Fab & Glam Part 4 - Spring into Happiness!

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Good Lord people, we've filled a thread up in about 6 weeks!

Anyways, here's a link to the venue Tanee suggested for a picnic:

www.coramsfields.org/index.php

Looks fabulous so let's get planning!

ps: sorry for London/Southern centric take on this but we'll plan hits around the rest of the country too I promise.

pps: Lily, get yer butt on FB woman!

Can you imagine if we all went on holidays together with the P's. There would be 2 in the pub, one in the bookies, one in a lap danicng club and one in hiding somewhere Meanwhile we would be left on the beach with the kids!

Hi all.

Tanee dd is v gorgeous and v polite and well mannered i hope mine are like that at 16.

Lilyloo i didnt notice that dd brought a 2nd pair of shoes along that is so precious a proper girly girl. A gorgeous one at that too and the spitting image of her mum.

Hw i really feel for you its gut renching when they just wont leave off. It does sound like she is acting out cos h has completely blown her off which is a great thing. So terribly hard on you tho. She will trip up eventually.

Tfm if you dont mind id like to email you and tell a few things about my life? Im hoping it will explain why i sometimes might come across as aggressive and maybe spiteful. I dont mean to to anyone. But i may just write it all down and never send it. Then depending on your opinion/advice i will share my whole story with all my teabags.

TFM thank you for your kind compliments. You have made a 50 year old hag very happy !

DD and I will have to start watching her 'double' in Eastenders...

Thanks you lot - you are right - who would want promotion over H .

In some ways i am glad she is 'hurting' and is at last showing it.

Yes TFM i want to break the rules every now and then.

At least this stressing is helping me not to eat everything in sight as i did yesterday .

We have a lovely easter to look forward to and then we are off for a break as a family, so i will continue ranting for a bit longer then put her where she belongs - out of my mind.

Thanks for the lovely words of support.

GU you sound so possitive - it really was great to meet you fwiw you certainly seemed like a fantastic person in control of their life and even though i know you do love dp on some level you dont need him.

Sugar, thank you - aren't I a good parent . I do sometimes ask DD when she's going to start being a proper teenager and banging doors and grumping around the house and screaming that nobody understands her. Things were tough when she was 10 and her father left, she really hated DP and me - I could have done with some MN advice then but I didn't know you existed - but we seem to have come through so well and I find her a delight!

TFM - that would be some holiday !!

Sugar, please, please do share your experience. It's only since i have started 'talking' about mine that I realise it isn't normal. I have always felt like I was living some kind of false life, it's hard to explain really but, like I was putting on an act because how I was on the outside wasn't how I felt on the inside. I would love to read your email. You would be doing me a favour. xx

Tanee, you are welcome, I meant every word. In fact, i think that photo of you and dd should be your profile picture on FB, we can hardly see you on the other one. Its a shame to hide such a beautiful face xx

Lillybubble's dd is a model in the making - and a girl can never have too many shoes!!

oh sugarpear are you trying to upstage me with the eastenders story lines . I am intreged (?sp) now.

You seemed like a woman with a lot on your plate with your brood - not spiteful to me.

Ah, but TFM, if I put that picture on my profile, you'll be able to see that I'm really wearing a rubber mask to hide my hairy biker face!

Agree Tannee - i love shoes and i have passed it onto my dd too.

Nobody commented on my new shoes on sunday .

Tanee, thats the kind of holiday I have had for years. Me on the beach with the kids and P in the bookies

It would be great to have some Teabag company though

Where would my h be? Not sure i want you to answer that one . Actually he is great with kids so would love to stay with them. And we have finally converted him to beaches .

I will go back and have a look at lilybubbles dd, check out the competition

Tanee, there is no way you are a hairy trucker. Stop fibbing!

God! all these beautiful women with Tossers at home/pub/bookies/lap dance bar/in hiding! Do you think there are actually any 'normal' men out there? Do they actually exsist?

I will go back and have a look at lilybubbles dd, check out the competition

Tanee, there is no way you are a hairy trucker. Stop fibbing!

God! all these beautiful women with Tossers at home/pub/bookies/lap dance bar/in hiding! Do you think there are actually any 'normal' men out there? Do they actually exsist?

Mmmm, where would we put HW H. Ahh yes, I know, he can stay on the beach with the kids while we hit the wine bar! Job sorted

Sugar you are way too hard on yourself. you don't come across like that at all. Ever!

I really admire you and I think you have a wonderful personality and are so full of life and energy and happiness. You dealt with what your H put you through with such courage and strength. Seriously, you're way too hard on yourself.

TFM - All the normal men I know have already been snapped up by my friends! I missed the boat somehow!!!
Sugar - I have never thought of you as mean or spiteful, and having met you on Sunday I would have said you were the complete opposite!
HW - you are right, I do love him, but I am finding lately that I have a lot more in my life than just him. I'm putting other things first now and realising how lucky I am to have great friends (you lot included!) and family and obviously my beautiful dc. I have started wondering if gradually the love will fizzle out and one day I just won't want him anymore.
(Great shoes by the way - I noticed

Aah but GU, if you met the P I live you would think he is 'normal'. He would be pleasant and sweet, smiling etc. He has a different face for the public than the one he has for me. A different voice too. So, how do you tell if a man is 'normal' before you get in too deep?

By the way Sugar, you have never come across as spiteful etc to me either. I think you are wonderful and have a great sense of humour. You have shown me nothing but kindness xx

Tfm you may regret that offer will be the longest email in history!

I think maybe i over analize things and i worry i make such a bad impression.

To be honest having read tfm email and meeting you wonderful women who have coped with so much pain and coped so much more dignified than me it stirred up lots of memories and feelings i buried. I saw a counsellor just once in my life and that was it cos exh didnt agree with it.

Im not always the best at explaining myself or my opinions so i think i need to do a big spill it all out. Bless tfm she will regret it! You may have to read it in installments over a week or 10!

Maybe none of them really are normal then TFM - I'm starting to wonder.

Look everyone we have been spotted!!

look everyone we have been spotted

I have plenty of time Sugar I promise to give it my full attention. I know what you mean about things stirring up memories, that is just what happened to me over the weekend. Memories I had long since buried were popping up all over the place, It was like a film going on in my head that I couldn't switch off, hence all the panic attacks. I thought I was losing the plot

In that case i will start tonight. This is a huge step for me i wil be telling all. I never had true friends i could share with. I have some great friends but not ones i could confide my at times hellish life too.

Im hoping this email will be a "cleansing" of sorts take all the bad memories out and be gone with them.

I like being happy and im normally a happy person but march is a miserable time for me anyway.

Right kids dinner is done so they will be barging out like growling animals if i dont go dish it up!

I think your all the bee's knee's

THERE ARE NO NORMAL MEN - JUST EXTREMELY PATIENT, GIVING WOMEN!

And on that optimistic note, I will come out of capitals . I never believe anyone who claims their man is normal. And actually, 'normal' to one might be dreadfully dull or weird to someone else. I know too many women who have claimed to be 'happy marrieds' - but on closer inspection, have gaping holes in their relationships. And I was one of them, once - and so it surprised friends when my marriage broke up, apparently overnight. I would never make such a claim again.

DP saw the books that PC lent me and said, 'What have you been saying about me?' He's been very nice and really quite cheerful since - even poured me a glass of wine last night, instead of hogging it to himself!

And now I am going home to, I hope, a big g&t before we tackle the bedroom ceiling tomorrow! (big holes where the previous owners got carried away when hammering boarding in the attic)