Met this guy through OLD in the summer - clicked straight away.
He's 55 with grown-up kids & I'm 51 with a teenager & 11 year old. He has not met them.
He works in London alternate weeks & I have majority care of my DC so we haven't seen a huge amount of each other - but that has worked for me as I don't have a lot of time & have a good social life as well as working f/t.
He was always been keener than me to start with & went out of his way to see me eg calling in on way home after flight back.
I thought he was emotionally intelligent, good communication& we had plenty sex. He has always been reliable, respectful, very communicative through messages/WhatsApp several times a day.
But the last couple of weeks he's just blown hot & cold - for example we had plans to meet up on a Saturday night & I thought he was heading over, but he didn't show up - messaged the next day to say he'd fallen asleep on sofa.
I couldn't see him the next day as has DC but the next night he came over & stayed over. All seemed ok.
Since then, we haven't seen each other (now 9 days) which isn't unusual - but he's on annual leave so is around.
He's just gone really quiet on the message front a couple of times - 24 hours of non-contact which is unusual.
Then been quite attentive at other times eg lots of messages on Xmas day.
I've just messaged back to say "give me a shout when you're free" as I hate feeling "needy" & don't want to chase him.
I don't have a lot of spare time & have prioritised Saturday nights for time with him when I don't have DC - so don't want to wait around. I hate having to "ask" for things.
Grrrr, bloody men.