Son smashed my NEW fridge freezer and is out of control!

[motorwayrain]

I am extremely down in the dumps and life is pure hell for me and my two younger kids too.

My oldest (son) 16 is an absolute nightmare right now. He was in trouble with the police during the summer and when he started his GCSE year in September he was expelled for fighting and calling a teacher racist names.

I have started to lose my hair. He's extremely threatening towards me. The other day he got right in my face shouting like full on top of his voice f*g and blinding.

Last night the owner of the local asian takeaway knocked on my door saying I should come to the shop. I have never been this embarrassed in my entire life. He took me to his shop and the food counter window was smashed and he said my son done it (he knows me because I've ordered from him in past).

Then the shop full of men started talking about me in their own language and I certainly didn't need a translator to know what they were saying..

The owner said "You are lucky you know me and if you just pay for the damages I won't call police".

Essentially my son and his mates had gone in took food , didn't pay and started being racist and hurled a chair into this guy's food counter smashing glass and ruining food under.

I confronted my son this afternoon (after he'd been out all night). My American style fridge freezer which I had saved up for and we were all looking forward to for xmas arrived.

As usual he started going red and you can literally see steam coming out of his ear before at the top of his voice starts shouting at me. I try standing my ground but he's a large built lad but I'm absolutely petrified but try not to show it when he squares up. my son and daughter both younger run and hide when he kicks off.

He went into the kitchen and grabbed the fridge freezer and smashed it on the floor by pulling it over !! I went in running and he hit his forehead on my nose causing me to bleed.

I'm in tears as I write this. He stormed out slamming the front door (which is coming off the hinges)

Any advice please, my brother said throw him out and call the police but I want to help keep this family together. My other friend who said he needs help.

Ruin Christmas by having them taken into care is a worse outcome, no?

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I work in children’s safeguarding and it will be viewed positively if you call the police and they tell social services but if someone else notifies them (like a neighbour) or they find out when things are more serious then they would be concerned about why you didn’t safeguard the children from him sooner

Evening, everyone. We have some concerns about this thread. We're going to close it to new posts while we have a closer look behind the scenes.

I also think it is slightly worrying that you focus on the fact that your son smashed your NEW fridge freezer in the title of this thread and not that he racially assaulted a restaurant owner and threw a chair, smashing his food counter.

I know the length of a title is limited, but it feels like another example of how you don't quite get the seriousness of your son's actions.

Think logically for a moment.

In what way will Christmas be ruined, what do you need to cancel?

I'm failing to understand why calling the police on your son would result in cancelling your other children's Xmas.