love his partner is generally feeling good in her company and liking her bum (and no, this is not an exaggeration).

My DH said "you put the fear of death in me".

Yes me too.
Wish people would stop derailing.

And no it's not the same as OP posting on Reddit as men there are more towards the early 20s age range (on average of course!), more US than UK (on average of course!) Etc. And Dadsnet is practically dead.

Sounds like an M+S ad

Asking DP, after the obligatory 'Is this a trap?' elicits something along the lines of 'it's not just one thing. It's everything all at once', followed by some general wittering about what it's like being around me. Frankly, it makes me sound like the combination of a superhero and a living nightmare. But he likes it, I guess.

Oh, and I've got great tits, apparently.

Yeah, he's a twat. But he's my twat and I love him. Which is probably what it boils down to at the end of the day - I genuinely like and love him and his being here makes the world seem much brighter. Guess he can feel that, although God knows how sometimes.

'Ethereal' femininity.

There you have it everyone! The answer to him cheating on you is that you didn't float around like a delicate flower enough. Or maybe you farted?

I don't see why people would think this is a weird question.
I think it's interesting, and I'd like a male perspective on this too.
I guarantee if the title was "Ladies, what is one thing your partner does that you love" the replies here would be wildly different.

But to reply -
My (male) partner would probably say "doing a great job at taking care of our children, and keeping a tidy, clean and well presented home"
And he'd get flamed for it on here.